because he is my cousin.. he is very caring person gave me lots of precious gift to me but he not loves me and i always know he not loves me . one day he met his colleague and unintancially he loves her. he become mad to that girl. he is always crying and said to me that he love that girl and always care to her.
our family and his mother were very angry to him that why he cares to another girl and not to me.
that girl also love to my fiancee very very much.
what's answer
2006-06-20 19:48:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't marry him. You both will be miserable.
But, if you do, you both need to accept it and do the best you can. The sooner, the better.
By the way, marrying a first cousin is against the law in many countries because it can lead to birth defects. I would question your parent's choice in this.
2006-06-20 19:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by scavenger_meat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are facing such a hard time. You probably have TOO MANY people telling you what to do and feel right now. You do not say if you love him. I do not think there is a good answer, you will have to settle for the one that does the least damage to you and to him.
Marriage is about commitment, not love, at the begining. However feeling strong infatuation for another may prevent him from making a real commitment to you. Will you both learn to be happy this way? Only you can even guess. Do your best to put other voices out of your head; if you have faith pray; try to talk to him openly, truthfully, frankly, and with great care for each other about this. If you can not have that talk, you will probably not be able to resolve this after the wedding either. Marriage is not magic, you will both be the same people after the weddding as before.
God Bless; I hope your path becomes less painful with time.
2006-06-20 20:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne- LEAVES Military Ministry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't make the announcement harder than what it seems. It sounds like they are understanding to the love the two of you share. You make very convincing arguments considering that you sound like you're financially capable of marrying and responsible enough to take such an important step. The important thing when making this announcement is to be sincere and speak from the heart. If they initially resist to the idea, patiently and maturely explain to them 'why' you would like to get married. Good luck and congratulations.
2016-05-20 08:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very hard this is a very novice answer but follow your heart. Sometimes you have to give up the thing you love the most to make yourself truely happy your family should not be pushing you into this marrige. If you can not defy your family then don't consemate the marraige and have a marrage in secret to two other people that you really love.
2006-06-20 19:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by blue_dragoness5695 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point in marrying a guy who is not interested in you. It is good to marry a person who loves u than whom u love. You must try to convince your parents first telling the facts. Ofcourse it will be painful for you but need to take it.
In your cousin marry you for compulsion and has a secret affair with that girl. you need to think on that angle too.
2006-06-20 19:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to answer your question without knowing where you are living. If you are still living in your native country you should still marry him. If you have moved to a newer country where arranged marriages are not a generally accepted custom then you should tell your cousin that he doesn't have to marry you. It would have also been easier to answer if you had expressed how you feel about your cousin. Do you love him?
2006-06-20 19:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Track Walker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is based on trust, fidelity and love. Right now, you have none. My uncle got married the same way and until today, they are not happy. Yes your parents wanted to married you but the reality is: what do you want?
2006-06-20 19:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by junior's800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to break off this engagement and let him marry the other girl. Do you really want him to imagine its her in his bed instead of you? Go find love for yourself and try for happiness. This is the 21st century...its time to make your own choice in husband instead of letting your parents.
2006-06-20 19:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious issue and I think u should talk to ur parents as well as ur cousin's parents...make them understand the seriousness of the situation and they can stop 3 lives getting ruined...talk to them NOW..
2006-06-20 19:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Deep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take alot of courage, but break off the engagement. Better that than get entangled in an unhappy marriage.
2006-06-20 20:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by G.V. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋