Well last Thursday I was promised a date of either going out to eat or me cooking dinner and watching a movie. Then perhaps something afterwards ;-) I've been with this guy off and on for 5 years. 3 years was strictly dating. Sunday we got in a huge fight about his obsessive gaming and ever since he hasn't really wanted to talk to me at all. Now tonight I really lost my fuse because on my way out I wanted to give him a hug but he was so mad he didn't want one, so I knocked his action figures over.. (again he's 21, as am I) and I left his place. Later I saw him for a bit but he was still mad but it seemed we could be civil towards eachother and he even gave me his great hugs and poked my tummy like he does. It seemed better and now he works from 9am til 10pm two jobs, and there's a little time between the two. He said he wasn't sure what was gonna happen if we gonna talk much after those blowouts.
2006-06-20 19:46:59 · 9 answers · asked by pizzagirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is there anything I can do just to let him know I really do care and want things better again. I use to be a lot nicer than I have been lately. I've been so bitchy lately and really give him a hard time. It's not me and I just think there's a reason why I've been taking out a lot of things on him. Is there anyway I can do better for next time if I get very upset? Is there anything I can do to show him I care and will do better if I am having a bad day?? I'm having a hard time controlling my temper and we really do have something great going...but the way I've been lately is taking us on a one way street to a forever break-up with a lot of nasty hard feelings. I've tried counceling but I have a hard time admitting to the counceler everything. Anything I can do??
2006-06-20 19:49:51 · update #1
Is he an online gamer? RPGs? Console gamer? You could always ask him what game he plays the most, and ask him to show it to you. That's good on multiple levels. He gets to sound like the expert, as he know doubt is in that arena, and he also knows you are going out of your way to show interest and spend time with him. The other bonus is that you might actually enjoy it! :) Even if you don't, the gesture might not go unappreciated. (We hope.) I hope that works out... poking your tummy is a good sign!
Edit based on your edit: ;)
Seeing the counselor was a good idea. If you're not comfortable enough with that particular counselor, you can always try someone else! But if you think it's just you and that you have trouble opening up, just keep at it! Let the therapist know you're having trouble opening up and try to be as plain, honest and direct as possible in order to get the most out of the sessions.
Let your boyfriend know this, too. I mean, you don't have to tell him everything you tell your therapist, that's a special and private relationship... but tell him you're going, and why you are going. He may well see this as another positive move from you, another move that shows how much you care and how far you are willing to go in order to fix things.
I have no way of knowing how much of the trouble is coming from your boyfriend's side of things, but ultimately, the best thing you can do is to keep your side of the street clean. To loosely paraphrase Gandhi, be the change you want to see in the relationship. :)
2006-06-20 19:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by JStrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes things aren't met to be. You have people that the smallest things could make them want to cut you off forever. This guy really seems like he happy in his current situation. He has his own place, he works 2 jobs, and he's content playing video games. Really having someone he has to report to like a "girlfriend" is extra and he could do without.
A man is content with just having someone they can have sex with with no commitments. You've probably just ruined any chance for anything other than sex between the two of you and you just need to accept it. You messed up, so learn from it and move on.
2006-06-21 02:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by purrlywhites 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shud have asked this question from a guy rather.. ok, lemme try giving u some tips... the first thing, he shud be having some day off... get close to him, jump on his waist like a monkey and give him a tight hug and a french kiss... roll out ur toungue in his mouth and take him on the bed... why I am sayin this thing is becase SEX IS THE ULTIMATE STRESS BUSTER. go for it, he really need it, but do it on his day off. revert back on bornmischiefin at yahoo.co.in
2006-06-21 02:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by Goldy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the guy and care enough to change things, you have to do something for him that will mean a lot. If he is a gamer, buy him a game, for example. Do something comepletely random that he will really like. That will make it hard for him to be mad at you.
2006-06-21 02:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mark F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IfIf this guy is about PS2 and action figures then find someone who can pay attention to real life you, and not fantasy people.
2006-06-21 02:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by robcowiemustdie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't waste your time on a 21 year old man that has action figures, not unless you still have barbie dolls
2006-06-21 02:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me the real issue is the obsessive gaming. to be blunt i'd rather go out with a heroin addict, than a gambler.
2006-06-21 02:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by bentley f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you're gona end up cheating on him if you don't end it now...
2006-06-21 02:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
self help tip--- write it !!!! poems, stories, one liners..... writting things down and rereading over and over until you can grasp your feelings really helps....... God bless
2006-06-21 02:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋