Is it right for my mom to make me keep a bar of soap in my mouth as punishment?

Question

Whenever I get in trouble for swearing or talking back, my mom puts a bar of soap in my mouth and makes me keep it there until she says so. I can't stand that punishment.

Whenever I get in trouble for swearing or talking back, my mom puts a bar of soap in my mouth and makes me keep it there until she says so. I can't stand that punishment. I always have to keep the soap in my mouth for a real long time :(

Whenever I get in trouble for swearing or talking back, my mom puts a bar of soap in my mouth and makes me keep it there until she says so. I can't stand that punishment. I always have to keep the soap in my mouth for a real long time. Little chunks of soap get stuck in my teeth for the rest of the day- it's nasty :(

Answer 1

yup.. not enough parents are doing that these days

Answer 2

be glad they dont make soap like lifeboy anymore!!

depends on the frequency of it. It would not be MY parenting method!

Id recommend not swearing in her presence and trying to talk things out with her and avoid the soap treatment. Of course, many at your age (myself included) think they are right most the time and are not open to reason.

What pain would be saved if we didnt have to push barriers and could get along with our parents better, but this seems rare. In my day we had an intense fear of getting "beat", or what you're experiencing, or the fear of God. Your generation seems almost fearless sometimes!

I realize now what an unappreciative brat I was and wish i could have seen this then, but I had alot of pressure from school and home was safe haven.

Try to talk things out, dont swear in her presence and try to listen and respect her words. Now if she's nutz then Id say you have alot to deal with. Having a counselor who listens to you and does not take her side on everythng helps, Id go that way. What you need is reassurance, not to feel like its her against you. Feeling overpowered builds resentment and always leads to imbalance.

No, the soap method isnt the best one!

Answer 3

Yes it is right for your mom to make you keep a bar of soap in your mouth as punishment.
But in your case I must say that it is not working.
It is a parents responsibility to raise a child to be an upstanding person. This is what GOD has commanded for them to do.
I have several dogs that I love and spend time with. I don't love them like my sons, As their owner it is my responsibility to train them. Sometimes I must use corrective actions to make them do as they are suppose to do. After several times they decide they don't like the punishment they correct their actions.
Now with this said I know that you are smarter than all of my dogs and you should by now be ready to correct your actions.

Answer 4

No, its not. What kind of cruel, heartless person would do that? Take it out of your mouth and ask your mom how she would like it A bar of soap was thrust into HER mouth everytime she swore! Ask your mother if she knows that that's child abuse. Just in case your mother hasn't realized, soap is toxic and should'nt be in anyone's mouth! If she gets smart with you and shoves in into your mouth again, then call Child abuse hotline. If you can, use a prepaid cell phone so she wont know you called. It makes me sad there this world is full of vile people that do this kind of thing and think nothing of it.

Answer 5

Yes and no. Your only hope of why it isn't right is because soap says for external use only. And the fact that the main ingredient Triclosan is registered with the EPA as a pesticide. Tell her that and she might rethink it.

And yes, I've had it done to me and I hated it then. But I didn't know that then like I do now, so I haven't been able to try it out.

However try to get along with your mom, just try to stop swearing around here. And they really hate it when you talk back...

Answer 6

I find it to be an old fashioned form of discipline. And some soaps can actually do more harm than good if ingested (some of it swallowed). It is very difficult to NOT swallow soap if it's in your mouth because your mouth is full of saliva...forcing a child to "eat soap" is a form of child abuse. There are other methods to get a child to behave...this is simply one tactic used by parents who have little or no parenting skills.

Answer 7

I think u should try not talking back to ur mom. Instead u should try talking things out. As 4 ur punishment try politely telling ur mom u do not like that punishment and suggest alternatives. Or u could try scaring her by researching what they put in soap. Soap can be toxic it is used to kill bacteria and everytime u stick that soap in ur mouth and take it in u kill bacteria ur body needs to survive

Answer 8

No it's not the best thing she can do - but she's trying to make a point by doing it. It is probably very aweful tasting - but if it's that bad why do you keep cursing? She's trying to teach you to talk like a mature person - not someone who curses and sounds ignorant. Just stop cursing and talking back and you won't deal with the soap anymore.

Answer 9

Your mother is doing a good job...if you were my child and talked back I would slap you in the mouth...if you were old enough to sear then you would be old enough to get you a job and somewhere else to stay...not enough parents are teaching there children right from wrong....

Eveidently you like the soap in your mouth because if you did not you would only had to do it one time and then you would not have made the same mistke over again...

Answer 10

I don't know how old you are but can easily guess within a couple years... just as I can the ages of those who sided with you on this issue. You're all children... you're living in your mother's house at HER love, caring and expense. Don't like the rules? Get a job with your limited education and knowledge and find out what you can afford!

Yes, I'm coming on hard at you... and, so is your mother-- but I'm a parent and know what she's going through! I also helped 2 single moms raise their kids. I had 2 kids with my ex-wife.
Between the other moms (sisters), they had 5 kids. Soap was never used for the use of obscene or disrespectful language, because all seven of those children had respect for their moms and/or for me.
If they had ever pushed the limit, such as you obviously do, they'd have been sucking soap as you obviously enjoy... or, at least enjoy complaining about having to do so.
What makes it so hard for you to simply shut your mouth in the presence of your mother or others you need to learn to respect, or to control how you express yourself? Like others like you, you think you're all grown up and don't need to respect any form of authority... gurl, you've got some big surprizes ahead of you if you don't shape up, beginning now.
Watch your mouth around your mother or eat soap... one of your life's difficult decisions, eh? Please, begin to mature a bit, while you continue to have fun and have it easy, living at home with a caring parent to whom you owe most anything you take for granted.
If the bar soap weren't to do the trick after what I considered a reasonable time, I'd give you a shot of liquid dish soap and a pail to puke in.

Answer 11

Like others said if u can't stand the punishment than stop swearing and talking back