I want to include my step daughter in my life but her husband is so unbearable that I can't stand to be around him. He is so domineering that he won't let her go anywhere by her self. Does anyone have this problem? She wants her Dad to have a family get together, but he can't stand him either. What would you do in this situation?
2006-06-20 19:06:36 · 7 answers · asked by Happy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her spouse is so hyper that he talks so fast and he puts down my Church and is a con artist in dealing with people to get them to do things for him. He is like a cult leader. I love my step daughter very much but it is not healthy to have him around and the only way I can see her is with him. She is 25 and he is 50. He has mesmerized her. He talked her out of finishing High School just 3 months before graduating with very good grades. That was so stupid, he told her that he could teach her everything and that she didn't need a diploma.
2006-06-20 19:23:43 · update #1
You and your husband need to suck it up and find a way to be Around this man.. I am sorry. I do understand..
Your step daughter will come to her senses in her own way.
Concentrate on just getting thru say a one hour lunch once a month or something, in a public place. Not much chance for scenes and bad words said..
Surely you two are adult enough to spend and hour with some one you don`t like for the sake of the daughter.. I mean did you always like everyone you worked with or went to school with?
You just smile politely and let him hang his SELF... He will.............. Really..
HOWEVER, When he is gone (and he will be) you will still want a relationship with the daughter.. Be nice, She is your relative for LIFE.. She will remember how she was treated while with this jerk wad... Make sure she remembers it was good...
THIS TOO SHALL PASS.. A new crisis is around the corner..
Hang in there. After you all do this monthly thing TREAT YOUR SELF.... YOU deserve it.. {:-)
God Bless & hugs From Texas.
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2006-06-20 19:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by jaantoo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently went back to work after 2 years of staying home with my children. While I was a stay at home mom I did all the house work, cooking, laundry, shopping etc. I mean everything. I think that is what you are supposed to do. Your husband needs to understand that what you do is 2 full time jobs. You don't get weekends or holidays. You work 24/7! He should not come home at the end of the day and undo all that you worked so hard to achieve. I told my husband this.." I don't go to your job and mess up the job you just finished!" He should pick up after himself. Ya know what you can do is this to drive your point home. The next day he has off go out. Leave at the same time he does for work and don't come home till dinner time. He'll have to do all that you do and he will see that you don't sit on your butt watching soap operas all day! Maybe he will be a little more sympathetic to your needs.
2016-03-26 23:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That person used to be me. Nobody could stand my ex-wife. Not even me.
Ended up divorcing her so the problem solved itself so to speak.
Tell your step-daughter how you feel about her husband. Let her know it's affecting your relationship with her and him.
Trust in her judgment to make the right decision.
2006-06-20 19:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mister_fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to deal with your step daughter's spouse. Unfortunatley, you need to accept him even though you may not like him. He is a part of your family because he is married to your step daughter. Don't exclude her from your life because of him - be there for her and continue to be a part of her life in spite of him.
2006-06-20 19:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brothers wife. She treats my bro like crap and talks down to him a lot even in public. She smokes pot everyday and even picks up her daughter from school stoned, she has already had one car accident and my brother broke his neck (she was driving) and she puts my bro down to her family when she can't go a day without being stoned.
sorry got carried away I think we all have a in law that gets under our skin
2006-06-20 19:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing could be on account of the situation you termed as 'step'. If you can avoid that 'step', everything will be alright.
2006-06-20 19:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give advice n find another trust friend to help u settle this situation...
2006-06-20 19:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋