We're going into now 7 months of being together, and to this day I have yet to hear him say "I love you" does it take this long or longer for a guy to feel something for his girl? I fear to tell him that I do love him. I think he cares for me, he has kind actions with me, but I feel that he cares more about money and materials then me. I don't know what to do or think, I don't want to hold onto hope that one day he might tell me, what if he doesn't.. and the last thing thats bothering me is that.. at first we used to communicate everyday, and then now its every few days.. can anyone give me a headsup on what could be truly going on in his mind.. or if theres any hope at all..
2006-06-20 18:15:45 · 16 answers · asked by SweetSerenity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well usually someone loves the other by then and the only way u will know is if u say i love you first so say it first if he says it back then u know
2006-06-20 18:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I hate to break it to you but he doesn't love you and you certainly don't want to pressure him into saying it just because he knows you want to hear it. Be wary of any man who says he loves you after only dating a couple weeks as true love does takes time to grow. But a couple of months into the relationship, a person knows whether they feel love or just friendship. I'm sure your boyfriend does care very much about you but love can't be forced. It happens or it doesn't. It's time to move on as there is nothing more painful than loving someone who does not love you back. You will find someone who will love you back and it will be so wonderful. You deserve it. Hang in there girl. Good things come to those who wait and you sound like a good person.
2006-06-21 01:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by SingleNSaskatoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I did read it all. My guess is that you know the answer but need others to verify your thoughts. He is pulling away and/or has become complacent with the relationship (in other words he does not value it like he should). Either he gain a new appreciation for your relationship or you should break up with him. From what you've said, this does not have the earmarks of a long lasting happy relationship.
Good luck.
2006-06-21 01:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by c_schumacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ahrdest thing for a man is to say the magic thre words. It is a fear of rejection. The fear of you not feeling the same and leaving him. You have the same fears. Youboth have the same questions and fears. Tell him. Make the first move.
2006-06-21 01:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by bunnychugger2003@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him all of this. Guys don't always put so much thought into saying I love you. The fact that he's not in contact so much is because he's probably busy with work or other things. Either you need to find other things to keep you busy or have a talk with him about your need to talk to him more often.
2006-06-21 01:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by La_Belle_LadyR99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation I would sit him down (or call him) and say essentially what you just asked, see how he responds. If he still doesn't think he's ready you may want to reconsider your relationship, but it could turn out that he's just scared, or if you guys are young,that he's not ready for that kind of relationship or "commitment". Hope this helps!
2006-06-21 01:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by molldoll64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you been with him 7 months, it still quite new, but if you want to
know how he really feel then ask him, that is only way to find
out what really going on with him. give it time , those three little
words are hardest thing to say for a man then a women he may
feel what you feel just cant tell you. but actions speak louder
than words......
2006-06-21 01:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with my first boyfriend I was going through the same thing phone calls everyday then I didn't hear from him like two days later,he use to come home every night then he started staying out not coming home at all I would call his cell phone he will pick up on the second ring then I started calling sometimes I guess he just let it ring.......It all spelled out He's CHEATING
2006-06-21 01:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by yoyoluv27910 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....i think he just might not feel the same way when he first asked you out. he might only want 2 be ur friend. but what might be good is 2 just sit down and talk 2 him and ask him ur relationship is going.
2006-06-21 01:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating another guy and see how he reacts. Don't ask him, if he says it on his own he means it, if he says it after you ask him he may tell a lie.
2006-06-21 10:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Spiritual Warrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋