Should men do the opposite of what women say?

Question

I have learned that whatever my fiance tells me that I should do the opposite of. So should i do the opposite of what she tells me

I totally respect her, i just think she "tests" me which she has told me so. Like "are you coming over today" really means "i want you to come over today

Answer 1

umm... yes, no, wait no, o.k, o.k., yes... i dunno.

Answer 2

Wow, you catch on quick, congratulations! :) Not being sarcastic, either. This is why I try to say what I mean. Women pick up on subtleties more than men do and some don't understand why men can't read their minds.

But your example is not of something she told you to do that you should do the opposite of... she asked you a question with a hidden agenda, and why shouldn't you go over?

Can we have another example please?

Like, maybe she tells you to go to the strip club to test you and see if you will, and if you do, she says.... "I can't believe you would actually do such a thing! Am I not enough for you? Don't you think I'm pretty anymore? (starts crying)"

PS... if it's as bad as my example, that's called playing mind games, and it's not fair of her to do so.

Answer 3

Some women are sarcastic (or something) in a way that they will say the opposite of what they really want. Because, well, "duh," if you really gave a damn about them, or cared, or whatnot you'd be psychic for her right??? And magically know her every thought, wish, and desire without really being told. lol

No not all men should do the opposite, just some men maybe if they catch on to an obvious pattern of this with a woman. And if possible...maybe find a way to get here to break out of the habit and just tell you straight.

Answer 4

Women are experts in what therapists call a "double bind." That is when someone wants you to do something but then blames you for doing it afterward. The classic example, a girl storms out of the car during a heated arguement. You ask her to come back in. She yells for you to leave her alone. If you really do what she says and drive off, you can bet there will be hell to pay! This is a double bind.

As for the answer to your question... If I had the answer, I would be more famous than Dr. Phil...

Answer 5

Well it would depend on whether what your fiance is telling you to do. A relationship is based on trust and communication. It is a 50/50 thing. If you don't listen to your fiance why do you think they would have to listen to you? Talking and making sure you tell each other how you feel about any subject is very important, or else why would you be getting married?

Answer 6

oh are u in some competition of who is better "man or woman".she is ur fiance and to have a relationship u have to agree with her and u will get the same response from her side tooo.but agree with her only if she is not wrong at her part.and dont u listen to that ridiculous advice u have got that u just mentioned

Answer 7

You decide.

If she says don't jump off of a skyscraper would you do it? If she says don't drink rat poison would you do it? Or if she say let's get intimate would you say no?

Thanks for the points and wasting time.

Answer 8

no. I think you just want to make her look bad. And why are you engaged to someone you don't respect enough to listen to?

Answer 9

You want to have a legitimate arguement for when she complains, then do as you're asked.

Answer 10

No- but the BOZOS usually do! ((( and I are one of them ;>) ))

Answer 11

most men do anyway. LOL!