2006-06-20 17:53:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you sure that you are doing always the right things ?
Do you respect him as your lovely son?
Did you give him this feeling?
2006-06-20 18:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You and your husband need to be on the same page...your husband needs to be with you when you set up expectations of your son's behavior. When things are CALM, clearly explain to your son what you expect of his behavior and what his consequences will be if he doesn't meet your expectations. Make the consequences simple and meaningful like not being allowed to use the computer for one night or watch tv for a night. The key to this whole procedure is CONSISTANCY....meaning, don't let him get away with not meeting your expectations even once because otherwise he will walk all over you and always expect that you will give in. Try making a chore jar and everytime he misbehaves, he has to pick out an extra chore from the jar. But make sure A. that you and your husband are doing this TOGETHER and B. that you are consistant in this.
Good Luck!
2006-06-21 00:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by Missy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly, it is probably because you and your husband have different standards. If a child knows that he can disrespect an adult without getting in trouble (or without getting in very much trouble), then the child will be disrespectful. But, it could also be a phase. My mother always said that 5th grade boys should be buried up to their neck until they were about 21. Middle school boys can be very disrespectful and the teenage rebellion is probably just beginning. It's a part of growing up. You just have to be firm in letting your son understand that if he is disrespectful, there will be consequences every time.
2006-06-21 00:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by q2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his mother and for boys they are usually closer to their mothers then they are with their fathers. Fathers can be more stricter but, when it comes to us moms and our little boys we tend to take it easy on them. Eventually he'll get used to getting away with things and this is what happens. It's time to put the foot down not meaning beat the kid or anything but, small things ground from the phone, or no friends for the weekend, take away the game systems, etc. stuff like that. Kids need to know there boundaries and limits they need it and so do we as parents. You should make some rules in the house that he has to stick with chores and getting homework done when told and dad needs to be involved just as much. I am sure if you set some sort of rules and stick to them even if he don't like it you will gain your respect. Tell him it's tough love. Good-luck
2006-06-21 01:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are all Wrong. The truth is he looks up to his father as a role model being he is a male too. Your son probably shares the same interests as your Husband. There is nothing you can do so dont think your doing something wrong. He will grow out of it soon.
2006-06-21 00:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by dj92jr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband about all 3 of you sitting down or maybe he and your son can take a ride/walk and talk about why he's treating you that way. Please DON'T STOP being mom and inforcing the rules/being there for him but DON'T give in if he trys to start "playing" you...being rude/mean 'till he wants something then being nice. He's coming into hormones and dad is probably bigger than he is; it's like they turn into animals; they watch for you to show fear/weakness--that sounds funny but i swear by it!
i swear all kids lose their minds by the age of 12!!!!!!!! LOL keep your head up and oh.. if you hear "you don't listen to me"..translated that means your not giving him what he wants and I had to learn that through counseling but once I knew it; I knew I was still being a good mom!
this is just from one mom to another;
2006-06-21 01:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by makesuwonder7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be letting your son get away with more than your husband does. Kids (even 12 year olds) NEED boundries! They will respect you a lot more if you give them reasonable rules to follow, as long as you reinforce them too.
2006-06-21 01:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by MountainChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 12 year old son who is the same way and I think that the reason is because He's spoiled by me and knows that he can get away with it!
2006-06-21 00:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably arent following through with your threats of punishment. Children know who they can push and who they cant. Moms usually arent firm enough. Give in easy. Baby them. A man also has a deeper voice that children know to be stern and commanding.
2006-06-21 00:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male dominance, he respects your husband, more authoritarian than you. No offense, moms are a push over! ( at his age, your trouble is just begining!, sorry) been there done that!! Good Luck
2006-06-21 00:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by kermit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋