My two little guys that are 6 and 8 are hearing about rubbing boy pee pees against girl pee pees out on the playground at school.
2006-06-20 17:51:03 · 15 answers · asked by houseofbounceis 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
be honest, yet short and simple. My greatgrandmother wrote a book called " the wonderful story of how you were born" If you can find it, or another book that is age appropriate, that might help.
oh ya, my ggma's name is Sidony Matsner Gruenberg
here is a link to some of her books
http://dogbert.abebooks.com/servlet/BookSearchPL?an=sidonie%20gruenberg&tn=&ph=2&sn=&imageField.y=0&imageField.x=0
good luck!
2006-06-20 20:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by momofoneson 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I've been taught in college that you should answer only their question. If the ask you a certain question- answer it with no detail. But also, the professors say: use the correct terminology. Penis/Vagina is vital.
I think it's difficult when you are actually in that position. I can't believe they are so young & already hearing about rubbing peepees. I don't think I would tell my son (when he gets bigger) about the Penis going in the Vagina, and by the way, don't do this until years down the road!
I think I would talk to the principal as well. Maybe they can have a class discussion on why this behavior is inappropriate. Good luck!
2006-06-20 18:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by natalie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer that question every year, or every six months - just make sure each answer is appropriate to the age of your children.
At this age, perhaps explain that men and women have private places that can fit together a bit like a puzzle, but that it's a complicated idea and it's important to wait until you're much older before learning more about it. Assure them that there's no need for them to worry about this stuff, which is to do with grown-ups who care about each other very much.
Add, of course, that it's important to keep those places private. You can give them a little more information every year or every six months, just make it sound non-threatening and reassuring. And don't make stuff up or lie outright; just use gentle analogies and soften the edges of the truth. They don't need graphic detail at this age.
2006-06-20 23:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an eye opening experience with my kids. I should have known it was coming but I know I am so not ready. My twin boys are 10 and my daughter is 11. The kids around the neighborhood was talking about 2 of them "getting it on" and I wanted to know what that meant to a bunch of kids. Oh yea they filled me in good. I think I need to take notes from them. They know to much for me to be ok with but I know they r growing up so I can deal with it. They will learn it from school and if they r asking questions don't tell them anymore than what they r asking and make easy answers and don't give them any information they don't seem ready to have. Keep it at their age level and make sure they know it is always ok to ask u questions and get more info from u then there friends. Good luck to you!!
2006-06-20 18:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by stephie541 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...time to talk to the principal first. Sex education isn't usually taught until grade 6 or 7. I'd tell my 5 year old that his pee pee will fall off if he does anything like that. 6 and 8 are definately TOO young, try 13 or older if you are going to be explicit...or consult a school psychologist for a better timeline.
2006-06-20 17:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by bp2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Answer the questions AS THEY COME UP from the children.
I would suggest a very vague watered down version as an answer, but I wouldn't lie about it -- you don't want to shut down communication with the boys.
These days, they are going to hear a lot at an early age from the other children. So it's appropriate to develop a strategy for that now!
2006-06-20 18:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jaygysler, and also simple questions get simple answers. At the age of 13 I believe is the right age to start talking to your kids, but take it one step at a time.
2006-06-20 18:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by blue_chico_fob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been answering any questions as they arose. If there haven't been any, well . . . obviously there has been something, or you wouldn't know what they heard on the playground.
Don't offer more information than they ask for, and if they ask about you and Daddy (and they will), you'll do what's comfortable for you, but I recommend saying something like "Yes, every mommy and daddy who want to have a baby make love, but it's private and personal, so I'm not going to talk about us specifically."
(My boy, after watching our rabbits mate, asked his dad, "Do you have to chase mom around in circles to mate, Dad?")
2006-06-20 18:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinon, kids' questions should always be answered; if they're old enough to ask, they're old enough for the answer.
It seems to me that keeping things under wraps only creates dysfunction, guilt and misinformation and is responsible for some of the terrible things that happen in the world.
2006-06-20 17:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by jaygysler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had to talk to our son at about 8 yr due to misinformation he was getting at school and and older cousin. He asked me a question one day (i can't rember what it was but it was totally untrue) I asked where he heard it and what else he had heard and had to give him the fact. As all have said here keep it age level
2006-06-21 00:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by beth l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋