We have been together for a while now, he just assumed that I wasn't a virgin he never asked so I never told,I know that he has had other relationships, Im worried that if I tell he will look at me differently or think differently about me in a bad way also will he compare me to his past relationships? What should I do?
2006-06-20 17:08:45 · 23 answers · asked by ipreetynice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why tell if he hasnt asked
2006-06-20 17:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn`t ask, don`t tell him.If you bluntly tell him he is not your first, he may react in a negative way.He should not hold anything against you one way or the other, since he has had deep relations ships prior to you and him being a couple.Don`t lie to him,that is what comes back to haunt us.If he cannot accept the fact that he is not your first, considering his history, then walk away from it now.The less said the better in most situations.What you feel NOW is what is important, for him as well as yourself.
2006-06-21 00:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by deedeeco1738 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im pretty sure that he can tell that he was ur first.... b-cuz i wasin that same situation... and the guy could tell that i was a virgin... but he didnt say anything.. then we didnt talk b-cuz i was the one that felt wierd around him... then later on out of the blue i felt like talking to him cuz i didnt want to loose contact of the person who took my virginity away from me, then he got the courage to ask if he was my first and i told him yes ... so now our relationship is good ..... we still talk and he's a cool guy to hang around with.... so all im saying is u should tell him that u are... trust me things to get better
2006-06-21 00:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him. He won't look at you in a bad way. He will look at you differently, but he will think good things of you. You should have told him a long time ago.
2006-06-21 00:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past and everyone is entitled to one. What one did yesterday should not matter.
My fiance has had other partners as have I, but we have never felt the need to tell each other how many....it's all so, well, yesterday.
If you feel a pressing need to tell your guy that he was your first then go for it
2006-06-21 00:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me think YES you should at least tell him. If he really likes/loves you he won't care. He should alwats look at the same because of who you are not how many times you've had sex. If he leaves you then you shouldn't be with him anyways.
2006-06-21 00:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by DeAd DiScO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel he should know then go ahead and tell him. Did he take your virginity or you still holding onto it? If he took it, he might like the fact that you gave it to him. If holding it, then its good for him to know.
2006-06-21 00:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely when you committed fornication w/ this man and you being a virgin he would have known .,,if he had other relationships and I pray you used protection?
2006-06-21 00:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the guys I've ever met loves virgins and loves being a girls first.
2006-06-21 00:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The young lady who said is he has that special feeling for you then it shouldn;t matter is right on the nose and should get teh best answer points.
2006-06-21 00:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really going to change much. If he loves you, he will still love you and might treat you better (it cutes to be the first), and if he doesn't love you, it's not going to change much. By now, he has made up his mind about you
2006-06-21 00:12:25 · answer #11 · answered by Amazon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋