I'm so confused about my life?

Question

about what career i want to do dental assistant or who knows whats else
my boyfriend, before i met him i promised myself i wouldnt get involved with anyone till i got a career,ive been with him for almost 8 month. we and things happen that you cant always control
i was preg. in march had an abortion, because we were having issues and i slept w/ another guy so it might not have been my bf. now i want to get preg again because i made a huge mistake and im depressed from it.
i want to move out of my house because i cant stand the people i live with (brother, sis, brother in law, there kids.
im never home and i feel that i should move out but i dont have my own car. I want to move in with my boyfriend but im often confused about my relationship.

should i consult in counceling? get anti depressants, i often make plans but never go through

Answer 1

I think that all the people had experienced your situation except the abortion. What you need is not counceling or anti depressants. What you need is your effort to pursuit your dreams and goals.

No matter how deep you want for your goal, just talking without action is useless. Take action, do something. Be a "Doer" not a "talker".

Answer 2

You need to talk to someone ( a therapist) and work out a few things.

Sit down and write down what it is in life you really want.
Then, write down the what steps you have to take to achieve those goals.
You need to stay away from guys all together for awhile until you get yourself figured out.
How can you be complete in a relationship if you aren't complete in yourself? You can't-you'll only end up making more mistakes that you'll later regret.

Trust me-having a baby isn't going to make things better. You've got to get out of your depression before considering raising a child.

Don't count on anti-depressants. They can help, but they are not the answer. You have to make some positive changes for yourself.
:)

Answer 3

The best thing you can do right now is find a good counselor. Anti-Depressants will only prolong any feelings you may be having without getting to the real cause of them. Please don't be embarrassed or feel like you are alone. Many others have been in similar situations and have made it through. The best thing you can do is talk to someone.

Answer 4

We all go through these situations in life - some of us early and some of us late in life. It is important to the following when you feel like this:
1. Relax for 5 - 10 mins
2. Write all these confusions in a paper - then tear them up and throw
3. Write again your problems - they will be more clearer since you have already thrown the sh*t in step 2
4. Prioritize
5. Evaluate and Make a careful decision (you yourself can be the best judge cos its your life)
5. Stick to the deceision
6. Feel confident and good - since you are taking steps to improve your situation.

Thats all baby ! Its simple !

Answer 5

Counseling, yes. Anti-depressants, no. Getting pregnant, definately no. For one, you aren't married. For two, you are having emotional issues and having a baby will only make them worse. If you can't stand your family's children, what makes you think you will be able to handle your own? Thirdly, if you and your boyfriend are having issues, a baby will make those issues worse. Finally, if you have having fidelity issues, your boyfriend is likely not to believe the child is his. Sweetie, straighten yourself out before you bring an innocent life into this mess.

Answer 6

no i don't think you need counceling or any anti depressants. about the whole getting pregnent issue, i feel like from reading this that you arn't ready to handle something like that. I say wait that out until you get married.

about making plans and never going through with them. don't make plans inless you're 100% possitive you will actully do something about it.

for your career, just think of all the things you enjoy and expand on that. i just got out of high school so i'm pretty lost too.

Answer 7

DAMN GIRL SLOW DOWN---Who the hell you think you are Evil Kenivel ?? You slap this stuff out like it's just a script to some kind of daily menu---step back and read this thing---you are doing a bosa nova of frying pan to fire---you simply need to STOP--this is gonna take a minute here ..oK??---You are confused about your relationship but...you want to move in with this guy---NOT---you were pregnant--terminate it--now you want to be pregnant again---NOT-----you want to be a dental assistant but "who knows"---??? you want to move out of where you are----now there's something right there---your living arrangement is driving you nuts---all the rest of this stuff centers around this---it has to change--and here is where you can start to reclaim your life---find a way to move from this place--take yoiur time--find a situation that will work---do not move in with this guy you are confused about --your doing that because it seens the simple way out but I assure you it is another fry pan to fire move---someplace else--damn near anyplace else --for even the briefest time--just move--then--once you do--take two months to simply slow the dickens down--stop trying to stack it all in within the next 30 days--You don't need a councilor or drugs--you need space--step out of the whirlwind you've created and let it all settle down--it will kill you-----------Peace---I mean this---Peace to you

Answer 8

You can get free post-abortion counseling at http://www.healinghearts.org I highly recommend their program. Just about all of their counselors have had abortions themselves. They will also be able to offer you good advice on your life situation.

Answer 9

I guess u r 19 now. Any confusion, ask ur friends/relatives for help. It will be better if u take a counseling.

Answer 10

get counseling