my bf and I have been together for 3yrs I resently found out the he dont trust me and he makes all kinds of coments about me getting fat. I really love him but I want him to love me for who I am not what I look like. Someone please help me!
2006-06-20 16:18:00 · 18 answers · asked by Blue S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Loose weight or get someone who likes a more husky woman.
2006-06-20 16:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off...What an ***! You've been with this guy for how many years? And he still doesn't trust you. That ain't right...but wait what do you mean he doesn't trust you? By trusting do you mean him trusting that you actually made a gourmet dinner or trusting you can go out all night with your girls and not get any numbers? Cuz there are some things that we can accept and others that we can't. By can't I mean fidelity. The way i base my relationships is by trust. It must be heartbreaking to think after all this time that he doesn't trust you. Im extremely sorry to hear that, and to say that I know how you feel. And he also has the audacity to comment on your weight. Uh uh men should know by now not to go there. Honey if he doesnt love you for who you are then he is not worth you. And as sad as it is to say this, dont expect to change him, only person you can change is yourself. We do this all the time with men, thinking we are thier mother theresa. We will help them out of thier boyish ways and turn them into loving men. Its a fairytale babe. Guys are who they are. When they talk they say what they mean! Theres no room to wonder (I learned that from my ex). The best advice I can give is to come forward with him about your feelings and his comments. But dont accept him to just apologize, like they usually do. Really get down to the problem and resolve this issue. I recommend Oprah.com and DrPhil.com
2006-06-20 17:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by CookieMonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't appreciate you the way you are then he doesn't deserve you. You need to find someone who will love you as much as you love them just the way you are. Life is too short to try to please everyone else. You're better than that. Give him a choice and if he picks the wrong one go out and find someone twice as good and when you and the other guy are having a great time he will look at you and finally figure out what he threw away and how great you are.
2006-06-20 16:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Baby_love4482 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie If he can not love you when you are "down" then why bother? Ask yourself, will he be there for you when you really need his support? If he can't handle 20 or 30 extra pounds then how is he gonna handle say..If you loose your job or what if (GOD forbid) you get ill?
Chances are this relationship/guy is not as strong as you would like it/him to be.
Why settle? If you are not happy and you can not seem to make him happy why not just end it.
He seems like a jerk off anyway.
Do not let this guy damage your self esteem beyond repair!
2006-06-20 16:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by crystlizm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been going with my b-f for 2 and I'm 13 years old and if he don't like how i look or change over some days then maybe he needs some time to think how did he fall in love with u or your body.if he failed in love with u then there's no problem.
2006-06-20 16:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ TianaW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he doesn't love you the same way. If he doesn't trust you or doesn't like that you are changing, he doesn't love you. Love is acceptance for you as you are. It also kinda sounds like he may be looking for a way out by making you miserable. These are just my personal observations though. Take them if you want them.
2006-06-20 16:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by DONNA M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go you really cant love someone unless you first love your self when you learn how to love self honey you want care what anyone else think of you to be real hes a hold down step over him move on and tell your self self i love you no matter what there is happiness under his junk move on in jesus name
2006-06-20 16:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about it, becuase if the love is really that special then he'll realize what he is doing to you, and stop. SO be confident in yourself and show him that you are confident about yourself and then say i've gain weight becuase 3 years stress started to get to me(lol) Dont worry to much about it, You'll be fine, GOOD LUCK
2006-06-20 16:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by Shesofly313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then hes not worth it..your absolutely right he should love you for who you are as a person and not what you look like it sounds like hes an asshole dont put up with it...tell him you dont appreciate it and tell him to stop because he should love you for you and not your looks or you will leave...and if he doesnt stop
LEAVE!!
2006-06-20 16:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want someone that doesnt like what you are or seems to me just plain doesnt want you. Have some pride in yourself and look elsewhere for someone that lovees you for you.
2006-06-20 16:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by sportie_kindofguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋