My sister is going to Mexico to get Married in August. Is it ok to have a wedding shower or Jack and Jill for her when none of these people will be invited to a wedding.... Just wondering if I should start planning or not.... a little confused....Please help!!!
2006-06-20 16:16:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If she is going to be married far away, a shower might be the only celebration you can have with them. Make it for everyone. A Shower is meant to "Shower the Bride with love and best wishes", it is not contingent upon being invited to the wedding.
2006-06-20 16:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to throw your sister a party then you should do so. But don't make it a shower, because it's such bad form to invite people to a shower who will not be invited to a wedding. A reception celebrating the wedding is great though.
I have no idea and can't tell you why a party called a reception is socially okay after the wedding and a shower before the wedding is not when nobody will be going to the wedding in either case. How silly when you think of it!
Maybe make it totally different and your own by calling it a Wedding Party or a Wedding Send off party.
Good Luck and Congratulations on the new addition to your family!
2006-06-20 23:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely your sister is having only family and close friends to witness the marriage because not everyone can afford to go to Mexico for the wedding. She doesn't mean to not invite a lot of people. So having a shower before had is fine. Most people who have destination weddings will hold a reception back home so the people they know can celebrate their marriage.
2006-06-21 01:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok to have a bridal shower for your sister. I have family and Mexico and my grandmother threw me a shower over there for the people that were not going to be attending my wedding in California. It's your way of celebrating them. Happy Planning!
2006-06-21 01:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mayelita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine to have a wedding shower in this situation. In fact, it takes some of the pressure off who to invite, since everyone is on equal footing (i.e. no one is invited to the wedding, so there is no need to match the shower invite list to the wedding list). The shower guests will certainly understand why they are not being invited to the wedding, so it is unlikely anyone will feel slighted--rather, they will probably welcome the opportunity to wish the bride and groom good luck since they won't see them on the big day.
2006-06-20 23:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ann B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a shower with people who aren't invited to the wedding would be very tacky. It's very rude to expect people to give a gift when they don't even get to come to the wedding. You never invite someone to a shower who isn't invited to the wedding.
2006-06-20 23:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's OK if you are going to invite friends, family, coworkers, and other acquaintances of the couple. Most of these people would want to give a gift. You could wait until after they are married to give the shower, that way there would definitely be no raised eyebrows.
2006-06-20 23:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by deeeelyte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they are getting married in Mexico, how about scrapping the traditional bridal shower and just taking about 20 of your closest friends and family to a brunch - they can bring bridal shower gifts but this way you don't have to pay for a hall, pay for decorations - it would just be about visiting and a little food!
2006-06-21 07:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no requirements for a shower--a shower is given because friends of the bride want to celebrate with her. Since they're going to Mexico to get married, this would be your time to celebrate!
2006-06-20 23:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by Alex D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I got married out of state...a family member had a reception a week after we returned from our honeymoon for our friends in our home state that weren't able to attend. We showed the highlights of the wedding on video, and people brought small gifts if they chose to do so.
I think it would be appropriate to do something along these lines for your sister so that she can celebrate her marriage with friends not on the guest list.
2006-06-20 23:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by getrd2go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋