What am i supposed to do???

Question

i am 17 years old. i have a very busy schedule. before i got out of school for the summer. I had hard classes to study for, softball, bible club, nursing club, a job and a bf, also a best friend that needs help taking care of her baby. Most of this stuff i am doing is to better myself and to make up for all the time i spent being a total idiot. Now that school is out i have a 40 hr week job. And in most of my spare time i spend w/ my bf or softball team.anyways the question is, my parents act like they are pissed off at me b/c im not home 24/7 cleaning, cooking etc.believe me i do help out alot around the house. but it seemd like to me that they dont care if im working or doing something good for myself. they just want me home helping out.its not like there isnt someone else to do it i have a 14 year old sister. she doesnt do anything except smart mouthing my parents.what am i supposed to do? i have to have a job so i can get a car b4 i turn 18 and they want me out when i turn 18.help

yeah there is more to my story........my parents want me out of the house at 18.............and they wont pay for me a car or for any of my personal expenses......so i have to have a job but i dont want them to hate me and i feel like crap when i am at home...........plus my bf has helped me out ALOT ive been w/ him for 3 years and i figure that me and him would be together......he is the best bf ever in the whole world has helped me out alot these past 3 years

Answer 1

Most of your guilt you feel about your parents is self inflicted because you choose to let them make you feel guilty. There is no way you can be everywhere at once so if making a good life for yourself is not what they had in mind for you, then that is their loss because they choose not to see the good things you do for yourself and them. Why do you have to leave at 18? To be honest as a parent of a preteen and an aunt of teenagers, that's a lousy deal for you and I don't get the age limit. If you only have a year to save money, screw them!! because they are forcing you to look out for yourself at a very young age so start now, you've got less than a year before you are on your own so live with the guilt and get the best start you can. They obviously have no second thoughts about your care. Why do you have to leave at 18?? Is there more to your story??

Answer 2

As of right now, you don't legally have to answer to your parents. But, your a very gentle spirit and I admire your abilities to preform all that you do. Your a bright young woman, with a good head on her shoulders. Don't let anyone, not even your parents bring you down. They should be more supportive directing you down the right path, Save your money and try adulthood, your boyfriend seems like he'd be more willing to help out. The tough love they (parents) are showing you, give it back. Hebrews 13:1

Answer 3

i am taking a chance her not knowing if you are in school next year but if not, then i think it is time to move out. you are already working 40 hrs, the same as most not all people. let your parents know how you feel first and if this does not make them hestitate then i would be gone.. just one thing though it is no pinic out in the real world where it just you and your boyfriend,

Answer 4

well i know what you are going thought my parents say the same thing i work 40 hours and all the spare time i have was with my girlfriend but what you are doing is just making yourself look better you are working trying to get something you want so keep it up in the long run they will see what you are doing to for you notthem you are not tring to be unhelpful it is the fact that you ahve to save to get what you want

Answer 5

talk to them and let them understand that if u were not working u would have helped all along but once u r working and learning at the same time they have to understand since they want u out at eighteen, dont be so downhearted, do what u have to do in ur spare time and everything will be fine till u r eighteen and move out. good luck.

Answer 6

this is a really sucky situation. now if i were you i would tell my parents that my sister so-and-so does nothing she could help
i on the other hand I'm struggling with trying to hold my job, hang with my bf, do my softball and save up for a car. now if (your sisters name) can say that much for herself then i will at least try to help but if she can't then tell her to start helping because i can't. and leave it at that

Answer 7

IF I were you i would move in with your boyfriend or move in with someone else!!!