I always get stuck with the jerks.
2006-06-20 15:21:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People can only do things that you allow them to do. Never settle for less than what you want from someone. Just be yourself. Never settle for being with someone just because you do not want to be alone. Good things come to those who wait. Patience is a virtue that few have ever obtained in life.
2006-06-20 15:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by dynsapp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're always getting stuck with the jerks, then ask yourself this question: is it more likely that all of the jerks you meet are exceptionally good at hiding their jerkiness until you've decided to date them, or that you're selecting boyfriends based on the wrong criteria?
Seriously, if you're picking them, you have to take the blame for this.
1. You might be asking too much of them
You might have strange ideas of what a relationship is all about, and so you're making unreasonable demands, and when they won't give in, you call them jerks and blame them.
2. You might be picking too soon
You can't find out what a person is really like in a few hours, or days, or even weeks. Granted, sometimes you don't find out what someone is really like for months or years, but on average you should be able to get a good idea of what someone's like before you date them.
3. You might be spending too much time with strangers
Strangers are fun, and exciting -- and an unknown quantity. Perhaps you should spend more time dating friends of friends, where your friends can vouch for them being a decent human being before you take 'em on.
4. You might be letting them pick you.
Perhaps you believe that boys should ask girls out, and not the other way around, and so you date whomever asks. This is a great way to get dates, and a lousy way to form a relationship -- you're essentially saying "I will base my emotional well-being on a relationship with someone who picked me before he knew anything about me other than what I look like."
5. You might be a jerk.
Seriously, who gets ten jerks in a row? Perhaps it is you who is the jerk. This isn't intended as an insult; I had a string of bad relationships and blamed the girls, then dated a really nice person and discovered that I treated them like garbage. Turns out I was the problem, and the personal growth I experienced after realizing that led directly to my hooking up with the woman who is now my wife and the mother of my kids -- and not a jerk.
2006-06-20 15:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is when your boy friend treat u like a trophy like bragging that u r the best looking in school n no 1 have her but me n some guy just get u 4 your money$$ n where i don really know u can find jerks any where in school work etc.
2006-06-20 15:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by julian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So go after the nice guys you like. The jerks are the ones more likely to approach women, and therefore probably the ones you're stuck with. Instead of waiting for "Mr. Right" to come to you, go after him. He'll probably be amazed and flattered.
2006-06-20 15:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. O'Clock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes alot of jerks before you find the nice guys. Maybe you need to change your dating preferences. If you usually go for the bad boys this could be your first clue(JERKS). Try your local church or the grocery store.
2006-06-20 15:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be slective don't just feel llike you have to have a man in your life enjoy life when you go out to different places really enjoy yourself don't go for a man just because of the car ,etc he has look at his heart the heart is the most important thing and finally when a man comes up to you and says he is a gentleman let his actions speak over his words hope this has helped and yes there are some good guys out there they just are hard to find
2006-06-20 15:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I'll agree us guys tend to have more jackasses than nice guys among us, however there is hope for you yet! Keep your head up , the trash out , & sooner or mabey later you'll find a decent one, possiabally even "the" one! Good luck to you!
2006-06-20 15:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any close friends who have single friends, you could start there. Raise your standards, if the current bf does too many things you do not like, or not enough things to make you feel great, kick him to the curb. And continue your quest. Best of luck to you on your mission. =)
2006-06-20 15:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by NïghtStalkër_666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just like looking for nice girls,a needle in a haystack!
2006-06-20 15:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "place" to find these kind of guys you have to wait til the perfect guy comes to you.
2006-06-20 15:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by LUST 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋