Does it work for you? It seems like it works for our 2 year old, but she keeps repeating the same behaviors.
2006-06-20 15:16:37 · 19 answers · asked by ladyshep 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
YES...But don't have them facing the corner.. Have them sit in a chair facing away from wall..It allows them to get the idea of Time Out, but without the isolation. Yes positive reinforcement is also needed; but as a mother of 3, one of which is autistic, they also have to have consequences for their actions. Being a toddler means they need repetition, love, repetition, rules, repetition, caring and did I mention repetition. Just remember their favorite song or video..they will sit and repeat it over and over and over again...Same with behavior.. They will learn by.. Repetition.. Just keep doing the same thing and she will learn...Just be consistent.
2006-06-20 15:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by fishtycoonaddict 2 · 8⤊ 2⤋
No, they do not understand that they are being punished for an action, just that they have to sit down for awhile and cannot play with anyone or anything. The only time I sit down a child is if they are old enough to understand what they did and reflect on why the behavior was wrong.
A good alternative to this is sitting down with the child with a book or quiet toy. Or just holding them if they are throwing a tantrum. A lot of times at this age they do things for attention or because they do not know how to otherwise express themselves because they can't talk yet or do not have an extensive vocabulary yet.
Positive reinforcement is also effective if used in moderation. Otherwise, they will expect you to reward them EVERY time they do something right which is tiring and unneccessary. Also, if you give limited positive reinforcement, they will work harder to please you because that is what all children want, to be loved!
2006-06-20 23:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I've never been into the whole.. stand in the corner..form of punishment. I have 4 kids. My 2 grown ones are 24 and 23. I have a 14 year old and a 2 1/2 year old. When they are little (2-3) I had pretty good results with "Do you want to go to bed ?" then you better stop it...
or "Do you want a sticker (M&M or whatever small treat)...then if you do you better stop drawing on your sister with that ink pen!" For the most part that works. You have to vary it as they get older. I rarely spanked my kids, but I do believe there are times when its called for. A good example would be for whining or 'throwing fits' especially in public places.
Fortunately none of my kids were whiners (unless maybe tired), or fit throwers. My now 23 year old son threw a fit in WalMart once and I gave him one of the few spankings he ever got. He didn't act that way in public again. One of the other ones I remember is when he was about 6 and my quiet and shy freckle faced red headed niece came for a visit and he asked her if she had freckles on her butt...like she did on her face.
Funny now...we were laughing about it just the other day. Not so funny then though.
Also for things that are dangerous. Like running into the street or running away from me as Im trying to hold his/her hand in the mall or some busy place.
Every kid is different. You just have to find out what works for each one.
2006-06-20 22:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she repeating the behaviors it is not working.
Using natural and logical consequences is the best way to discipline a child. For example: If she spills her milk, she wipes it up. If she draws on the wall, she cleans it. If she is screaming, you find her a place to scream until she is ready to stop screaming. If she throws a toy, the toy gets taken away.
If you decide to put her in a corner when she is misbehaving, don't give her a time limit (you controlling her). Tell her she can come off the corner when she is ready to control herself. Giving her a time limit is a punishment, not a way to discipline. Before you put her in a corner, get down to her level and say "I don't want you to (explain what and why)." Take her to the corner and say "When you are ready to (behave, stop, listen....) then you can come off the corner." You may have to sit with her until she is ready. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!
2006-06-21 14:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puttin gkids in the corner will not solve your problems. You have to give them time-outs where they have no luxuries like TV, toys or talking. And you have to get to their eye level and explain why they are in trouble and why they have to stop that behavior..i.e....they will hurt themselves, break something, it isnt nice..etc... and then the time suitable is a few minutes the first time and work up to no more then 5-10 minutes and if you stay persistent and stren and no giving in , this should work for you b/c they will see that they get more positive attention from you or others when they do good things. And sometimes having a reward system will help promote them to want to do good things and avoid being bad. It seems to help me with the kids I babysit . So good luck and keep us posted please.
2006-06-20 22:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by mk17044 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make my toddler sit on a throw rug and wait there for 1-2 minutes. If the child is old enough, have them count to 5 or 10 and then when they finish counting allow them to get up and play again. I have doen these methods for 4 years. While they hate it, they can count to 10 NO PROBLEM!
2006-06-20 22:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two year olds are the master minders of the good old fashioned, "repeat and seem if it still happens" syndrome. Your two year old is just testing you for weakness and to see if she can break you of putting her in time out. Keep it up and eventually it will sink in that this is going to happen when she misbehaves!
2006-06-20 22:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure put them in the corner and every time that child repeats the bad behavior give them a little more time until he or she learns that is inapropriate behavior..its called a TIME OUT :)
2006-06-20 22:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by itstoughtobeaman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say i haven't ran into this issue YET with my soon to be tot, BUT what worked for me as a kid was time outs where i was AWAY from my toys and OTHER distractions IE TVs radio what ever it happens to be. Just make sure you let the child know WHAT they did wrong to deserve the time out and make it clear the behavior is bad and NOT to do it.
2006-06-20 22:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by v_kalbus@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i NEVER put my kid in the corner.. her father did that to her once on a weekend visit and she absolutely FREAKED.
the key is positive reinforcement- reward her vigorously when she does the right thing.... if you ignore the bad behaviour and reward the good- the child will stop getting the attention from you when they are bad ( and attention is what they really want) so if you give them the good kind then they dont need to act out to get the negative attention- this is the only real way to extinguish a behaviour.
hope that helps
2006-06-20 22:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋