My husband works all the time?

Question

My husband works 10-12 hour days, 6 days a week so I have taken on the role as "super" wife and mother. I do everything around the house,cooking, cleaning, all the errands, and take care of our 3 year old and 7 month old. I feel that the woman's place is in the home. Kind of like the 50's. I don't see how women can work and put their families on the back burner for a career. It's the man's job to work and the woman's job to be at home raising the kids and taking care of the man's needs. I was just wondering how many other women feel this way and how many don't. response please.

Answer 1

Since the women's movement of the 60's and 70's women and men have completely undervalued the contribution that stay at home moms make to society. There is not a more important job in the world.

I am a stay at home Mom also. My husband works full time and makes a good salary. He is a wonderful father, husband and provider. I love being home, caring for the house, kids and him. I set my own schedule. If I don't feel like doing anything one day, I don't. But that is rare, believe me. I am always busy.

My husband is the head of our household, but for the most part I make household decisions. But he is the ultimate authority when we disagree. His is not a brute, has never struck me, and is a wonderful, kind and loving man. We do not advertise that this is our relationship as it has become so politically incorrect for the man to be the boss. It works for us and at one time it worked for most couples. Today, women are generally the bosses at home. Men have been demasculated and treated as children. Many women would be surprised to find out that being taken care of by a man is very nice.

Answer 2

My husband is a field service engineer for industrial welding lasers for car manufacturers. He travels Monday-Friday and is only home on Saturdays and Sundays. I have 3 sons, 11 yrs 8 yrs and 3 years. I live as a single parent, in the fact that I do the cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping, bill writing out and some paying, school with the kids, and sports with them too. There is no help from spouse but the paycheck during the week. I also maintain a career as a patient financial representative and billing revolutionist at a hospital 40 hours a week. I appreciate the time with my kids when I'm not working, and I appreciate the time with my husband when he's not working. We have an awesome savings and financial portfolio and can send each one of the kids to a 4 year college already. We are both in our early 30's and completely financially stable. There is no fights about bills, spending money, kids needing extra dollars for camp, house repairs or anything financial. My husband isn't exhausted from long days like your husband, so he has plenty of energy on the weekends to use his frequent flyer miles for mini trips for family time. You seem to be complaining about the little you do. Honey, no matter how much you do, there's someone out there who does more....like me!

Answer 3

Well, you are certainly entitled your opinion of how your family should work - well you family minus your husband who has to work long hours and doesn't get to be part of the family.

I work full time and so does my husband. And we are home together for a dinner everynight (which we take turns cooking) and we have special family time on the weekend to lounge around the house or go out somewhere together, whatever we like. I think it sounds like I have more of a family time than you do.

If your husband is working those hours for financial reasons, it won't be long before he resents all of the pressure on him and the fact that he is missing out on his children's lives. Wouldn't you?

So you see, I don't put my family on the back burner for a career. I get to have a great family life because we can both work 40 hours a week and make time for eachother. See, the great thing about sharing the burden is you also get to share the reward. And I can assure you, all of my man's needs are met.

Answer 4

Some women do not have a choice but to work outside the home. To me they are the SUPER wives and mothers. They have a outside job and a husband and children. They are very underpaid and under appreciated by many. No vacation, no sick days and no paid days off. This is 24/7 year round. I can't think of 1 mother that would choose to put there children on the back burner . To me, by working, they are putting their family first and themselves on the back burner. Don't get me wrong. I think it is great that you can devote all your time to pleasing your man and taking care of the children. It's just that not all women are as lucky as you. :)

Answer 5

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I'm surely not a woman but before I seen what the rest of the question was here I was typing .

Since I'm a single parent # 12 years now I would like to answer this its good to have someone to want to work and take care of the family
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But I do believe he may be headed toward a burn out 10 - 12 hours a day 6 days a week, he needs to cut back a little.

Ever since I became a single parent I have had to juggle work, school, cooking , laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping, other shopping, and homework, and on and on.

I know 1st hand the real deal and its hard!!!!!!!!!!!

If you wish to do this you have taking your vow's of marriage to heart .

No "MAN" knows how hard a housewives job is until they have to walk in their shoe [ sorter speak ].
If this is your choosing and your happy than "hey"

HIGH FIVE TO YOU

Watch out your hours or 24 / 7 you don't get burned out.

ICHOOSETOTELLTHETRUTH

Answer 6

I may not be a wife/ mother but I understand your situation.
The thing about us women, we keep undermining ourselves when it comes to becoming stay-at-home moms.
The truth is there's nothing greater than a mom who spends time to be with her kids. Being a mom is not easy but a full time job as well.
Although times have changed since the 50s, nowadays there's day care centres, nannies/ maids.
I grew up with 2 working parents & I was placed under a nanny's care sometimes at a neighbor's home but my parents were always there for me so I never felt inadequate in any way.
I understood they (my parents) had to work to pay the bills but more than that it made them better individuals because of their jobs.
The important thing is you're shaping your kids' future & for that I commend you and have no doubt you're doing a great job.

Answer 7

Okay your husband works all the time but you want to stay home right. does it not take just about ever dime he makes to pay the bills? If you can afford to stay home then that's great for you but if he has to work six days a week to make ends meet why are you complaining? that's what you want or not I'm a little confused. Did you ever think that not all women want to work but have to because that the spouse can not make enough money to pay all of the bills? I did not want to work when my child was born but I had to. but I was lucky I was able to work around my child and my job. Some of the time she went with me and others she stayed at home with her daddy. It was not something I wanted but something that had to be done.

Answer 8

I think it is great that he is willing to work so much so you can stay home with the kids. It is hard to live on 1 income these days. It is not that mom's but the kids on the back burner, they do it to survive and be able to give the kids a good life.



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Answer 9

The problem in america is that alot of women don't have jobs but are also bad housewives and while there husband works all day they stay at home watch TV and get fat. If you do all the things you say you do than that is great

Answer 10

I don't agree, but I respect your opinion.

In many of my relationships, I have been the bread-winner.

It would be illogical for me to quit my job and raise a family, so that we would depend on his income which is half my salary.

Every child needs attention and parental care, but to say that it's the woman's job to stay home seems very archaic.

I don't have children, but I do know they'll receive the best of childcare and of course love. Many of the jobs I've worked at even had on-site chilldcare - so you could see your child anytime you wanted to at work.

I was always taught that it is both the mother AND father's duty to raise their children properly. Additionally, it is just as significant for a man to take care of his wife's needs as it is for her to take care of her husband's needs.

Love of family does not have to manifest itself in one way.
If you want to stay at home and take care of your children and the home, that's wonderful!

Also, if you want to go to work, and successfully take care of your child with the assistance of your husband and a bit of childcare, that can be wonderful too.