how not to be gay help?

Question

i cant help it grils do notheing for me but guys on the other hand...
i dont wont to be gay cause i know it wrong and stuff but then why and i like this and how do i change

Answer 1

I can give you sound counsel, but only IF you have established God as the basis of authority in your life. If you are on the throne of your life, then you will be powerless to change.

"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that WHOSOEVER believeth in Him should not perish but have everlasting life." John 3:16

Acknowledge God and choose eternal life today.

"...(Jesus Christ) died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again...

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a NEW creature, OLD THINGS ARE PASSED AWAY, behold all things are become new." II Corinthians 5:15, 17

True faith in God and His Son Jesus Christ makes a person "new" inside. God's Spirit comes to reside in that person and gives that person the power to obey God's instructions for living.

"There is therefore now NO CONDEMNATION! to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.

For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh:

That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.

For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded in life and peace." Romans 8:1-6

This change on the inside manifiests itself in the life of the person with new faith. No longer are they bound by the flesh, but free to obey God, which brings life and peace.

"I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Philippinas 4:13

Homosexuality is a moral issue. You can read about what God thinks about it in Romans 1:17-31. With God as your authority, you do not have to guess about it being right or wrong. It is wrong.

The only way to conquer the lust you are experiencing for the same sex is to allow God to be on the throne of your life, and not you, so that you can live His way out of a changed mind that really wants to.

"I beseech you therefore brethren by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

And be not confromed to this world; but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God." Romans 12:1-2

So, it IS possible to do right with God's help.

Why not believe Him right now?

"Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me." Revelation 3:20

"Faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the Word of God." Romans 10:17

The best place to begin understanding who God is and who Jesus Christ is and how to obtain eternal life is by starting in the book of John in the New Testament.

May God's Spirit lead you into truth.

Answer 2

First off let's get something straight(pardon the pun). There is nothing wrong with you and there is nothing wrong with being gay. Being gay is not a choice it is how you are wired. Being gay is no more wrong than being black. It is what it is. Do you understand? Changing what you are is not the answer. Accepting what you are is the answer. You have a long journey in front of you. Some of it will be wonderful, some of it not so much.
There are people/friends who can help you on this journey. Seek them out.

Answer 3

Although it may be tough to accept, it is widely recognized that it is not possible to change one's sexual orientation. But the good news is, THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. Being gay is absolutely normal and natural. It happens in about 10% of the population and has been documented in hundreds of animal species. The American Psychological Association recognized back in the 1970s that being gay is totally normal.

If anyone tells you there is something wrong with you or that you need to change, ask yourself, "whom do I hurt by being gay?" The answer: Noone. It is wonderful to have a committed, consentual relationship with someone you love, regardless of their sex. In contrast, if you pretend to be someone you're not, you are only hurting yourself.

Check out what the American Psychological Association has to say at http://www.apa.org/topics/orientation.html. Also, read the stories of others who have been in the same situation as you at http://www.comingoutstories.com.

But most of all, remember that there is nothing wrong with you.

Answer 4

Divorce was as wrong as being gay supposedly is now (back in the days the Bible was written), yet it is accepted now. Why is that?

There is nothing wrong with you. You were born this way, embrace it. Don't deny yourself the pleasure of a loving relationship because it has been beaten into your head that being gay is blasphemous.

Spookeriffic is correct. The Episcopal Church openly accepts gays and lesbians into their arms. In Fact, we just voted in a gay bishop last year, and this year, we voted in the first female bishop. Most (not all, there are some righteous conservatives) Episcopalians spread love and understanding and do not judge, because judging is not our job.

Answer 5

I went through the same thing you are going through. I felt attracted to guys, and not girls. I didn’t know what to do. I was a Catholic at the time, and they told me it was wrong. But then I started attending a United Church. They made me feel welcome, and then I felt okay with my sexuality. There is nothing wrong with being gay, and don’t listen to people who say it’s wrong. You have to be yourself, and love yourself for who you are. Once you have a boyfriend, and you love each other, you’ll fell even more comfortable. The first part is coming out to yourself, saying “I’m gay, and I’m proud!” Just be happy in your own body, and be yourself, and don’t try to be something different just to please other people. And always remember, being gay is genetic, and it’s not a choice. It’s a part of you, and it makes you who you are.

Answer 6

if girls do nothing for you they never will. honestly it's just not going to happen. the worst thing you can do is pretend they do something for you. if you can't get erect from a woman you'll never impregnate her, and therefore she'll end up rejecting you anyway. I am not sure how old you are if you are younger than 18 don't sweat it right now have fun with your life be a kid. if your older than it's something to consider, the worst thing you can do is to pretend, and lead someone on , you'll hate yourself for it. believe me, I went through that in the last year or so, the worst thing you can do is hate yourself and hurt other people in the process, that just leads to a depressing life. and it's not wrong to be gay. it's wrong for straight people to think it's wrong. gay's don't sit around telling straight people their wrong for being straight. but it's up to you. date girls , see if anything changes, but just be honest with yourself. don't let people talk you into or out of anything, just be you. it sounds corny but it's true. and if other people think it's wrong, that's their problem.

Answer 7

TO BECOME A CHRISTIAN

It's a process over time, it's not going to happen overnight. But there are steps to take. First pray and ask the Father into your heart (mind) and life. Ask for change of you. Ask for guidance and direction. Ask for forgiveness of your sins. Do all this in Jesus name (authority).

Come to the reality that as long as you dwell in the flesh body you are going to fall short. All are sinners. Repentance is a change of mind not a license to sin. Perfection is maturity or full age in His Word. We are to produce fruit and glorify Christ.

His Word is an life learning process. Trust this man or no man unless you check it out in His Word. I've been at it earnestly for 16 years. I'm producing fruit but feel I'm still in the process. Don’t clean house (clean up your act) without filling that void with the Word of God.

Luke 11:24 When the unclean spirit is gone out of a man, he walketh through dry places, seeking rest; and finding none, he saith, I will return unto my house whence I came out.
Luke 11:25 And when he cometh, he findeth it swept and garnished.
Luke 11:26 Then goeth he, and taketh to him seven other spirits more wicked than himself; and they enter in, and dwell there: and the last state of that man is worse than the first.

By the way, born again means born from above, check it out.

Answer 8

you can't change who you are. You can pretend your whole life to be someone who you are not or you can embrace it and get through lifes bumps and bruises but do it happily. You may ask why me? a million times but its not a big deal in this day and age to be gay. True you will always have to cone out to someone but wouldn't you rather do that than live a lie?

Answer 9

...dont worry,...you will find the someone that makes you feel amazing...and whether its a guy or girl doesnt matter...being gay isnt wrong...in fact some of the most important people in history were gay or transexuals...its just this new hush hush mind set in society today,...really homosexuality is nothing new...and nothing to be ashamed about...and in reality everyone is gay its just to what extent

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with being gay. You don't have to be promiscuous or anything. You can find a nice guy and fall in love. Don't beat yourself up.

Answer 11

To thine own self be true.

Don't try to force yourself into being what you are not. This is why there is such a high rate of suicide among the gay population - they force themselves into labels and roles that they can't possibly fit, end up sick, miserable, and depressed.

There are plenty of faiths and churches that welcome people of the LGBT community. Those are the places you'll find support in being the person that you really are, instead of hate and intolerance.

I wish you the best of luck on your journey. :)