2006-06-20 14:51:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, first of all, its entirely natural for your kid to be curious about sex, and nudity at this point. and yeah, you need to know where the cards came from. but dont overreact. explain to them that such things are for adults, not for children. nor are they appropriate for school. i assume that the cards have been taken away. its sort of hard to know how to punish a child who doesnt realize that they have porn, and are bringing these things to their friends because they are curious. i personally dont think punishment is appropriate. just make sure they understand that certain things are not for children, and not for public consumption. and this is definately a sign that you need to have a serious conversation with your kid about sex. better it comes from you than one of their enormously misinformed friends or the internet. dont be angry. they didnt do it to disobey. they did it to satify curiosity. so satisfy it in a more constructive way.
2006-06-20 15:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by janushyde01 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Where in the world did an 11y/o get nude playing cards? Anywho, you should talk to your child and let them know why it's not ok to take such things to school. You should also talk about why it's not ok for them to be looking at things like. You really need to make sure you let your child know you love him/her but your child is still a child - not a teen and not an adult.
2006-06-20 14:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the worst thing he (I assume he) ever does you will be truly blessed. I know that it is terribly embarrassing at the momement but years from now you will probably look back and laugh.
It is perhaps time to sit him down and ask him why he did than and explain how much it hurts you that he did such a thing. I assume he knows better. I did at that age but that did not prevent me from doing things like that. I did much worse. I will not go into the details. It would take up too much space. Perhaps he just wanted a little attention from you and he figured that was a good way to get it. It has been known to happen.
2006-06-20 15:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... Let's skip the "where did he/she get these cards".
I think you have a talk with your child and explain why it is not appropriate to take nude cards to school. But, don't be too overreactive. They are soo curious at that age and very impressionable. If they found these cards, he/she probably wants to laugh and talk about it to their friends. It makes sense.
Just talk with him/her
2006-06-20 14:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by sha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of how or where he got the cards, it sounds like he's normal.
Okay so its embarrassing to be the parent of the kid that took in nudie stuff to share with his friends, but I'm sure it was mostly curiosity and male bravado that made him do it to begin with. Its not like he took in drugs or a weapon.
If the teacher hasn't confinscated the cards, you should do that and discuss with him why you don't like what he did and what he thinks of the women in the cards. You could turn this into a good learning experience if you can get past your inital shock and embarrassment. My son was looking at porn (age 13) and after I got past the inital shock of it, we talked about why the girls pose like that and what type of men they probably attract, etc. and I put parental controls on the computer.
2006-06-20 15:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by neona807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did he get them - unleash on that person (or thier parents)
Use this as an opportunity for "the talk" he is obviously curious about sex.
Explain this isn't about his age. If you took these to work you would get into trouble because they are inappropriate.
Then tell him if he has questions he can come to you anytime. But there must be a punishment for breaking the school rules and doing something that he surely must have known was wrong.
2006-06-20 14:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they aren't of nude men. I'd laugh but be more serious when talking with the school when they call. Yeah, I'd have a little talk with Junior.. Where did he get them? Find that out and go have a talk with the source of those little nasty cards.
2006-06-20 14:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by pickle head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to ask where your child is getting nude playing cards. and you should react naturally: punish them and inform the school and get those cards away from the child.
2006-06-20 14:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the nude playing cards away from them and say they cannot take them to school. then have some family nude time with them, like the Japanese do
2006-06-21 14:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who says it was a boy? a girl could have done it. I would like to know where the child got the cards and why mom or dad wasnt paying attention to what the child was doing
2006-06-20 14:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by late_sleeper35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did the child get the cards?
2006-06-20 14:55:30 · answer #11 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋