Okay, this will sound odd, I've never been on a date before, my parents wouldn't let me until now. I'm 17 years old. There has been this guy I'm very intrested in who I can tell is intrested in me to, we may even go out sometime. I'm honestly not sure whta realistic expectations would be. I'm mainly confused with the whole phone calling. How often should a girl expect a guy to call her and how often should she call him. Is it realistic to excpect to talk to him every day or just to keep in touch until anything else happens? Like I said, we haven't gone out yet.
2006-06-20 14:41:55 · 15 answers · asked by candiecorn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd set up a date first in person, see how it goes, and then I would call him every now and then to let him know you care(As much as once a day, but no more). Most guys like a happy medium of getting phone calls from g/f's. Don't be the girl who calls like 5 times a day. Nothing will turn off a guy faster because guys typically hate talking on the phone. However, if you never call he will wonder if you care enough to call, so you should call on a regular basis though. As for girls, I would expect a lot less calls from guys. Because they don't typically enjoy talking on the phone, they may only call to line up a date, or occasionally just see how things are going. But if they don't call as much as you, I wouldn't be dissappointed by that at all.
2006-06-20 14:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by big_j_gizzy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I read in a lot of places (and agree) that the ideal would be to communicate every day. But it’s not the end of the world if it’s not every day. In most cases, it's about once in 2 or 3 days. As a guy, I’d prefer that a girl should be the first to start the telephone conversation; I’d definitely call back the next day and do everything to keep up the conversation.
2006-06-20 22:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with having your first date at seventeen, trust me. some people out there are just having relationships for the sake of having relationships and other times...well anyway! your "expectations" should be just like what you have with your friends only on a little higher level. don't expect calls, if you want to talk to him so bad, call him yourself and start a conversation. that's what's wrong with relationships: you think you should expect something when in reality you really don't have to. you should just let it flow. i know it would probably be embarrassing for you but maybe your crush has been on previous dates, sometimes you just need to be upfront and tell him that you are "inexpericenced", if that's the right term. i'm sure he'll "lead" you...haha good luck
2006-06-20 21:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by tinerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-20 21:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's plum crazy over you, he will call every two or three days in the beginning and then as your relationship progresses he will call more. DO NOT call him. If he's interested, he will call. Make the men chase YOU. You are the prize, a man is not a prize. Give him a chance to get to know you, don't be short with him whenever you do talk. DO NOT have sex with him.
2006-06-20 21:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_shy_blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my experience, you shouldn't have expectations bcuz that'll only piss the other person off. but id say if you two are boyfriend and girlfriend then you should talk at least once a day depending on how close you are. but if you guys just start dating just talk a few times a week. just whatever feels right at the moment. go with the flowwwww. lol =]
2006-06-20 21:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't expect a guy to call you, ever, it's not you, it's a stupid guy thing. You should only call him once, try and make plans and then don't call him again. realistic expectations are you'll be nervous, but just try and be yourself. if you don't want to hold hands or kiss him good night, then don't, just do what you're comfortable with.
2006-06-20 21:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by heybitches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and let nature run it's course. Trust your instincts. And don't worry about what's 'normal' or 'expected'. You'll know what feels right for you. That's the bottom line in all this. Everyone is different.
2006-06-20 21:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say kudos to your parents for caring enough about you to not allow you to date until you were actually ready to date.
I was not allowed to date until I was 16, and though I felt silly while all my other friends had bf's and gf's...looking back on it now, I can see where it was really better for me than hurting me.
If he asks for your number, then just let things start from there. If he doesn't ask, then offer your number.
No call...no interest...move on.
2006-06-20 21:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question, because there really is no right or wrong! Don't expect him to call, unless he says he's going to...and don't bug him! Just call once in awhile to see what's up! Take it slow! Be patient!
2006-06-20 21:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋