My live in fiance has a daughter who is on scheduled visitations. When he wants to take her for a week, do you think he should ask me first (I would never say "no") or is okay that he just makes these plans with his ex and then says, "btw, daughter will be here the entire week next week". I own the home, he moved in with me.
2006-06-20 14:36:12 · 12 answers · asked by wondering in michigan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Great answers everyone - thank you! You have given me different points of views to think about that never occurred to me.
2006-06-20 14:48:43 · update #1
That's a tough one, it falls right on the line. Even if you own the house, he is living in it, and you plan to marry....so it is also his house. He shouldn't have to ask permission for his daughter to come. But on the other hand....he should be respectful to you as his new family, and it should be discussed. You should be included in the process because it now also affects you. Sounds more like a communication problem. Tell him how you feel and I bet he'll be more respectful.
2006-06-20 14:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I know these things can sometimes be more confusing than we all want them to be, but the truth of the matter is a marriage if indeed it is a marriage is 50/50. To answer your question yes he needs to ask you before he makes plans with his ex. My kids and their dad are in the same situation and well that is just the way things need to be, it is called RESPECT for you and your relationship. Sit him down and talk to him, and if he has a fit well then sorry but you relationship will probably be fillied with lots of dis-trust. Good Luck
2006-06-20 15:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by toricooke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows respect for your feelings and your time if he just checks with you to make sure it doesn't conflict. But if you start saying no - you may not like his choice between you and his daughter.
Tell him you enjoy when she comes to visit, and (and,not but) it would make you feel more respected if he would just verify (not ask your permission) that that particular week works out well with your schedule before he commits your time.
And, if you are getting married, won't that make it both of your house? Not your house he moved into?
2006-06-20 14:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should respect you enough to give you notice plenty of time in advance, but he shouldn't have to ask permission from you to see his daughter. he's probably just comfortable with you and thinks it's ok. also he probably hasn't even thought that this might upset you or be inconvenient for you. men don't think like that.
2006-06-20 14:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really should ask your permission before he allow his daughter to stay in because it's your own house. sometimes you should talk to him about this problem and find out if he has any reaction.
2006-06-20 14:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by venus_scd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats rude more than that actually
thats almsot kidnapping what if he took her when she was home alone and you didnt no
u can take that to court
2006-06-20 14:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should mention it first, afterall you are his current spouse and the house is yours, even if you wouldn't say no he should still count with you first.
2006-06-20 14:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Dood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should ask. Not really even ask. Just make sure that you are cool with it.
2006-06-20 14:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by rkroxmysox915 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he should ask u first
2006-06-20 14:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should ask you first then you should say yes !
2006-06-20 14:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋