ME AND MY HUSBAND IS PLANNING ON HAVING OUR FIRST CHILD, BUT CAN ANYONE WITH CHILDREN GIVE MY A LIST OF WHAT'S GOOD AND BAD?-THANKS
P.S
YES, WE ARE READY.......BUT????????
2006-06-20 14:22:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have been married for 16 years and I have two children. My son is 13 and my daughter is 11. I am by no means an expert, but here are my two cents. The good things about having children are in my experience I learned what it was to really love someone. I know we all say we love our spouses etc, but loving your child is another level of love. I also have been blessed to see the hope of the future, and take place in that as I raise my children. I have learned to laugh in the dark times and cry in the good times. I have also learned that life is so very precious. Now for the bad, and lets be real here. Getting up at two in the morning stinks and giving birth isn't a walk in the park. Some women their bodies recover, most don't. Gone are the days of ME ME ME, and say hello to the days of wahhhh, andMOMMY! Both good and bad you are never alone. Children cost alot to raise, that is the honest truth. There is never enough money or time or you to go around. Some days you will want to do nothing but cry from being tired and frustrated, and some days you will cry from joy. So, I would say if you are thinking about having kids..get up a couple of nights a week at two in the morning, and then at four, cut your pay checks in half and try to live. That is a little taste of the reality of having children. But, I will stand behind this statement, they are (atleast most days) worth every tear, dime, and hour of lost sleep. Good luck to you and yours.
2006-06-20 14:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by meluusinee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a a parent but I'm 1 out of 12 kids so i know allot the good things is having someone to love and having a reason to live on this earth, and a bad thing is well lots like the diapers and the midnight feeding the punishing and the fights but hey their just kids
2006-06-20 14:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of three girls. The good ALWAYS outweighs the bad. If it didn't, folks wouldn't have kids! When you get that first smile, the first peanut butter and jelly kiss, the first fistful of dandelions, the first word, the "Mommy, watch this," and the list goes on and on. There will be bad as well, but isn't there bad in every good marriage? The same applies. I wish y'all well. You will be absolutely ecstatic.
2006-06-20 14:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no disadvantages to being a parent. Sure it's tough at times and you have to live with less free time but it's all worth it when you see your child smile, see them take their first steps, say their first word, etc. All the milestones that you get to experience make it worth it.
2006-06-22 04:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No support. Make sure your husband plans on supporting you through it all or else get him to hire a babysitter or nanny or part time helper/cleaner to help you, unless you have family around you to help. Children are a blessing. I had difficulties with having to work a fulltime job, being a mom, and wife from day one with no vacation, no free time, no me time. Remember to take time for yourself. Everything will fall into place. Hard times with a baby is usually when they don't sleep well, don't take to your breast milk, are cranky cause of colic, allergens, etc. Otherwise its heaven raising a litle one. Do not pray for them to start talking, appreciate their silence.
2006-06-20 14:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by moved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the hardest part is watching them try and find their way in life and trying to pick up the pieces once they get hurt by the world and then pushing them back out to live there life to the fullest. That is the hardest but the best think in the would is to hear them say I love you mama. Thats the most wonderful words I have ever heard. It is not always easy but you love them try to protect them and let them grow to be the men and women they are supposed to be.
2006-06-20 15:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if parenting is done correctly, there are no bad advantages. the hardes thing for me was seeing my child get sick, hurt, or the fear of something happening to her. i guess when my girls get older it probably will be harder to deal with certain problems, but for now, our biggest concern is finding a sitter when we need to go to the movies or some place special. you just have to be very caring and not selfish to have children and everything will be fine.
2006-06-20 14:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by hotsing1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. you get to wach them grow up
2. you get to chang there diapers
3. you get to love a new child
4. you get to make a new person in the world
5. you get to love a new person
BAD
1. kids can tike bites out of your wallet
2. kids can get annoyong
3. diapers can be stinkey
4. husbands can wit kids cant
I hope i helped just emil me fo any more qustionse
2006-06-20 14:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by mybutt230 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see that baby you will feel love like never before. You will cry. The disatvantage-when they grow up, they leave. You will cry. Then you get to be a grandma and it starts all over again.
2006-06-20 16:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing about my son is watching him get his own little sense of humor. he is three and a half and constantly cracks me up. the only trouble i've had with being a mom is having to cook food. i hate to cook, but now i have to! really, it's freaking great!
2006-06-20 17:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by ashleyrcombs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋