it affects everything when a man and woman are together, the body language, the thoughts running through the mind, what we say, how we act. the reason why i ask is because i have been hurt many times before, thinking there was something more between myself and another, only to realize that they cared nothing about my feelings, needs, or dreams. dont get me wrong, i enjoy sex, but why cant people realise that it is so much better with one you love, if only you had the patience to get there.
2006-06-20 13:45:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I almost didn't bother to look at this one from the initial visible part of your question, but glad I did.
I agree with your sentiment in asking the question, but come from a completely different perspective. I have only had 2 sex partners in my life. One was my fiance for 11 years, and after 7 she pushed me aside saying I was distracting in her pursuit of higher education (she did get her Ph.D.). My second was in year 8 because I wanted someone to pay attention to me, and lasted about a year. I was wrong for cheating, but point this out because sex is not really an important part of my life. It was special with my fiance because of being in love. With my second partner, it was sweet, but I also had an enormous guilt trip that I think eventually derailed this relationship.
Since then, I am more interested in friendship. Haven't really felt an overt sexual urge with those I have dated. I have, however, found some of the women I've met through work intriguing to the point of fanticising about them, but because of their being customers of the business, don't realistically consider pursuing it.
Where I was going with this answer, was that if the person is mature enough, they should let you know up front if it's ultimately just for a roll in the hay (so to speak) or if there is something more to it, at which point they, hopefully, will not pursue the sexual side of the relationship until it seems an appropriate point for both of you.
2006-06-20 14:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Carl S 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We are more complicated than men that way. It's good to have an actual commited relationship based on mutual interests, likes, dislikes, similiar beliefs. Then get married and enjoy each other even more. Too many relationships are on the rocks because the sex thing went before anything else and the couple didn't have anything in common.
2006-06-20 13:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can weed these guys out by not having sex with them.Tell them you want a full relationship not just sex.Then if they push you towards it,like promising something or saying I love you,don't let them get you off guard. Stick to what you say. The ones who only want sex will disappear.Then your feelings,hopes and dreams won't be hurt over and over again.
2006-06-20 13:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre so Right....You know what I did? I waited until I found my love. I no longer feel that I have to conform to any man's ways...Its either a 2-way street in everything...or take a hike...You will one day find your True Love...Have Patience with urself ...and dont "change" ur ways of thinking for any one....
2006-06-20 13:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you come down to it... human beings are just the same as other animals.... programmed and reactive to primal urges and needs. We seek the same basic things animals do... as humans though we're supposed to use our mind... but unfortunately today... we're using the wrong mind. I blame entertainment field for instilling the hey if your not having sex you're nothing attitude.
2006-06-20 13:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady, I stand up and applaud you. You are a very mature, sensible, woman. Not saying sex is not good, but is so much better with someone you love. My hat is off to you!
2006-06-20 13:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love this question. Lemme call Y!A up and get you voted for question of the year. There's like...gotta be a prize for that or something!
To answer your question: it's a simple thing about hormones and the brain. Nature, darling, nature.
2006-06-20 13:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is simply the life cycle, and you can't do anything against it... the first time i had it , it was with a gurl that i like but that hated me... untill today i ask myself why we went out together... don't try to understand just make a way... and there are no solutions... your man is not treating you well find another one, it will take time, but i'm sure u'll forget him
2006-06-20 13:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too easy. Don't assume that we're all on the same page as you, sensitive lily. There's monsters out there! Be more suspicious of the men you date. It'll serve you well.
2006-06-20 13:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by toolshopjohnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's as old as Adam and Eve. It is one way to save our species, so those feelings and emotions are built into us for our species survival.
2006-06-20 13:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋