Ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and I really really love him. But I hardly have any friends. Im really picky on who Im friends with. Theres this guy I work with and we are friends. He texts me and calls me sometimes. I like to be around him and talk to him when we are at work. I don't have any feelings for him or anything, its just I think I have found a cool friend. Is it wrong to be close to another guy? I tell him how much I love my boyfriend and that I want to marry my bf. He was the one there for me though when me and my man almost broke up. He would make me stop crying. Is it wrong for me to still talk to this guy?
2006-06-20 13:05:54 · 46 answers · asked by jkeys00 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not at all hun! grl! do ur thang! talk to the other guy and be best friends! there is nothing wrong wit dat at all! it's absolutley normal! you do need friends right? yeah so be friends and then marry ur boyfriend. good luck. have a nice day!
2006-06-20 13:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by lil_bit_a_evrythang 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This problem has been around forever. The problem isn't that you have a male friend. The problem is that most male friends are interested in you, when they attempt to become your friend. Working together and enjoying the fact that you do, does not mean that you should be talking or texting on your own time. This guy is only waiting for the right moment before he drops a bomb on you. Here's an easy way of finding out. Tell him that you want to be with him and I guarantee he'll say that he wants to be with you. It's free advice; Take it or leave it, but trust me that no guy becomes friends with a girl unless their is some interest. In any case, good luck!!!
2006-06-20 13:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by njangerball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHAHA! that's funny! Once again my theory has been proven: Every girl really has (or needs) two boyfriends.
Boyfriend #1 ("the soulmate") is the love of your life. He's the one you enjoy spending quality time, intimate moments with.
Boyfriend #2 ("the girlboyfriend) is the one you can talk to to vent steam when BF#1 is giving you a rough time. He's the one you enjoy talking to on the phone, perhaps going shopping with, etc, etc.
In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with this. Unless BF#2 is trying to use his position with you as an opportunity to get closer to you "in that way", as guys in that position are often misguided into thinking. Let him know that it won't work. Not unless BF#1 is literally the biggest (explicative) on the planet.
If your conscience is still soiled about the matter, perhaps you can come clean and tell your boyfriend about your other pal. It's not like he doesn't hang out with other girls, right?
Best case scenario (which is entirely possible)--> you get the best of both worlds; you're #1 guy won't have to deal with embarrassing shopping sprees (thanks to #2) and you get to vent off steam to a great pal who isn't trying to get into your pants.
2006-06-20 13:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by jermaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two people cannot be in a successful, long-term relationship unless they are emotionally complete as individuals. Relationships are not about shutting ourselves off from the outside world; they're about achieving greater things than we're capable of achieving on our own.
From that perspective, it is certainly not wrong for you to have contact with this guy.
However, since you're brought this question up, I have to wonder: why? What about your relationship with this guy makes you think that it might be inappropriate?
From THAT perspective, you would do well to explore your feelings about this guy and be honest with yourself about your own intentions. It might be that you're attracted to him, and are keeping him around as a "backup"; it might be that he gives you something emotionally (support, stability, or what have you) that your boyfriend should be giving you, but isn't. It might even be that he's attracted to you, and you like the attention.
Of course, it might simply be that you have a lot in common with him, and he's a good friend -- and nothing more. Still, you need to figure that out. Once you do, you'll know if this is a good idea or not.
2006-06-20 13:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if your bf trusts you, it is not wrong, but I would just make sure you don't get closer emotionally to the new guy than you are with your bf or there could be some problems. Also, this other guy may like you as more than a friend so I would be careful of that as well.
2006-06-20 13:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. let me tell you it's not wrong but it sounds like even if you don't want to admit it you all have feelings. Come on he would make you stop crying when you and your man almost broke up?
When you and your bf do break up he will be there to catch you. I wouldn't get rid of him either if you find someone special you shouldn't kick them out of your life for all you know this "friend" is the one.
2006-06-20 13:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to talk to your friends. You need to have your own definition of friendship. Friendships can last a lifetime. You should know what the friends intentions are. If you are able to talk you can define your friendship with each other and set the rules and then there won't be any doubt. In other words , you need to ask this guy if he expects a romantic relationship with you...and if he says yes ...then you have to let him know that it can't progress further than friends.
2006-06-20 13:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great to have male friends,But on the other hand your boyfriend wont like it.
Friends good friends are hard to find. Put his shoes on for a sec.How would you feel if he had a female friend?You aren't married so its OK to have a male friend.I would keep him as a close friend.When you get married then both of you can decide if you keep him as a friend or not.(sounds like your friend likes you allot,That's not a bad thing)
2006-06-20 13:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by mejunebug2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
If you are not married you can be friends with whomever you please. Because if you relationship does not work out your friends will be there for you.
But, if you get married your husband is supposed to be your best friend and he should do all the things for you that your friend does. It would not be a good idea to keep male friends if you are married because it could cause some serious problems in your marriage.
2006-06-20 13:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by rubyrudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all. i find myself really close to guys. im engaged and my partner never used tolike it but since i met a few females that im close to they are the same that other that the 4 of us girls we are all really close with guys. guys are always there for yuo and they don't go bitching behind your back. they tell you whats what and don't muck you around. You have told him you love you boyfriend and as long as he hasn't tried to make any moves on you i dont see the harm at all. your lucky to have a friend like that.
2006-06-20 13:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think so because your bf knows that you and this other guy r just friends not like you r madly in love with this guy but still i think you should not talk too him but if you want to than you can but maybe this other guy really really likes you allot. well i hope you do the right thing.good luck.
2006-06-20 13:15:04 · answer #11 · answered by erica p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋