Why blame kids, when its the parents who are at fault?

Question

Ok this is related to my Myspace question (click on my name to see that one), If an owner's dog bites another person,or mauls them, they go after the owner and sue him/her. They don't just punish the dog, and that is it. Why is it that our judicial (if you can call it that, more like penal) system punishes underage kids? I think that if a minor commits a crime, the parents should go to jail, not the children. Maybe this way, parents will take more responsability for their kid's actions.

I see way too many young kids on the street getting into trouble, while their parents are out crusing around. What happened to real parenting? Isn't parenting supposed to be a 24-hour job?

Answer 1

While I already answered your previous question with a similar message: many parents are atrocious nowadays. Their kids are overly spoiled and think that a punishment is only half the regular toppings on their ice cream for dessert. I take full responsibility for everything I or my animals do, and if I had a child I would blame myself for his/her actions and behaviors. As an owner of an unfriendly dog prone to trying to bit anyone that pets him, even after I tell them, "Seriously, don't even -look- at him," I would be willing to take full responsibility and charges if he did bite someone. (Instead, I fling my own arm into his mouth when those few idiots come about, but I digress.)

Our society today is increasingly becoming more and more frightened of the children. They decrease the "intensity" of gym classes and practically shove togetherness down their throats. Playgrounds are being remodeled to make them "safer", grading pens are changing from red to "softer, nicer" colors like purple, and every kid that knows how to walk has their very own cell phone and $600 worth of attachments.
Why?
Because parents would rather be a kid's friend than the adult, they don't want to be "as mean as their parents were", and many of them come from a background where they were spoiled to the point that they're too busy with their own lives spoiling themselves to sit down and help their kid on his homework, to teach him how to behave in public, and that throwing a tantrum should not get him whatever it is he's currently crying his bratty little eyes out.

Just yesterday at the mall I witnessed a family of five--mother, father, baby, and two tots. The parents were ignoring their children as they screamed at one another, in public, over who will have to go out of their way to get X child (who had ran away to go do his own thing, mainly scream and throw a tantrum to get some candy). They didn't care that people were around them and staring, they didn't care that it was upsetting their other two children who were not acting up, they were just upset because--good god!--X child wouldn't come over so they would have to waddle the opposite way of where they were going to get X child.

Had it been me that was throwing the tantrum, my mother and father both would have stormed over, snatched me up, and one of them take me to the car to be driven home and get nothing at all as punishment while my siblings get to go off and play at a nearby park on the tremendously dangerous swings.

Answer 2

OK first off that is just stupid! Yes some parents do need to take more responsibility for their kids and actually try to keep them out of trouble or discipline them when they get into it. But a parent can not be up a kids a** 24/7. All they can do is their best and besides if a kid knows there are no consequences for fu**ing up besides their parent getting into trouble what do they care nothing happens to them and they arent gonna learn anything from it. Parenting is a 4 hour job but we also have to have an xtra at least 40 hr week job to support that kid. Its illegal to lock them in the basement when you aren't there so what the hell are parents supposed to do. We cant be with them 24/7 and they need to learn responsibility for their actions.

Answer 3

I agree with you that it is the parents that need to be responsible for what they do and do not allow their children to do, in other words, how much freedom they are giving to them....if a parent is allowing their kid too much freedom and they commit some kind of crime, yes the parent should also be at fault...However, I do also believe the kid needs to be punished in some form...if they are let off the hook, they aren't being taught that what they did was wrong, and will probably believe they will get away with other things in the future....

Answer 4

unfortunately at a certain age children develop a mind of their own I've seen good loving parents torn by the actions of a child at some point a child must be held accountable for their actions parenting is a 24 hour job but their are kids that work 48 hours to sneak something by a parent show me ONE child that hasn't done something sneaky...EVER!

Answer 5

some kids are stubborn and mischievous and dont listen to their parents. if you do the crime, you gotta do the time. u live and u learn. the parents are not at fault. some kids these days are just out of control!!

Answer 6

In this world, one has only oneself. we are raised to point fingers. At the end of the day you can only reflect on what YOU did, and YOUR actions will give you the corresponding consequences. parent are there to guide you as best they can but YOU make the decisions of YOUR life.

Answer 7

kids sometimes are to blame because parents can tech them right from wrong but they cant choose for them too. alot of parents nnow days are divorced and the mother that has custody is working their *** off and cant be their for them all the time.