I am in a country where I cannot understand or speak their language and therefore find it difficult to get a girlfriend. But I was in opportune to have this one Who speaks my language, I quickly turn her brain down and gets myself satisfied with her. She is now madly in love with me, but I don't like her. I just want to have fun with her, now she is taking it more serious, HOW CAN I LET HER KNOW THAT I DONT LOVE HER WITHOUT HURTING HER?
2006-06-20 12:55:49 · 26 answers · asked by xmozex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THIS IS THE EASY WAY OUT!!JUST SAY THAT UR NOT READY FOR ANY REALATIONS RIGHT NOW YOU JUST WANT TO DATEAND THATS WHY UR TELLING HER CAUSE YOU DONT WANT TO HURT HER FEELINGS YOU WANT 2 BE JUST FRIENDS ,AND DONT GET ANYMORE SEX FROM THIS GIRL CAUSE UR ALREADY PLAYING WITH HER FEELING YOU NO THAT!!! SOONER OR LATER SHELL GET OVER YOU,I JUST HOPE YOU WONT BE WRITING ASKING US THIS TIME ;;''HOW CAN I GET A GIRL BACK THAT I THOGHT I DINT CARE FOR AND NOW SHE DOESNT LOVE ME ANYMORE'''' LOL
2006-06-20 13:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You've made it a lot more complicated than it needs to be. If you're talking about marriage, like you mentioned, then things need to be a lot more transparent than this! It's more like a rollercoaster than anything real. Talk to her, tell her how you feel, ask her how she feels and if you're both ready to take it further and want the same things, do that. If not, cut off this tie right there and then. Stop wasting both your lives.
2016-05-20 06:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. If she's in love then she will be hurt regardless of how you tell her. You should've been up front with her in the first place and left her know that you only wanted sex and not a relationship. Best thing to do is just be honest and let her alone after that so that she can start to heal.
2006-06-20 12:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by funlady6632@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is not way of telling her that with out is hurting her feelings.
But deffinately tell her the truth, you will cause her more pain in the end if you do not.
I will hurt at first, but the pain will eventually she will move on.
Let this be a lesson to you.
You must be careful of who you become intmate with. Sex is a form of bonding for women so it is not suprising that she has become fond of you.
Women can not be used to just "have fun with."
You must be responsible about how you deal with women or you will find yourself in more difficult situtations than this.
2006-06-20 13:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by rubyrudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never pleasant to be the one to give bad news, but you must tell her immediately. You deserve to be with someone you can love, and in turn, this girl deserves someone will love her for who she is. She'll be hurt and probably upset, but once she gets over it, at least she can't say anything bad about you if you let her know right away and didn't string her along. Good luck!
2006-06-20 13:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so let me get this right u r just using her for sex?
If that is the case then there is no way u can tell her u dont like her without hurting her feelings. U r a jerk.
2006-06-20 12:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by barbie_prk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is a very good friend but you are just not interested in her more than a friend,, hurt or no hurt the truth is always the right thing to say.
2006-06-20 12:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe all of you who would give advice to this piece of S**T. Read what he said. He isn't concerned with her feelings.
xMozex, you found the first english speaking girl in a foreign country, led her on enough to get sex, and now you want to dump her in a way that she won't bother you with her tears.
A**HOLE. Please, you make me want to vomit with your false sincerity. You make me want to take you out in the countryside and do for you what the mob would do for informants.
This kind of attitude about the value of a woman is why I choose homosexuality. The pig-headedness of men like you is why I have a girlfriend instead of a pigfriend like you.
2006-06-21 18:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that it is not a ralationship that you are after at the moment and that i has got nothing to do with her. This is telling the truth by blaming yourself without her taking it personal (which always hurts people). --the truth from a different angle ;)
2006-06-20 13:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want what we can't have. It's a valuable life lesson. You'll hurt her more by leading her on. Tell her the truth and let her go. She will get over it.
2006-06-20 12:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by wendyc222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her this email. Then she can see what a inconsiderate person you are. Then believe, she'll get over it. And here's another piece of advice. What comes around goes around. Expect the universe to "get you back" at you for this. Everybody gets what they deserve. You...some bad karma, and this girl...a nice guy.
2006-06-20 13:00:38 · answer #11 · answered by C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋