my boyfriend has a mental illness, but he denies it. this is the first time i saw him flip out. it was toward his mother. i am very concerned and i want to show him that i care and want to help him. is it common for somebody with a mental illness to deny it? what do i do? what meds does he take?
2006-06-20 12:55:23 · 7 answers · asked by shawty_red_atl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know you don't want to hear this but...
Ask yourself this question instead..."Do I want to be hooked up/live-in/married to someone who has these issues?" If you don't want to invite this into your life, then wish him well and hit the road now and he can process it in therapy group while he is there.
Seriously, YOU cannot change anyone and if you are going to commit your energy and time to someone, make sure they pass your basic tests, like, "Is he mentally stable?"
I know this because I was the one in the psych hospital. I was married then and my husband thought he could "change" me or whatever. I couldn't get well because of him. We are now divorced, I have healed and I am happily married.
What I know now is that I wouldn't date or marry anyone who has issues I'm not prepared or prefer to live with. I broke up with someone once because he was a recovered alcoholic. It's not that I didn't like him, I just didn't want to deal with alcoholism my whole life, even if he wasn't practicing it.
This doesn't mean that you need to only date perfect people; there are none, but seriously, this is NOT a place you want to go.
I know you won't pick my answer but I hope this message at least sticks in the back of your mind.
Good luck, my friend!
2006-06-21 15:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by reality_check 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not everyone with Mental Illness admits they have a problem, some are willing to admit it and some flat out deny it and say hey im fine nothing to worry about.
What you can do is be there for him and understand what he is dealing with.
2006-06-20 20:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by MrCool1978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen, always be willing to listen. Don't pressure him, but offer to go with hi to therapy or take him to the doctor. Most mental patients do deny they have anything (it's a hard thing to swallow) so be comforting and reassuring, but encourage him to take medication as prescribed and go to all doc appts. Just be there for him.
2006-06-20 19:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most mental health in patient facilities think that families should stay away initially,send him a card and say thinking of you,let me know when and if you want to see me
2006-06-20 20:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him.....he will need someone to help him hrough this. You may not agree with what he did but if he wants help, you can be the best support for him right now
2006-06-20 19:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay by his side and support him. Be there for him...people in his situation need that.
2006-06-20 19:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by charlieandallison@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend went throught this, she dated the guy and then one night he flipped and tried to first cut himself then he went after her, my best advice is visit him and let him know you cant handle this, next time it might notbe his mom, it might be you, or your kids if yall ever have them
2006-06-20 19:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋