I'm 23, my mom is 30 years older than me. I moved out when I was 18 and I live 500 miles away from her and my dad. Whenever she emails me I get annoyed. When I go home to visit for a weekend, she annoys me. She made a surprise visit here and it really angered me. Sometimes she will barely say anything to me and I get frustrated and I don't want to talk to her. I don't know why I do this all the time. Sometimes I know there is a reason like when she sends me emails with like 3 words of nothing important. Sometimes she seems to think she knows what is best for me. She got married and had a kid when she was 20- I am a single college grad, photographer and I completely support myself. She has never had these experiences and does not understand why I get angry when she tells me how or what to do about things. Things like this annoy the hell out of me... but other times the smallest things she says pisses me off. I can't figure out why... Any thoughts?
2006-06-20 12:41:41 · 14 answers · asked by this_girl_is_lost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Same age, similar problems. Still at home. moved out for 4 months, mom liked it, I moved back in and she's been really nasty to me ever since. I'm also doing stuff she never did, like break emotional traditions that r in this family.
Be interesting to see what other opinions come out of your question. I read a brilliant book - the dark side of the light chasers. Read it, it shed some light for me and helped me understand why I get so irritated and angry I could scream or see my hand on the other side of a wall.
Good luck. Be patient with mom if you can. It's usually mom and dad/family that teach you your greatest lessons. I try and take my own advice so I hope you don't think I'm opinion bashing so to speak (like bible bashing). so many of them on this site! amazing!!!!
My mom was a little older when she got married and pregnant I think. She was 27 when she got married and like 32 or 33 pregnant with my 27 yr old brother.
See ya. Email me if you'd like to exchange ideas about what can be done, what works and what doesn't. smirti_n@yahoo.com.
Cheers. :)
2006-06-20 12:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Light W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's her job to annoy you. As yo get older she will see you are doing ok. At that point she will back off. A little. No totally. You are easily annoyed b/c you know what you want and it may not be the same as Mom. So what. She will understand. My parents still tell me their best solutions but ultimately I choose my path. It seems you are too. Hey, be happy you have her giving you grief. Some people do not or never had it. Be grateful. Good luck!
2006-06-20 19:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Chef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers just want the best for their children, and even if you have achieved it, in her eyes there is always better and something to strive for. At 23 my mom annoyed me too, but since I've moved away I really do miss her. She just cares about you and misses you and that's why she sends pointless emails, etc. Grin and bear it and be thankful that you have a mother that loves you.
2006-06-20 19:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers have an amazing ability to be irritating even when they do not mean to be. Just be sure to reinforce to her that you are truly happy with the paths you have chosen. If she continues to give you unsolicited advice...ignore it. Don't answer emails or even read them if you do not feel like it. I know one of the reasons that my mother and I get on each others nerves is because we are so similar in temperament. It will get better.
2006-06-20 20:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try like stoppping all communications with ur mom to think bout this situation. move somewhere else, change ur phone number, change ur email address, etc. if u dont wanna do that then tell her that u dont want to c her anymore cuz u wanna sort out some feelings but shes in the way. but i think ur mom just wants to stay in ur life which is y she keeps annoying u like this.
good luck
2006-06-20 19:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your MOM? You're lucky to have a Mother that cares about you...You should appreciate her..Mine is in Germany and in a Home and i`m like thousands of miles apart from her...i wish my Mom was closer... Cherish the time with her..
2006-06-20 19:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she loves you. She probably misses you ALOT. You need to spend time with her, and treat her like you want to be treated, calm down- it's just a stage in life. You really do love her, you probably have many other things going on in life and she's just one a those things that makes you more annoying and mad. She is'nt that bad, she loves you.
2006-06-20 19:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by *~<3~* Дпﺃмдℓ ℓo٧ε٢ *~<3~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL
It's going to get worst!
My mom gets on my nerves. I can't move anywhere that her and dad don't follow me. Just tune her out. When she talks tune it out.
That's about all you can do. I'm 33 and she is on me 24-7
Calls about 15 times a day. I'm the oldest! Wish she'd call my sister and leave me along.
Good Luck!
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2006-06-20 19:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is jealous of the life you have for yourself and wished she did things differently. It also could be about control over you. She raised you and your the one thing that turned out alright. I am just guessing. Don't let it piss you off. Just talk to her and have a relationship with her before its too late.
2006-06-20 19:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom wants to control your life. You have established a good life on your own and definitely don't want or need any interference. You resent her for trying to butt in. Good Luck.
2006-06-20 19:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by older woman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋