Well my girlfriend is going to some self help introduction class tomorrow with her bestfriend. this friend of hers i guess has been going for several months now. i really dont want my girlfriend to go to this thing. It's for over 3 hours, and she does not need any help like that. She has herself together very well. i dont know any of the people at this thing, and my problem also is that she has no intention of going to this ever again. I told her i was concerned about her going, and did not feel comfortable with it, and she is still going. I feel very frustrated that she did not even think twice about it. We have been dating for over a year, and I would think that by now if neither one of us wants the other to do something....we shouldnt. what should i do? we got into a fight about it last night, and i feel disrespected, and afraid of this freakish sounding class.
2006-06-20 12:39:50 · 4 answers · asked by alilfishy06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its called compromising in a relationship. and i was not asked to go. this class has no value to her friend either, since she already knows whats going on. my girlfriend has a hard time saying no to her friends because she is afraid of them being mad at her. dont harp on me, i asked for advice, not for you people to jump on me, so in that case keep your opinion to your damn self.
2006-06-20 12:49:33 · update #1
thanx daisy. i doubt its anything like Dr.Phil. this thing is over 3 hours long. i would know if there was something wriong with her....we can read eachother like a book.
2006-06-20 13:00:19 · update #2
This problem has been resolved....thanks for your time
2006-06-21 08:51:30 · update #3
I guess it depends what the class is about. If it's some whacko new age type thing that's one thing, but if it's a legit "Dr. Phil" type thing, it shouldn't be a problem. Everyone has some issues, even if they think they've got it together. Maybe she knows her issues but you don't.
2006-06-20 12:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems determined to go and even if she has her life together she may want to support her friend. Self-help classes are sometimes fun. She may be bored, she may not like it, but that's for her to decide.
I don't understand what the problem is. It sounds more to me like you're trying to control where she can and cannot go. If she wants to go, let her. If you keep harping on her about it and getting into fights then I see a very bleak future for your relationship.
2006-06-20 19:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over yourself if she wants to go let her go. If you've been dating that long shouldn't you respect her wishes for wanting to go
2006-06-20 19:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Big Buddha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are concerned, go with her...
2006-06-20 19:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by honeycinnebun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋