TODAYI FOUND OUT THAT 1 MONTH AGO MY BOYFRIEND OF 5 YRS CHEATED ON ME WITH MY BEST FRIEND WHILE I WAS PASSED OUT DRUNK. HE HAS NEVER DONE ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE THAT I KNOW OF.
..NOW I AM HAVING MIXED FEELINGS IF I SHOULD BE WITH HIME OR NOT.
IF YOU WERE ME WOULD YOU STAY WITH HIM? OR SHOULD I PACK MY STUFF AND LEAVE TONIGHT? PLEASE HELP
2006-06-20 12:03:43 · 32 answers · asked by unpredictable. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG...Get rid of him, with your best friend. That is the lowest. Do the right thing girl, and get him out of your life.
2006-06-20 12:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 100% sure that he did it why would you want to stay? If he is going to do it once, he will do it again. If you forgive him he will have the power to walk all over you and will probably be vulnerable to do it again. I hope that girl is not your best friend anymore because she is such a horrible person to do that to you. Sit him down and tell him how you feel and if he is honest with you about what happened he can gain a little bit of dignity back. I would leave him because you have been faithfull and deserve someone that RESPECTS you and dosen't cheat. Be strong and don't let him talk you into staying with him because he lost the best thing he had!!!! Good luck!
2006-06-20 12:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by azdaizey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me my best friend slept with my ex-fiance'. It happened more than once. I tried to stay with him at first but I realized that I could not stay because i forgave him but I could not forget. It bothered me everytime I saw him aand the reason it did is because of all the women to cheat with ( no I am not saying cheating is okay) he cheated with my best friend. I also cut her out of my life becaue I felt like she must have always been thinking about getting with him since it happened more than once. The main reason I let him go is because i sat down and I made a list of all of the good things and bad things about he realtionship and I had decided that if the good outweighed the bad I would stay and if the bad outweighed the good I would leave. The main reason I left him is because I will let man make a million mistakes but he cannot keep making the same one over and over again so I hope I helped you in some way but you really need to think about if you can really move one with him and let it go and not trip
2006-06-20 12:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by blessedonein06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. It all depends on whether or not you think it will happen again. I mean people stray sometimes, especially when booze is involved. I'm not condoning it, just stating a fact.
The fact that it was the two most important people in your life is not cool tho. I think if my BF of 5 years, screwed around with my best friend, I'd drop them both! Wait a minute...that did happen to me, and I did drop them both. But my current made out with a chick one night at a bar, I was super pissed, but got over it.
2006-06-20 12:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Elizoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave for a while, and get your thoughts in gear.
If you continue on with the relationship, there are going to be some MAJOR trust issues. You are never going to let him go out without you, without questioning what he's doing, or who he's with. The relationship can work, if you guys put in a lot of work to fix it. Definitely DITCH your friend, friends don't sleep with their best friends boyfriends. Because your "friend" did that, she was never really your friend in the first place.
2006-06-20 12:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by calicandy27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would dump his ***. I cannot stand a cheater or a liaer. If it only happened once, who is to say it won't happen again 5 years down the road. My bestfriend would no longer be my bestfriend. U deserve someone who will not cheat on u drunk or not. Good Luck.
2006-06-20 12:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by angelalovin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one to answer let me start by saying it's painful enough to be cheated on, not only that he cheated with your best friend they r both at fault.. while u were passed out drunk..... In my eyes they should have been taking care of u and not each other.... I would definitaly not be with him or be friends with her, they obviously were not thinkng about your feelings.... You can either forgive and forget but honeslty I would move on.....
2006-06-20 12:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by weezegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't really want to hear this....but I do say leave. I understand it is very very hard to do, but if you can stay strong, and have no contact with him, you can get over him. No reason to hate him, but that is not someone you'd want to spend the rest of your life with if he did that to you. It would also give him more reason to do it again because he knows you love him so much that you most likely will forgive him with time. There are plenty more nice guys out there for you.
2006-06-20 12:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by xalsk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater and this is very true if he really loved you he would never have done that to you drunk doesnt mean no excuse my fiance gets drunk as and he doesnt even look at another girl so theres no excuse as for your best friend she is your ex best friend dont be used and abused in this way be with people who will treat you the same way you treat them not like cows shhitt,your better than that and you proove it to both of them by leaveing him and getting her out of your life
2006-06-20 12:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you need to really think a lot about. If I were you I wouldn't leave just yet. You guys invested five years. maybe couples counseling. Just talk it out ALOT. If you feel you can never trust him again them end it. As for that friend. She has a lot of explaining to and kissing up to do.
2006-06-20 12:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by So4real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is very hard to deal with cheating. I have been through it myself. If you truly love him, I would forgive (very hard to forget) him and try to work it out. The only thing about that is I have found that when they cheat on you and you stay with them to work it out, it is VERY hard to trust them again. Good luck and I am so sorry you are going through this.
2006-06-20 12:08:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋