My 8yr old son is asking where do babies come from?

Question

How do I tell him in a non-graphic way about this. He's at the age where he doesn't believe in silly stories and also I want to give him information in the way my parents never did.

A NOTE TO JOEY: What the f**ck are you on about?? I'm talking about my son not my boyfriend! Read the question properly first and p.s. you need to get out more and lay off the heavy stuff. You're answer was waaayy to long and waaay off course!!! I'm a 34 year old mother of 2, not a teenager with a sex problem!!

Answer 1

If he's old enough to ask, he's old enough to know. Just give him the bare essentials. Just enough to ease his curiosity. You don't have to tell him the 'what' goes in the 'where' but the whole sperm and egg things goes good. have fun with it and don't giggle when you are talking to him about it either. i did.

Answer 2

Just answer the question a little bit at a time. If he asks another question, then answer that. He will eventually have enough information for the time being and stop asking questions.

Start with something like, You need a Mummy and a Daddy. The baby grows inside the Mummy's tummy.

No-one said it will be easy but keep things simple and see how it goes.

We have a book somewhere called "I know a secret". It is a good starting point. I haven't seen it for a while so can't give you the details but it is aimed a younger children.

Good luck

Answer 3

I don't agree with these other answers. I think at 8 years old you deserve the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth, otherwise his intelligence will be insulted.

It is best to be armed with the facts, rather than half truths and fairy tales.

I would tell him in a very simple yet scientific manner -

Eg - When a mummy loves a daddy he plants an egg in her that makes a baby.

Naturally, he is going to want know more, so the best thing to do is tell him.

Daddy's testicles makes the egg which grows in mummy's womb.

This will probably sound so mystical to him that it will suffice. Obviously this may have the reverse effect and you could be bombarded with questions.

Just tell him that that is how babies are made and when he is older he will understand more.

Answer 4

In the UK this person did a picture book about it. Mum and Dad tried to explain where babies come from by saying the stork brings them or they grow in pots or come in the mail and so on but the children know the truth and they draw pictures. Simple pictures of mum and dad naked and they explain that mummy's and dadies fit together and daddy puts a seed in mummys tummy. It clearly explains the fact from the child point of view. By Babette Cole and called Mummy Laid An Egg. Also try Hair In Funny Places by Babette Cole which describes the changes in puberty and these books are for young children like 5-10 yrs old. they are funny and not grapic. They make everything clear.

Answer 5

Wow - you're lucky to be asked. My five year old daughter "told" me how babies are conceived, then asked if she was right. Apparently, one of her little friends at school had been explained the process, then the little girl passed the info onto her friends.

Just remember - he's only curious. Only give him information that he needs and let him ask further questions - but give him accurate information.

Tell him that daddies have sperm and that mommies have eggs, and when they get together, a baby gets made. If he asks how they get together, just explain in simple terms using the proper names for body parts.

Simple isn't always graphic. Good luck!!

Answer 6

I have an 8 year old and he knows all about it apart from how the sperm gets from daddy's willy into mummys tuppy to water her seed in her tummy.

Let him watch discovery health (birthing programmes), like my son did when I was pregnant with the twins and just answer any questions as honestly as you can.

I've not told my son the sex part yet as I feel he's not ready, but he has nearly caught us in the act a few times, so I think he may have an idea lol

Answer 7

my little boy was 7 when he asked me that!! I told him that a baby comes from mummys tummy. he the said how does iit fit through!!! so i asked 'through where?' he answered 'come through the mouth!!!' so just ezplained that he has a penis and ladies have 'ladies bits' which are different from mens bits and that thats how tha baby gets out. i also said that a baby does not get in mummys belly unless the mummy and the daddy love each other very much and really want a baby. he liked that bit, because it sorted out any concerns he might have. i do believe that if you skirt the question this confuses kids and can scare them if they are hearing conflicting things off freinds from school and stuff. just to give an example: a 13 year old boy i was at school with announced one day that he had got his first period! obviously he was a laughing stock. eventually it turned out he had had his first wet dream. but no one had ever told him about either of these things. my mum started her period at a young age. when it happened her mother was out and there was just her dad and 2 brothers. no one had told her about periods so she thought she was bleeding to death. beware the lies.

Answer 8

well first off you need to be honest. try telling him when a mommy and a daddy love each other they decided to have a baby! and the mommy and daddy spend some alone time together, and then the mommy gets pregnant, and the baby grows inside of her! you can go into more details about the pregnancy but try not to go into to much details about the sex. good luck! I hope mine doesn't ask at that young of an age!

Answer 9

Just be honest and use the appropriate terms for body parts, if you need help there are tons of books out there on the subject. I have an 8 y/o myself...she knows where the baby's grow and how they come out, but she hasn't asked me how they get there yet, lol. If she does ask me, I'll have to be honest with her, that's just how it should be. If you lie to your kid they will find out and then they probably will have a harder time coming to you with lifes questions. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to our children!

Answer 10

Tell him they come from mummy's tummy and then leave it at that.

If he goes on to ask more questions then answer them truthfully and honestly. You don't have to go into too much detail at this stage, unless he really really is intrigued and won't let up on the subject.

My mum was completely honest with me and all my brothers and sisters with sex and everything, and today we all have a fantastic relationship with her in which we can go to her with any problems or questions or request advice.

It's when kids don't have the proper facts is when things can get screwed up later (teenage years).

Answer 11

He should receive sex-education at school. I'm not sure that it is non-graphic enough though. He probably hears a fair amount from friends whose parents are less concerned about the manner in which their children learn than yourself so it may help to ask him how much he knows already.