i know it sounds weird, but she was making out with a guy she's made out with numerous times, and somehow she was apparently laying on her stomach and he, you know, put it in. she didn't really know what was happening at the time, but once she realized, she made him pull it out right away because she wasn't ready and she was basically in shock. she wasn't mad, she just feels weird now and she wants to talk to me about all of it because i'm experienced. i just really don't know what to say, other than i think she should have a positive and longer experience with this same guy, because she cares about him and he's the one who she'll remember as her first regardless of how it was. any suggestions or advice? anyone have a similar situation?
Thank you!
2006-06-20 11:54:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was naked, but she was not - she had underware on... however, i also stated that it was "bound to happen" and she agreed. she's just shaken up becuase she's just coming to understand that it just wasn't the meaniingful fairytale she was hoping for. how many people have that, though? honestly! anyway, thank you for the answers so far, i enjoy the advice.
2006-06-20 12:17:56 · update #1
I think she should wait til she's ready, not feel obligated to have sex with him just because it sort of happened already. But quit making out to that extent if she's not ready.
2006-06-20 12:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accident? Did someone fall out of a tree and suddenly intercourse? First, why were they naked if nothing was going to happen? Second, if you don't know what that was and you see BOTH his hands, it's pretty much proof positive that he isn't doing circus tricks. Here's the sad truth: She may have lost her virginity under circumstances not by her choice. I'm sure she was down for the fooling around but surprise. She didn't condone it. That's an iffy area. What should you say to your friend? Well, that's going to be up to you. Whatever you feel comfortable with. For starters, your friend has to come to grips that her first time has come and gone. Sorry. Now it's up to her as a young adult to decide if this guy is worth pursuing. I point this out because he clearly "entered without knocking". Hell! It could be a misunderstanding. I don't know. It's up to her.
2006-06-20 12:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she was naked it was bound to happen
2006-06-20 12:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by RENE H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your uncomfortable talking t oher about then tell her,.if you want to and are willing to gvive her advice then do so.....
2006-06-20 12:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by rossmeryrule 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋