ok im a christian and im 14.. is it ok that i want to make out with me boyfriend...is it ok that i have those kinds of feelings... i really need help i think it is going to progress to something more than just making out...i need your help...
2006-06-20 11:53:04 · 5 answers · asked by mixed-baby 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
thanx for everyones help.... i really thank you.. i know its going to be hard but im going to try my hardest to hold me wants in... i dont want to disobey my God....
2006-06-20 12:22:37 · update #1
I work with my youth group and I would say this to you. Making out is bad. U have to be careful with what you do and where you do it. Holding hands and quick pecks okay in the mall. In a dark room at home by yourselves, not okay. Things will only lead to bigger things if you allow them to, but the bible says to be wise in all things that you do and making out is not wise.
Also, you 14. Your too young. I would say wait! Do your parents know, are you allowed to date? If not, then making out is beyond the issue, your disobeying your parents. That's the bigger issue.
You can email me anytime...BTW....I'm mixed, black and white too!
2006-06-20 12:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by trulyblssd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to have those kinds of desires. But one thing leads to another if you cross the line you shouldn't cross.
I've heard of a Christian couple would had a rule that they wouldn't make out for more than ten seconds. Eventually they broke that rule and things went way too far in a hurry. That making out rule wasn't strong enough for that couple.
God provides a way out of every temptation. You need to take the way out while it's still there.
There's no real guideline to what you should do and what you shouldn't do. But you're far better off having too conservative of guidelines to follow than having boundaries that aren't strict enough.
I'm not really a youth leader but if you would like you can certainly e-mail me to discuss this more at adamwigdahl@hotmail.com
2006-06-20 12:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by awigdahl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay that you want to make-out but if you know in your heart and mind that it will lead to something else that you are not ready for? You are 14 years old you have the rest of your life to have a boyfriend, I would focus on yourself and grow up more in your life so that, that "makingout" doesn't become something you just did.
Try this, think about what you want in life and if you do makeout with this boy what benefit do you get at that age? Try focusing on yourself and get to know what you want in life and a mate smile
2006-06-20 12:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by AlwaysLaughing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
technacilly as humans we have lustful spirits but we cant really help that but you shoulnt make out cuz it would cause more things to happen and god said not to have pre marital sex means kissing i think but hugs will work .also its better to have married sex because all the sexual urges will biuld up so when you get married you can release those feeling on your mate and know that he/she is yours to have and know that he/she is clean and you can wear each other out to the cows come in.oh Im 13 and im christan hope it helps
2006-06-20 12:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The others have good points. I would say add that no matter what you do, do it with all the respect for yourself that you deserve. And you deserve a lot. (and btw, if the guy doesn't respect you, drop him like a hot potato cuz he doesn't deserve you.)
2006-06-20 12:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋