So the thing is that my family RSVP'd 5 people and one of my brothers does not want to go anymore. So do you think it would be alright if i took my girlfriend? I mean it is my cousin's wedding but i really havent seen her in like 8 years so i cant really ask her. Please Help........
2006-06-20 11:17:56 · 30 answers · asked by oods00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't see anything wrong with it, if there is an empty space and they are expecting 5 people.
2006-06-20 11:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by aqsgtriad 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your fiancé are paying, then you and he should be the only ones with input into the guest list. I think your fiancé should ask his brother if it is that important to have his gf there when they have not been together very long. I believe his cousin's girlfriend having a paid trip is beyond reason. I'm not sure whom the other three are -- are they important to your fiancé? I'm guessing not, or he would have requested them in the first place. I think some of the money for all these extra guests should be put into helping at least some of your immediate family come to the wedding. But of course I'm not sure of all the particulars -- it may not just be money holding them back.
2016-03-26 23:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By this time your brother's dinner has already been ordered and doubtless paid for, so someone may as well use it. Your cousin will be far too busy to notice or care about the substitution and the important thing is that you will have a better time with your girlfriend beside you. When you approach your cousin to congratulate her, you can say what a great time you're having and really mean it. Hope you guys have a great time. Let us know if your girlfriend catches the bouquet!
2006-06-20 11:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a very recent bride, I would counsel you to *definitely* not bring your girlfriend without asking. It is not an even substitution (swap your girlfriend for your brother). You are right that the total number of guests won't change, so you wouldn't affect too many things in terms of money, but you have to remember that many other things besides money go into planning a wedding. The "details" that the bride cares so much about and gets freaked out about (the handwritten place cards, assigned seating, favors, etc.) may change if one of the invited guests changes. The bride will probably not appreciate you changing a guest and therefore changing or messing up details that she has carefully planned. If you want to ask her permission to bring your girlfriend (after, of course, telling your brother to call *himself* and regretfully un-rsvp), that would be fine. It is not polite to ask the bride to bring someone who would add a guest to the total number (say, your girlfriend if your brother were still coming), but it is ok to ask her to substitute. But, I'm sorry, you have to ask her, no matter how uncomfortable it makes you. Weddings are not only a financial investment, but they can stir up a lot of drama and emotions. It isn't right to add to the stress by bringing an uninvited guest. If you feel uncomfortable asking your cousin to bring your girlfriend, you should feel uncomfortable bringing your girlfriend without asking.
2006-06-20 12:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by colivas5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up toyour brother to inform the couple he cannot go to the wedding so expenses aren't spent on him for the reception, etc. It is rude to ask the couple if you can bring someone. It is rude to bring someone in place of someone else. You need to go alone, or stay home. But don't forget to inform the couple you won't be going after all.
You NEVER bring a guest to anything especially a wedding without being given an invitation. It is said Mr. So than Mr. So is invited NOT Mr. So and friend.
2006-06-20 11:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expalin the situation to your cousin, it's his wedding he has to understand....explain the situation. He should understand. Point out you really love your girlfriend as much as he probably loves his bride to be. He could be a sucker for that line. It's really nice that you wan't to do that and I don't think he would reject such a nice offer. Plus it's not like you are adding more people. It's still the same amount and you are asking him. Good luck and I hope she can go with you. :)
2006-06-20 11:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This wouldn't be rude at all, on the contrary it would be very good of you to fill this last spot as you cousin has probably already paid for all of the people who responded favorably to the invitation. Just make sure you bring a memorable gift.
2006-06-20 11:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be a problem, but if I were you I wouldn't do it. You haven't seen your cousin in eight years and you wanna bring a girlfreind? Take a step back and put yourself in your cousin's place. Would you want a distant family member bringing a complete stranger to your wedding?
2006-06-20 11:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it, when you have a wedding you dont go around and do a spot check to make sure all the correct people are there. she probably wont even notice your girlfriend is there, and the food is already paid for for 5 people, thats why people say RSVP for weddings.
2006-06-20 11:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your cousin would mind if your girlfriend came to her wedding with you.Trust me on your cousin's wedding day,your date will be the furthest thing from her mind.Besides,like you mentioned,there is room for one more guest anyhow.If it would make you feel better,why don't you speak to your cousin anyway?Call her.It doesn't matter if you haven't seen her in eight years,you are still family.Good Luck and have fun with your date and Best wishes!
2006-06-20 11:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be fine. I mean the family RSVP'd 5, go for it dude. if not than you could at least have her crash the reception after dinner.
2006-06-20 14:05:36 · answer #11 · answered by NS42day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋