i am 21 years old and i am single i haven't been in a stable realtionship for God knows how long. What is wrong with me? am i destined to be alone and miserable? how can i have some many friends and yet no boyfriend? help me !!!
2006-06-20 10:55:30 · 45 answers · asked by funnybindi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you have bad smell.??..honestly , bad smell is the big problem....and also your smile....take care of these too things and you will see the result.
if you don't have these two problems, that means they are sick and blind.
maybe the others are going to say if you are nice its ok..... no it is not enough. for me i want my girlfriend when she smiles,.like the sun......you cann't resist to kiss.
2006-06-20 11:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hey, don't get down on yourself! That's the fastest way to repel a prospective guy. You're only 21 and that's plenty of time to find someone special. Don't rush it! Stop equating being alone with being miserable. I know plenty of people in couples who are miserable. It's better to be single than to settle for someone who isn't right for you. Instead of wallowing in this self-made misery pool you've created, get your butt out there. Involve yourself in activities you enjoy. What do you like to do? Sports? Painting? Writing? Anything? There are so many hobbies and activities out there...one must be of interest to you. By doing things that you enjoy, you'll meet other people with those same interests. You could make new friends who could possibly have brothers or friends of their boyfriends that might be a wonderful match for you. Or you could meet a guy doing what you love to do best. Smile and think positive thoughts and remember that happy people attract other happy people. Good luck!
2006-06-20 11:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's time for a self check. how do you act when your with your friends compared with a boyfriend? and do a serious look. and also look at the guys your going for. that can be a big thing. and besides, 21 is still very young. you can't say that your going to be alone and miserable forever just because you havn't had a long lasting relationship at 21.
2006-06-20 11:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by majaji_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unlike the other answers , I' 21 and engaged to be married next year. But your young as am i and you have plenty of time to find smeone to have a stable relationship with. Also think back on your past relationships and see what happened to end those ones. if there is a patern, there is your starting point to fixing your problem.
Good luck and God bless
2006-06-20 11:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you from what your describing above...
I didnt hit a stable relationship till 21 and it was at the point that I was fed up with guys, I stopped looking, and secluded myself inside my apartment for months on end only going to work and not socializing. I thought id never find a guy that would accept me for me, and that id be alone for a long time.
However fate decided to throw me a curve ball and give me a guy unexpectedly that accepts me, and loves me more than I could ever hope so. So much that he smothers me with love and it puts me in shock because I went from completely love deprived to so much love I was drowning in it.
So my advice would be, live your life, and if it happens that your given a great guy, incorperate him into your life and make him your own, but dont put your life on hold for any guy.
2006-06-20 11:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Vampress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know how to answer this. I have only been with one guy for a long time and we became best friends. I don't think that you are meant to be alone though. I think that you will meet someone in the most unlikely place if you look for it. I meet my b/f on a marine base, and I thought he was the biggest dork in the world. We hit it off right away. So there is your example. Good luck.
2006-06-20 11:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't in a stable relationship until this year, and I'm older than you.
Try taking a new class or picking up a new hobby- gear away from the old and do something good for yourself. By improving your mind and having fun, you might meet a new hottie who's all you've been missing.
2006-06-20 10:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by lookdontlook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are 21. and at 21, guys have the maturity level of like a 16-year old. plus, speaking from experience, this is the time for you to forge your own identity. get into a committed relationship too soon and you lose out on yourself.
2006-06-20 10:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by rhiannon2797 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gyrl nothing is wrong with u.You might jus be coming on strong jus cause u havent been in a relationship in so long.Just try to let the man do the job sometimes while u jus be loved.Dont get caught up with that person and get your feelings hurt let that person be caught up and worried about u boo. Stop searching cause he might be right in your face.
2006-06-20 11:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by Chiquita B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your just 21 I wouldn't worry about it that much sweetie. You need time to find the right one and you haven't yet or you would be with him right now. Don't rush love, it will come in time and hopefully you will be smart enough to choose Mr. Right. Best wishes!
2006-06-20 11:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by scarlett11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you need to take a valium, the reason you probably dont have a boyfriend is probably cause you arent a slut or a whore. There is more to you than a quick piece of ***. You just need to sit back, relax, and quit trying so damned hard. It will happen when its right.
2006-06-20 11:00:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋