A few weeks ago I dated this girl from a town over from me and we started talking and all that stuff. We went out a few time and well i played my "game" awesome. I was everything she could possibly want and I did, acted, and said everything she could possibly want. After a few dates of this well, I, for lack of a better word, hit that. and afterwards she wanted to cuddle and sh!t. and well i didn;t. It was getting kind of late and we were talking and I thought but didnt say I had to take her home soon. She looked at me and said," theres something I want to tell you and I'm not sure if you feel the same way" "WHOA!!!! HOLD ON!!!!" I though to myself. I looked at her and said " I have to take you home." So i did, I took her home and we were quiet on the way home because I purposely had the music really loud. After that I told her we shouldnt talk anymore and thats i would appreciate it if she wouldnt call me anymore. I said it exactly like that too.
2006-06-20 10:42:28 · 23 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you handled it pretty poorly. So poorly that I'm strongly inclined to think that you're joking.
This is pretty much like "slam, bam, thank you, ma'am," just without the "thank you, ma'am."
Go to a farm if you're looking for ho(e)s... I'm sure there are women who have the same attitudes towards sex as you do, and who will be willing to leave you after sex just as quickly as you are willing to leave them.
2006-06-20 10:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by trpmaverick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you should of heard her out,you owed that much to her,cause you knew you was going to take advantage of hitting that as you put it,and then you knew you would be done with her.You did handle it wrong,in the first place you were wrong to pretend with the lady,and secondly,you was not man enough to be honest with her afterwards about your feelings towards her.You was leading her on.You should apologize to this person,for making her feel as though she didn't matter,she mattered at the time,right?You might have been going threw life in the past like this,but eventually,this will come home to haunt you for mistreating woman in such a manner.Grow up and be a gentleman,like you are supposed to be.Don't put a bad rep to your name,if you haven't already.If you are not into having a relationship,then leave the good women alone and find yourself one on the corner or something for your pleasures,if that's all your wanting out of life.I mean it's not wrong for not wanting in a serious relationship if you don't want it,but at the same time,it's not cool to use or play on people's emotions either. Hope you didn't let your ship go by with Ms.Right from your actions!Good Luck to you!
2006-06-20 11:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all your a DOG. So what more can we expect. Ok sorry for the name calling but how can we get on you for being yourself. Your are the guy mothers and fathers warn their beloved daughters all about. I just feel sorry because that girl got swept off her feet by a real player. There really is no right way to do it because you dont really care about her so if you let her down softly you really wouldnt have meant it so you were yourself, PERIOD!!
2006-06-20 11:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nickerbockers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you dealt with this wrong! she has feelings and you denied her those! First of all you should have cuddled! You don't seem to care about this girl outside of sex! You seem to be the player and you took this girls feelings and twisted them to suit your own sexual agenda! That is so perverse! You want a "Booty Call" there are plenty of women out there that enjoy this. Its wrong to get someone to care for you so you can have sex them! Not only that when she tried to share those feelings you shut her down! Here's what you could have done........... "thats sweet you feel that strongly about me, I care for you and enjoy your company but my feelings are not as strong ...yet." "Perhaps in time they will be." "Can we continue to see each other until that time comes or will it be too hard for you?" That would be the right way to deal with this.
2006-06-20 10:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you handled the situation wrong. You came off as a jerk,
from what I can tell, got afraid of any sort of commitment, and ran off. This girl was probably looking for something that lasted a little longer.
2006-06-20 10:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by highstrung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welp I dont think that was cool at all i mean i am a women and i dont like to be disrepected in that kinda way ... I think it was wrong for u to tell her what she wanted to hear just so as you say u could hit it !! you shouldnt play with ppls emotions you big weenie LOL if you wanted a booty call you coulda been real about it .. its her falt for letting yo *** play her the way you did ..but you wer wrong for doing it .. hope your proud of yourself thats terrible I always stayed away from you botty callerz haha I know A funky pair of lips will tell you anything you wanna hear! that was dirty dude .. so yup i think u handled it way wrong but to each there own I guess ..just always remember what comes around goes around ..maybe one day ur gonna meet a girl and she will throw her game at you and you will get hurt ..your gonna kno how it feels .. you needa learn how to keep it real welp lata playa
2006-06-20 10:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an a$$hole! You pretend to be the "perfect" man for her, and when you finally get what you want, you treat her like sh*t! No wonder she was falling for you, can you blame her? If you act like everything she wants in a man. Then you don't even have the decency to TALK to her?? You don't deserve a girl.
2006-06-20 10:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would say you did. your "game" gave her the impression that you were really into her and probably loved her. She then gave herself to you and you just took advantage of that. you are the reason why men get such a bad reputation. if only you were honest with her from the get go you would have gotten the piece of *** you wanted (probably the only reason for your "game") and wouldn't have put her emotions on the line. you will never find happiness when treating people this way.
2006-06-20 10:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm yes you handled that wrong!!!...
I mean,what if she wanted 2 tell you that she had some sort of STD? Or that you were her first..., or that she wanted to be in a relationship with you. I think you should have let her tell you what she was planning to tell you, then take the situation from there..but now you will never know...
2006-06-20 10:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Nope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You confused her with your actions...
You are also confused yourself for not knowing what you want out of this relationship.
Do you like her? If so, why did you ask her not to call you anymore? That was nasty.
If you don't like her, why did you do and say all the nice things to make her fall?
2006-06-20 10:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋