What could I do I got a Wedding on Sept 2nd?

Question

Things are planned for that date and her family is help a little with expensive. On the other hand we have to pick up the rest and we are tight on fiances. I have alot to pay for yet and don't how I can go about getting things done. Help me out give me some ideas!!!

Oh I can't borrow anymore money. Too far in debt by the way it sucjs.

Answer 1

the best thing to do is to NOT PANIC!you think everythings going wrong,but if this marrage was ment to be,then this will smoothen out

Answer 2

First, don't go into debt to have a big wedding, that's crazy. Second, scale back the size of this wedding. It's obviously too big if you are so stressed trying to figure out how to pay for. Cut the guest list back, find a cheaper hall, etc.

Find a hall that doesn't have a liquor license. It's much cheaper to bring in your own, typically they mark up liquor 100%. Also, to really save money, only serve beer and wine and soft drinks. A buffet is usually cheaper than a sit down dinner and it's nicer. Everyone can pick what they want to eat instead of getting whatever shows up on the plate. I usually starve at sit down dinners, because they're usually something I won't eat.

Don't let the florist talk you into $50 centerpieces. Not necessary, there are lots of centerpieces that can be done for less than $10. Go to your local arts and crafts store, buy a glass bowl, fill part way with water and float some blooms in the water. Much less than a typical florist arrangement. If the bowl is shallow enough you can also put a pillar candle in it. Check out the neat centerpieces they did on Design on a Dime wedding, link below.l

Don't buy a four figure wedding gown. I have seen a $5000 gown up close and personal and I'm here to tell you, it doesn't look that much better than a $500 gown from Davids. You can't tell the difference at all in the pictures or on the video.

Don't rent limos or any other kind of transport, they're a very expensive, waste of money. I went to my wedding in my dad's pickup (it looked nice, not a beater). We left the church in my mom's car, she has a nice Cadillac.

I will say that you should spend as much as you can on a photographer. This is the only part of your wedding that is permanent. Go with the best person you can afford.

Don't buy really expensive invitations, no one but you and maybe your mom, will keep them. I ordered mine from one of the companies that advertises in the wedding magazines. Send away for all those catalogs and order from one that you like.

Order a small tiered wedding cake to cut, instead of a cake that will serve everyone, and have sheet cakes in the back that the caterer can serve to guests. Also, a good place to get a cake that's not too expensive is a grocery store with a good bakery.

Skip favors all together or go with something simple and inexpensive. Wrap up some Hershey kisses in tulle and your good to go.

Another course of action you might want to consider is a destination wedding on a cruise or at an all inclusive resort. You get your wedding and honeymoon all in one, plus you can invite whoever you want but you don't have to pay for a reception because it's all inclusive. Friends of ours did this in December and it was fun. We got a 4 day vacation and a great wedding on a beautiful island. I don't remember how much it cost us, but it wasn't bad, since we got a vacation out of it. Not everyone will come if you do this, but I'll bet the people who would complain the most (parents and siblings) will come. Good luck

Answer 3

Well there are a few things you can do to cut on costs. First, congrats on your wedding.

(1) Weddings are a business...people are willing to pay thousands and thousands of dollars. That's how DJ, florists, bakers, etc can charge so much. Shop around, make calls, get estimates, and play the bartering game. A wedding is an investment. Don't throw your money away.

(2) Search the internet. Craig's list is awesome (http://www.craigslist.org/about/cities.html) . I found a florist student who is going to make my flowers at cost with no charge for making them. She is also going to store and deliver the flowers to me. There are photographers, florist, DJ's all over the internet. Search!

(3)Now you are getting married on a Saturday....which is ALWAYS going to be more expensive. If you would have chosen a Friday or Saturday, it would have cut your cost in half at least. So, plan on spending more, as places charge more on that day. Or, do something like hire a friend to play the music at the weddings and order your flowers wholesale over the internet and make the bouquets yourself. There are a ton of possibilities!

(4) You can find nice gifts and cheap favors on theknot.com and orientaltradingcompany.com.

I know the struggles with money in this time, as I am getting married this October. I hope all goes well and I wish you the best.

Answer 4

marriage is a long commitment. Hopefully for life. You indicate that you are not sure that you can pay the expenses for a ceremony that lasts only an afternoon.

living together means that there will be expected as well as unexpected expenses. perhaps you need to simplify the ceremony, or come up with a ceremony you can afford. I hope that you have planned the cost of living arrangements after your wedding better than the ceremony itself.
If the plans for life after the ceremony are falling by the wayside, perhaps you may need to step back a little and postpone the ceremony until both of you are on the same page.

Answer 5

First let me say ~ Congrats!!!
After reading prior posts I must agree with "maigen obx"...she has some very usefull ideas since you stated plans were already in the works. Enjoy~
If you did not have invitations and the like done as of yet my advise would have been to go to the Justice of the Peace, arrange for a formal dinner party with family and several friends.Take the money you would have spent on a "semi-expensive" wedding and use towards your advantage( start paying down the credit cards, open savings account for house, invest etc) Then on your 5th Anniversary you can re-new your vows with a "Destination Wedding Cruise".(This is what we would have done. Next year for our 20th we are going to the Keys to re-new our vows with our children,family and friends.Then we will go on a cruise)

Answer 6

Try a second job.

As far as cost saving things, think about a meet and greet reception. A little finger food that you make yourself the morning before. Perhaps, if you two are up to it making small cupcakes and decorating and arranging them yourselves instead of traditional cake. Chose very inexpensive gift favors like hershey kiss wedding bells. Or don't have favors at all.

Don't use a florist if you don't have to. In September there are plenty of blooms you can use. Make your own bouquets and bouteneirs. Much cheaper and very graceful.

Print your own wedding invitations. You can get kits with about fifty invites for about $25 at Target. This has the invite, rsvp, inner and outer envelopes. Everything and some of them are actually cute. Or you can design your own and print them on card stock. Rather then spend money on extra postage consider having an rsvp email address. They are free at yahoo. That's what we did. Something cute like [e-mail] or [e-mail] (Of course you'll insert your own names.) It is amazing how the little expenses like postage add up.

If you need anymore cost saving ideas you can email me at [e-mail]

Answer 7

You can have a nice wedding,without all the expense by cutting down some,like maybe in the flowers,for example,instead of roses use carnations,in the food,for example,instead of sit down and pay by the plate,have a buffet style,it is just as nice and is alot cheaper,also,have the groomsmen and the bridesmaids rent or pay for their own suits and dresses.This is common now,so it is not weird to ask of such.Maybe have a family member take pictures,you can rent a real nice professional camera alot cheaper,you will have to pay for the developing of course,but this might be the cheaper way to go.With all this in mind of trying to cut back,makes it more for you and her to have and enjoy on the honeymoon.I think you will be glad you did,and this can take the stress off alittle.Also,this is both of yours to plan,not the family,yes,it's nice to have the help and advice,but this needs to be between you two on how you want your wedding day to be.Best Wishes to you both and Good Luck!

Answer 8

If you can't borrow the money, you have no money, things are tight...........you need to have a small but nice wedding. Invite ONLY close family and friends. Have a small reception. For example.....meat tray, veggie tray, and trimmings, or have a cake, chips, pretzels, and that's it. That's all my niece had as she couldn't afford anything else. It was nice.

She had small sandwiches with those little rolls with homemade chicken salad on them already made up. Chip, pretzels, and nuts, the wedding cake and punch. You do not need to have booze.....we didn't either......or a lot of things you can not afford. Good Luck

Answer 9

Just get the nessesiitys have someone bake you a cake buy cheap paper plates and all and as for the flowers and stuff like that you dont need none to decorate the church really and as for the cake you really dont have to have that either for music play music by cds and have someone in charge of turning off at appropitate times and all this is hard when your short of money but remember its your day noone elses and you dont have to please anyone but yourselves. I dont really know what else there is you need to buy so cant help you much hope this helps some!

Answer 10

is a big wedding all that necessary?

i just got married to my husband 6 months ago, it was wonderful, and memorable, and my parents paid for everything. so it didnt cost us a dime. IF we had HAD to pay for it all we would have eloped and it would have been wonderful, and memorable.

and dont feel pressured by the date, seriously!
your supposed to be with this person the rest of your life! you can wait another month if you need to.