I couldn't fathom fantasizing about another man. I am devoted to my husband. He on the other hand, looks at porn, teen porn to be specific, which I am very weirded out about. And he says when he does it, it has nothing to do with me. Which makes me feel even worse. I think he has a problem. He's too old to be looking at young teenagers in the first place. I feel like he's poisoning our marriage, and I strongly feel that it's immoral.
2006-06-20 10:38:50 · 36 answers · asked by vbg2006 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I thought that way for a long time...Its normal as long as he isn't cheating it is fine...he can't touch the girls, and probably wouldn't even if he could it is all fun and games...nothing serious...Just look at it in a different point of view.
2006-06-20 10:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-27 10:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person that can say if it is immoral or not to look at porn is you. You are the ultimate one who needs to draw the line about that and it is up to him to respect your wishes or blow you off.
I know a lot of people who look at porn together. I also know some who would never dream of it and become grossed out. The problem arises when you have two people with different sets of values trying to make a marriage work.
I would suggest going to counseling because the real problem is not that he watches porn (teen porn to be specific which might need some extra counseling), but that you both have some seriously different ideas on what is right and wrong in core values of how to live. This needs to be straightened out or one or the other will be unhappy and feel disrespected.
Good luck to you and I hope you find your answer here.
2006-06-20 10:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Doodlebug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, it has nothing to do with you. Dogs bark, leaves grow on trees, and men like to look at naked women. It doesn't matter what kind of wife you are or what you do, he will still want to look at naked women. If he says he doesn't, he's lying.
The "teen porn" is probably not really "teen" porn. The VAST majority of websites that offer "teen" porn host images of women from 18-21 years of age. Many adult industry "teens" are much older, but look young.
If the pornography is ACTUALLY exploiting adolescent girls, that's a BIG problem. The adult industry has historically been very strict about policing themselves against child pornography. Of course, hosting or viewing sexual images of any person under the age of eighteen is illegal anywhere the US. If your husband is actually watching "young teenagers" in sexual situations, you must put a stop to it. He would be in serious violation of the law (secular AND MORAL), and you could be charged with abetting for knowing about it and doing nothing.
2006-06-20 10:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by marbledog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
porn is immoral and an illogical waste of time. If a man looks at porn he is sick and twisted and if it's TEEN porn it's just a matter of time before you're stuck trying to decide to bail him out when he gets arrested for being a pedophile. Leave the loser....fast.
2006-06-20 11:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by hopeful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husbands issues are probably deeper than what meets the eye and you probably already know that....he should respect your wishes as the woman in the relationship...you should be able to discuss them and compromise...teen porn, no one should be looking at...and porn while you are married i think is an open door to other things in the marriage, or outside it....and it is offensive..i don't know why so many men say it means nothing when it obviously does..or he could give it up just as fast. I'll keep you in my prayers.
2006-06-20 10:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing immoral about human nature. Though I would worry about his watching teen porn and see if it leads to child pornography. If that happens, do not hesitate, leave quickly and call the police.
2006-06-20 10:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Wylie Genius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over 18 teen porn or under 18 teen porn?
2006-06-20 10:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because it is disrespecting you. Marriage is covenant between you,your husband and God. Pornography defiles it. Your husband must know that you are uncomfortable with this. Pray for your husband. Do your part as a wife by asking here what needs improvement in your love life. Communicate with him. Love him and don't nag. Possibly seek counseling with your pastor or a professional marriage counselor. God Bless!
2006-06-20 10:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Pashur 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is very harmful and addictive. Photos of kids are also illegal. If he has been into this for a long time it will be hard for him to give up, if he were willing to. A man of integrity would stay away from this trash, especially as it is harmful to his marriage, his wife's self esteem, and, probably your kids, if you have any. Trust me, your kids know where the porn is kept! I did!
2006-06-20 10:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% correct that it is wrong and poisoning your marriage. When your husband looks at porn, he is giving something over to that that should only be reserved for you. You should be the only one that he desires sexually. Pornography even outside of marriage has serious spiritual and psychological reprocussions. You should encourage him to seek help.
2006-06-20 10:46:41 · answer #11 · answered by indychic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋