My Boyfriend and I have been having problems lately, he has a lot of friends that are girls and has been going out with them alone, and getting dressed up nicely. My family thinks that he is treating me badly, and thinks i should loose him. he no longer wants affection or kisses, and we never do anything together. Im trying to give him a chance to change. A. How long should I give him, and should I leave him. I dont know if I can get over all his friends that are girls What do I do?
2006-06-20 10:27:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is really only one thing you can do; assess your feelings for him, and then tell him your worries/desires/fears. No one can tell you how long you should give him or whether or not you should leave him. Only you can determine that. When your heart tells you that it is over and time to end it, that is when you should do it. The only thing you can do is to tell him your feelings, and go from there. See where his head is. Maybe though, it would be best for you to end this now than to have to potentially endure greater heartache in the future. Only you can make that determination, however.
2006-06-20 10:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If boyfriend has any chance of success with a longterm relationship with you, there must be a healthy dose of respect for you. The idea that you accept him going with other girls and that you discuss this with your family suggests that you are not clear what is acceptable behavior.
If his example shows intentional belief that your relationship is not exclusive then there will not be any changes on his part and you are wasting your time to convert him to your plan.
If you two have discussed this before about being an exclusive relationship and he still disrespects you, find another.
2006-06-20 17:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by checkforu2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is acting that way toward you I would leave him. He won't change, if he like that kind of attention from other girl instead of you. Then it is better that you leave him. Don't wait, your just wasting you time. If he ain't kissing or giving affection then you should know something is going on with him. If he really loved you he would let you go where ever he went when he is with these other girls. That would show you that he loves and respects you and only you.
2006-06-20 17:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by dlbaca7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I've seen this too too many times. 90% of my experience they are cheating. Especially if he is not looking for affection from you. I hate to be blunt, but sometimes you need that to open your eyes to the scenario.
Does he ever invite you out with his friends? There are probably reasons why he doesn't. Why give him any time to change? It's not like quitting smoking where it takes time to change. He can make a conscious decision to treat you better right now.
2006-06-20 17:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you've answered your own question. Your asking because you want someone to tell you what you already know:
Break-up with him.
He doesn't sound like a bad person (neither are you), it's just that you have to be smart enough to pay attention and realize that he longer is interested. But that depends on the maturity level (and age) both of you guys are.
You see the signs and you CHOOSE to ignor them. It's now in your court.
2006-06-20 17:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's no longer interested in you if he does those things. If you love someone, you spend time with that person, simple as that.
What's the use for waiting for him to change when he doesn't intend to or find any reason to change for you.
Move on...since you don't know how to get over all his girl friends anyways.
2006-06-20 17:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My pastor always says "How can we expect change, if we keep doing the same thing over and over?" Basically you cannot expect your boyfriend to change, so YOU have to change. If you're the one who is not comfortable with the situation you're probably better off without him, meaning YOU need to leave him alone.
2006-06-20 17:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by jennymustafa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get dressed up and go out with him when he goes. If you know where he will be grab a bunch of friends and just happen to pop in there and see what is going on.
2006-06-20 17:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should leave him...if u have to feel that he's cheating then most likely he probably is. usually when people cheat they do start to act different. try talking to him and if he dosen't change then he dosen't care about your feelings especially if he is not affectionate with u anymore. it seems like to me if u don't leave him now he'll be the one to leave u later for someone else probably one of his friends he dresses up so nicely for.
2006-06-20 17:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pimpin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him any time. He won't change. Listen to your family and dump him. There are plenty of good guys out there.
2006-06-20 17:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋