I'm starting to wonder where are all the good men??

Question

Most of my friends and the women I talk 2 have this same question (you even hear it here on yahoo-answers). I mean yeah there are men out there, but who wants just anybody. What are men sooo afraid of?? By the way I'm not desperate, have low-self esteem, over rating myself, nor am I in a rush to get married; I just want a normal/decent friend.

You know coxdebate!!, you make a very good point and boy! do I know 2 many people like what you describe. But I am a very open minded person and will do anything for anybody. Having gone through an ugly relationship, just makes me Think More!! I'm not afraid, just cautious, because after repeadtly hearing the same lines with men..how/when do you know who is real or not???

Answer 1

We use to be out there. But after years of going to bars and being turned down and watching you (women) go off with jerks, we all stopped going out. Now you have to deal with the bed you made.

Also remember that the good man you turned down in your 20s b/c you thought he was not good enough for you is the man you are going to wish you had hooked up with when are alone and in your 30s

Answer 2

I know I'm a good man but in general most good men aren't very flashy with bling and fancy cars and dropping 200$ at the bar showing out. Most of us we like to take care of our selves the ones we love. Here is a secret, watch how a man treats his Job, this study was done for mostly mid class black men. It is suggested that most men treat thier women like they do a job. Always on time, depedable, Does his best every time, or always late, full of excuses, job's never done right the first time. We are out there but we get passed up becasue women don't see us as exciting. That's not the case, most of us aren't going to put our self on the line the first time we meet you.

Answer 3

Not to say that this pertains to you but I find that the majority of women that have difficulty finding a "good man" are seriously screwed up themselves. When I come across someone that continually has problems with relationships or finding a man or a woman that's worth a damn the vast majority of the time it's not because of bad luck or there being a lack of good people out there it's because she/he is generally undesirable to the "Good Men/Women" out there and they avoid her/him like the plague but instead of fixing what is wrong with themself they are convinced that it's everyone else that has the problem.

Answer 4

They are in the USA. You just need to look a while longer. Maybe one is sitting down from you or walking right by you in the super market. Get noticed by them, smile, be approachable, start talking and looking around more, you will begin to see their are men out here, who are actually looking at you. I bet you may be sending the wrong vibe out to them.

Answer 5

seems more you are the 1 afraid. Takes to time to find out if someone good or not & "who wants just anybody" not the best of attittudes.

Answer 6

Well all of us good men hide in caves and don'tr come out very often.. so you probably wont come across us very often.. im j/k actually.. you jsut gotta look for them.. get out meet new ppl.. if one guy doesnt do t for you.. get out there and meet some new ones

Answer 7

We are all around you, but you have to be looking for us. We are the ones who open doors for you, tell you that you are beautiful or gorgeous instesd of saying that you are a "hot babe" we use real words to describe it.

Answer 8

I agree with olderbutwiser... WE'RE HERE!!! And looking for the same in a woman, nobody wants to be alone in this world!!!

Answer 9

We ARE here, alive and kicking, lol. Thousands of us, alone and waiting! We are looking for the same thing in a female.....where are you all at?

Answer 10

I'm wondering the same thing, but I have come to find out that they are either already married or gay (I'm not joking either).