i am a growing teen i need to experince things like this my mom is always on my back and trippin all the tme and she never listen i am so confused ........
2006-06-20 09:51:53 · 32 answers · asked by tweetygirl_2010 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
You should listen to you Mom. She has your best interests at heart. You should NOT be having sex at your age - you're too young to even think about it. Don't try to rush to adulthood too early.
Enjoy the rest of your childhood, develop your interests, define where you want your life to go.
AND be careful not to give away too ea silly that which cannot be recovered, or reversed once it is done. In other areas, if you make a bad choice, you can take it back, or trade it in - but with this decision you cannot take it back in any way - you are stuck with it for the rest of your life - so be very careful NOT to make it a bad decision.
I know that you think you are grown, and mature, and responsible as an adult - but at 14, you are NOT yet.
Slow down. STOP. DON'T
LISTEN to you Mom, she is right on this.
2006-06-20 09:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom wants the best for you. She sees the mistakes she made and the boys she shouldn't have slept with. And is telling you things she wished were told to her. Have a open mind listen to her to . Maybe having sex and doing the things you are doing aren't the right choices. Always ask your self in the heat of the moment am I prepared at this time to accept the consequences (being pregnant, getting a life altering diseases or a minor one) . Every time you have sex you are taking that chance weather you like hearing that or not. Being 14 is hard you think you are old enough to make these decisions but you may not be ready yet. You have just started having life experiences and you just haven't had enough yet. Be patient take time to grow up because when you are a grownup you see all the immature things you did and wish you didn't. I slept with tons of guys at your age thinking I was being careful and thought my Mom was insane to think I was not able to accept the consequences of my actions. And now as a adult with 2 teenagers of my own I see now she was right. I got pregnant with a rubber and birth control at 16 and had to give my baby up because it was to hard. I tried to keep him but I was just too young and still wanted my childhood. Now at I have a child I will never know forever.
2006-06-20 10:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by misty a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 5 more teen years left in our life, don't think that you have to get all your experiences knocked out at 14. Ask yourself this question...Am I ready to have children or get an abortion?...if the answer is no then don't worry about having sex until the answer is yes. Why do you NEED to experience things like this? I think you might be a little confused right now, having sex is a big and important decision that should not be decided upon because you NEED TO EXPERIENCE IT. You are 14 and have more than enough time to experience things, have you traveled outside of the country, been snorkeling, ran a marathon, gobe skydiving??? There are many other thingsto experience besides sex that are more beneficial to you as a person and make for better stories and things to brag about. I hope you decide to make the right deisions in your life. Ask your mother, she trips because she has hope for you and wants you to achieve much more than being experienced in sex.
2006-06-20 10:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by saul_lucatero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop having sex at 14! Let your body develop fully, then if you want to, experiment!
Your mom is looking out for you and doesn't want anything to happen to you; such as STD's or pregnancy. Nothing is 100% safe for anything. It's not fun being pregnant at 14! My cousin was and her whole life got flipped up-side-down. It's not exactly possible to go to the mall with friends, check out the hot guys, have a job to pay for food, diapers, clothes etc when you're trying to go to school at the same time, all with a baby.
Just stop and think about it; put yourself in your mom's shoes for just a second. How would you feel if you had a daughter who could get an incurable illness, or pregnant? Your mom's not trying to be mean or controlling, just trying to protect you.
2006-06-20 10:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by docsgirl24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, i'm 15 and not waiting for sex. do not do it. you would sense sorry about it later and that i understand you're putting forward now that you want him yet how can you understand for effective? 2 years is a at the same time as, yeah, yet so is 5 years. My pal has been which includes her boyfriend for 5 years and he or she would not plan on having sex. (And no, she's no longer attempting to stay a chaste existence.) sex too early can damage your existence. effective, take the birth control and condom... it really is protection, even though it really isn't any longer an emotional barrier. in the destiny, you would awaken and comprehend you never wanted to attempt this.
2016-10-14 08:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, speaking out of experience because I was stupid enough to have kids at a young age. I could understand why your mom is Tripping, she cares for you and at 14 yrs old we tend to not care and do lots of stuff that we regret later. Focus on your education and even if your careful don't do things that you will regret because that will break your moms heart. I have kids now and I look out for my girls the exact same way my mom did and i understand now. Try communicating with your mom more often and let her know that if she begins to Tripp then you won't feel comfortable talking to her and don't lie to her, be open to what you think and let her speak her mind without arguing, she will be you biggest best friend no matter what. Good Luck
2006-06-20 10:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and I always had a good relationship. Your mom just wants what is best for you, and she is probably scared about pregnancy, and STD's. She was young once too, maybe she made some stupid decisions she is trying to save you from. If it is something you just can not talk about with her, consult your local birthright or whatever, you could get on birth control and they give out free condoms. USE BOTH! Pills and rings and shots do not prevent against STD's, and pills, and such can fail. Protect yourself, maybe in a few years she'll come around and be willing to view you as an adult, you are still her little baby!
2006-06-20 10:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me first say that I have never had anyone in my life ie my mother ever ask me to talk to her about things as a teen. I used to be jelous of my cousin b/c she talked to her mom about things. I wish that more parents were open to talking about things suck as sex. And I hope that when my children grow up they are comfortable talking to me...not just to get lectured or to hear what not to do or to be criticized but to listen to an opinion and to hear what we respect. Parents are not always just the bad guy; sometimes they just want to know you better and to understand you; especially in the difficult teen years when so much is available; sex, drugs, gangs whatever.
I would talk to her and be honest! If your mom is asking you about sex; then she probably is concerned. I would start by telling her off the bat that you want to talk to her about sex or whatever it is; but that you will only talk if she listens...start rational by letting her know how you feel then conversation will be easier.
Also understand where you mother is coming from. I bet she loves you and doesn't want you to be a teenage mother or get a horrible disease like HIV. She probably wants the best for you and to experience these things in a safe loving way; not just to do them and get it over with and risk getting hurt.
Be thankful you have a loving mother in your life that wants to talk to you!
2006-06-20 10:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by hotmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confused about what?!! I think you need to sit down and think about what you are really doing! Do you want to have kids at such a youg age? or get STD's?! Ya, I know that they say "You can have safe sex, but that is BULL!! I don't care how safe you think that you are, the only safe sex is in a marrege! No, I am not a prude, but just smart. Why give up something (your Life) to some guy who does not really love you and he will dump you like yeasterday's lunch?! that is not love!
2006-06-20 10:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by jroc_tm_2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think a "growing teen" NEEDS to experience sex, or things like it. That just seems to be whats going on these days. Obviously if there is someone you like and what not it is different. But nobody, especially at 14, NEEDS to experience sex. Just use your head, and don't do it just because you think you should.
2006-06-20 09:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋