I'm a confident guy and have many succesful dates, but some women make excuses instead of telling the truth, and i feel that is an insult to my intelligence.
2006-06-20 09:48:56 · 30 answers · asked by Vinyleyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and yes my peter works, that's not the issue, that's dealt with up front :-)
2006-06-20 09:54:20 · update #1
I am not that way, but I think some women do not understand that you would prefer the truth VS a lame excuse or brushoff. Personally, I dont consider a wheelchair an issue- and I dont like those who do. You may have a need for a wheelchair, but your mind and heart appear to be working wonderfully. Good Luck and hey- If those women cannot appreciate you because of your chair, then the were never good enough for you in the 1st place!
2006-06-20 09:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by C H 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because they've never been in a situation like that before.
Take it from me, I dated a man in a wheelchair for a year, it was so much fun! But honestly it was so hard for me and I knew what I was getting into but at the time I was 20, and he needed a lot of assistance. I loved him truly did but things just did not work out. Sounds like you are a great guy and if these women that you are going out with are going to be like that then obviously they are not for you! I feel like there are many people out that can insult anyones intelligence, yet it is up to you to just let it go. Don't waste time on someone like that - you deserve someone that will love you for who you are and all that jazz - don't lower any standards... she'll come along soon enough.
2006-06-20 09:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by love earth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you a question. In the same situation if a woman told you that she was Large, MOST men immediately loose interest and miss out on some really great people. You like what you like. So does everyone else. People make excuses to keep from hurting others feelings.
It is a wise person who looks on the inside. Don't miss those really special friendships that come your way just because the person is not "perfect". Got news for you...Neither are you!
2006-06-20 10:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by jomama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women just don't have the courage to say they wouldn't date a man in a wheelchair. I think that at times we don't want to hurt the man's feelings -- but we underestimate his intelligence. I think that any woman who isn't open minded enough to date a nice guy in a wheel chair isn't worth your concern. There are many women out there who would look at your character instead. Besides, I've noticed that men in wheelchairs have amazing arms. Good luck in the future.
2006-06-20 09:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by kissy972001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is an insult to your intelligence. I think some women would feel like they didn't want to hurt your feelings and probably don't realise it's worse not to be straight with someone. It's good that you're confident don't let stupid people like that bother you. If it make you feel any better the women that make up the excuses will probably go over it in their minds and feel bad about it after!
2006-06-20 09:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an insult. They're putting more emphasis on that wheelchair than they are on the person in it. My opinion is so what if someone is in a w/c, that doesn't make them any less of a person. I could care less about a w/c, the person is far more important. People that are shallow like that better be careful. They never know what life holds and some day they could find themselves in a w/c. Life has no guarantees about anything.
2006-06-20 09:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They think differently. They are all about "not hurting your feelings". They are trying to make it better. Or they just don't want to face up to the truth. How would you feel about having to be honest about that to someone's face? "Yeah, you're nice and all, but you're in a wheelchair." It's not exactly something I would want to have to say. It's not an insult to your intelligence. It is an insult to their confidence.
2006-06-20 09:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would feel like they were insulting my intelligence, too. I would think "Do these women think that just because I am physically handicapped that I cant see through them amd that I dont see that they are judging me on my appearance?" You know what...forget them. You should want to be with someone honest anyway. Some people are just to insecure to be up front. It's a good thing that you are not like that!
2006-06-20 09:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is insulting to your intelligence and if they don't want to be with you then they are battling their own insecurities. I've never dated a man in a wheelchair before, but I wouldn't let the fact that he's on wheels deter me. If a man has no integrity it matters not whether he's standing or sitting.
2006-06-20 09:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by ·!¦[·ÐarrÁ·]¦!· 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are these blind dates? Why do the women go on a first date with you if they know you're in a wheelchair but then it's a problem before the second date? Are they the only one's being dishonest?
This shows that they are shallow people if they won't look past your physical aspects, but perhaps you aren't completely honest with them before the first date, yourself?
2006-06-20 09:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋