Why does being a teen have to suck?

Question

I'm going to turn 14 soon. But now, I get mad when someone even looks at me. I totally freak out because no one will leave me alone. No, I'm not mentally ill or anything. I hate growing up. It sucks butt. Yes, I'm a girl. And, my mom has a 6th month old baby and people think he's mine. I get so pissed at people for thinking that!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, I started my period when I was 11!!! Not 13!!!!!!!!!

I'm mad about people thinking that he's my baby because it make me think. It's not a good thing to have people think you would be in bed at 13!!!

Answer 1

it sux for everyone
ill be turning 14 on july 2nd and... well i just hate life period
im a goth/emo chic and i just dnt care wat ppl think
yea i do alot of stupid stuff but its just who i am... ya know??
i dnt care wat anyone thinx and i sure as hell dont care about wat stupid popular preps think... a.s.s.w.h.o.l.e.s...... i just dnt get y ppl make other ppl's lives so hard
i feel u
luv jess
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Answer 2

Honey you need to take a deep breath, because everything has to change sooner or later. And yes with change it is scary but life is what you make it. I feel like you sometimes too and guess what I'm 40 years old. I gather that you were an only child until recently and now you have a brother. Do you think maybe he doesn't feel welcome because you are not being the sweet sister that he wants to be around. Grow up Honey there are a lot of teenagers with real problems I'm not saying I don't think you don't have a problem maybe you are just spoiled and all the attention is taken away from you now. If you want it back love yourself and grow up to be a mature young person and people will see that and most definitely will see that a mature young person is certainly smart enough not to have a baby.

Answer 3

Roxy, I'm assuming that you are physically developed like a brick house and therefore get unwanted attention. I know how it feels, as a twelve year old I was constantly approached. I used to wish I'd get run over by a truck so that I'd be maimed and have some peace of mind.

If I knew then what I know now I'd have approached the situation a lot differently. Be very careful Roxy, you in definite danger of getting raped, since you do not now have the interest in boys that they have in you. Nowadays they call themselves running a train on poor unsuspecting girls like you. They could snatch your purse or something they know you'll give chase for and when you pursue, tackle you and drag you into a car, take you to a remote area and 10-15 boys have their way with you. Be careful.

Try not to be in a vulnerable situation where you can be snatched. I'm not trying to scare you but when people start noticing to the point where you feel like you're being sweated, it is usually not long afterward that someone decides to take what you are not offering. When you become older, you'll know how to use your assets in a manner that is befitting a young lady without feeling awkward or stressed.

Just remember, you get more respect by not joining the crowd than you do by being a following. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Being a teen sucks because you feel like you are all grown up. It may just be because girls mature faster that you don't hear that complaint as much from boys. But in reality being a teen doesn't suck. It really only starts getting sucky when you are an adult and have to live with your choices/consequences from the past and on an ongoing daily basis. Other wise life when you choose to look at it from a perspective of my glass is half full instead of always half empty...is pretty groovy! Enjoy being a teenager, old age will be here before you know it.

Answer 5

I hear you. I was once your age and I hope I can give you some comfort. Teen years are hard. They're a time when we're trying to find ourselves and find the things we like. Are there any hobbies or activities you have that make you happy? If not, this might help you be less angry. You could even channel that into martial arts or something to take out your aggression. But getting mad when people just look at you...something else has to be going on there with you or you're leaving something out. Try talking to your mom or your father, or another trusted adult about your anger. Perhaps they can help you work through it and get to the root of what's making you so angry.

As for random clods assuming your baby sibling is yours and not your mother's, well, no matter how old you get, someone is going to say something to annoy you. I always get the, "so, when are you getting married?" question, even from complete strangers when I'm with my boyfriend. It's nobody's business. You can't stop them from asking questions that aren't their business, but instead of getting angry, change your reaction. You can have a lot of fun with this actually. Just come up with a snappy retort to these people's nosy inquiries. Like, "Yeah, he's/she's my 5th child! He/she's almost cute enough to keep this time."

One more thing...please hear me when I say this...do NOT be in a rush to grow up. I repeat...do NOT be in a rush to grow up. Yes, sometimes it's sucky to be a kid. People decide things for you and you have to live by your parents' rules and come home when they say, but when you're an adult, you've got to take care of yourself and make a living on your own. And you need to make more than you'd make working part time in the mall. The grass isn't always greener. I don't get summers off anymore. I'm lucky if I get to take a week off at my job. Enjoy your youth while you can. Besides, when you're my age, you get to give kids a lot of grief. ;) Take care and good luck!

Answer 6

EVERYTHING you're going through is NORMAL. There's nothing wrong with you at all. Everyone your age is going through lots of the same feelings you are. Congratulations on your new little brother....I'll assume he's got a different father than you do, so it's hard for you to imagine your mother having a husband and baby, isn't it? Maybe even embarressing? You're going through one of the hardest ages ever in your life, but it WILL go away! You haven't done anything wrong. Try getting close to your little brother if you can....you'll be very special and important to him. He'll look up to you and you can help him when he gets to be your age because you'll understand how it feels. Put your chin up in the air and ignore mean people who tease you about your brother or anything else. Bring your REAL friends over and let them hold him and play with him so that they understand how cute he is, and what it means to be a big sister. They will love it. Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 7

Don't get pissed. There are so many young mothers. Some are 12 and even younger. Just because your mom doesn't know how to stop having children you shouldn't let that get you down. Stop being afraid of getting older it will be a lot easier than you think. The teen years are the hardest years you will ever have imagine how strong you will be after going thru these years.

Answer 8

Welcome to life honey. A lot of this will go away as you grow up like everyone does. You'll get comfortable being you, and discovering who "you" are. I agree, it sucks growing up. I'm 26 and I wish a lot that I was all of about 8 or younger. Don't worry about the people that think your new sibling is yours they are stupid because they don't consider that you would have been 12 at the time of conception. It just means you probably look older so people think you are possibly 16 at least.
Good luck. You'll get through it.

Answer 9

Do you hate growing up or just life in general? I think you need more excitement in your life. Things that would make you want the next day to come as soon as possible. I'm not talking about a boyfriend or anything to do with that. I'm talking about traveling, learning about new things, getting out there and living. Most of us pass through this world as if we were dead. We have the opportunity to live and all we do is sit around and mope. Oh...and forget about him. He's not worth you hating life over him.

Answer 10

Yes, being a teen wasn't easy either.

Realizing that from the moment you get up in the morning, to the moment you fall asleep that same night, somebody else is controlling your every move and you have no say so in the matter.

On a positive note, maturing can be fun too. Your slowly moving towards making your own decisions, being with the people that you choose to be with, enjoying your interests that you have in life with those who also share the same with you. Not having to be forcefed who you hang out with, what you eat, what you do for fun and what you say to people can make anyone upset.

I understand. I've been through that and it does get better.

First thing you have to do is make a decision. Decide one thing without anyone else's influence. Make a choice totally on your own, and follow through with your decision. Take responsibility for anything that you decide and learn from each and every decision you make for yourself, without anyone else's influence.

If you need help , then yes, it is ok to ask somebody that you trust. But the most important thing here is to make decisions for yourself!

Answer 11

At your age there are several issues. I will cover a few. The advice I have for you is this: it gets better.

13-17 is a very rough period in most people's life. Your hormones are raging, your body and mind are changing. In many respects you have the physical capabilities of an adult, but in our society you have none of the rights, power, or privileges.

Just remember this, adults you trust have alot of wisdom. They have done it all before. Try to listen to them sometimes. Also, as a teenager, I needed quite a bit of time alone, to myself, to contemplate and think. You need to find a quiet place to do the same for a period of time each day. For me it was the basketball court behind my house. Maybe for you it is your room, or the backyard, or anywhere safe.

Good luck to you, and don't despair. Life is good and you have alot to live for!