what do i do when..?

Question

my ex-boyfriend who is nonchristian...think's i cheat. If i put a bible verse from PETER in my profile, he'll say im cheating cause i put a guy in my profile. If i talk to a guy, he calls me a S*L*U*T/cheater cause i talked to a guy. Im not a ,S*L*U*T im sexually pure. Im a virgin, waiting for marriage, havn't done anything sexual.

He blames everything on me...what do i say to him, when he calls me a /S*L*U*Tcheater. and says he can get better than me.

Christ has helped me through this, and i love him for everything hes done for me.

Especially all of you all!

Do you think he thinks he can get better, or does he realize he cant, but hes just saying to get me upset> Why do emotionally abusive guys do this?

Answer 1

Girl, no one deserves that kind of abuse!
He definitely doesn't think he can get better, some guys like to put their g.f. down b/c it makes them think that they can't get any better and then he hopes you won't leave him b/c of it. B/c if he thinks you're a s.l.u.t, then hopefully you'll think that every guy thinks you're a s.l.u.t. for what you're doing. Or something like that.
Being a Christian myself, you have to be careful on who you date, try dating another Christian. Relationships are already hard enough, if you at least have the same morals it will make it that much easier.
You deserve better!

Answer 2

First of don't let no man talk to you that way honey nobody deserves to sit around and be talked to that way and next time he tells you he can do better tell his sorry A$$ no I don't think you can because I'm the best you will ever have no woman is going to want a man that has to talk to me the way you do to make himself feel big or macho, So you go ahead and try to find some one else because I 'm Done I deserve better than you I can do better than you. Tell him you only stayed with him because you felt sorry for him you didn't want him to be all alone but he has verbally abused you enough and you don't have to take it you are better than that and you are gonna go find better wish him luck, leave , hang up the phone or whatever just be strong and for you sake don't ever take this man back unless he gets help. Because he really needs it please be care full he sounds like a woman beater and you need to stay as far away from that as possible don't stick around to find out if he has a temper that may just explode like a time bomb. Good luck honey and please take care of yourself cause this guy doesn't sound to sane he maybe a time bomb waiting to go off. so leave him over the phone don't do it alone with him that may not be to wise if you have to do it to his face make sure you are a place where there are people around so he don't try to hurt you.

Answer 3

Girl.. wake up and smell the bacon cooking.. get the hell out of that relationship.... there are guys out there a lot better than this guy... there's no reason why he should call you a slut and he has no right to call you a slut.... if.. IF he's so damn religious.. maybe he needs to spend some time reading a few passages in the bible and learn some life lessons of his own.

Dump him.. find a nice guy that will treat you right.. the way you want to be treated.. the way you'd like to be treated.. and the way you deserve to be treated. Put this piece of trash at the curb and let the Lord's trash collectors take him to his rightful place.. the dump!

Answer 4

You say he's your ex-boyfriend? How is this an issue then? You shouldn't care what he thinks. You seem to be here looking for reassurance that you're not a cheater or a slut of any kind. And here you go: you are NOT either of those things. Stick with your buddy JC...he'll take good care of you and when the time is right, you'll meet a man who will value you and your purity and treat you in the wonderful way that you deserve to be.

Answer 5

Well, first of all, he is your EX for a reason. You and God know the truth and that is all that matters. It sounds to me that your ex is a very jealous person and is trying to bring you down. I would ignore him and continue on your relationship first with GOD and let HIM bring you someone that is truly worthy of you. God says not to be unequally yoked and from first hand experience there is a reason. I was married to a person of a different religion and now we are divorced. Make sure the next person you date not only believes in God as you do, but will also respect your decision to stay a sexually pure until marriage.

Answer 6

i think that you have to show this guy christ so he can see the true and completely trusting love, but if your not quite ready to take that jump, maybe it is time to let go. He isn't ready to date you, or even marry you, if he still harbors doubts about your truthfulness. Christ will always be there to comfort you, and if you look hard you can see the ways he has blessed you. This may either be a trial, where you hve to reject someone you love for christ, or a chance to share God's love with another person you hold dear. Use your judgement, and keep your heart open for the Lord's guidance. My head says you should let this guy go.

Best of Luck

Answer 7

I think that anybody that calls you names and just says nasty things about anybody has self esteem issues.They see someone that they think is doing better or has their **** really together and they look at them selves and find their life lacking.So what they do to try to make them selves feel better is bring someone else down.It doesn't even have to be,and in most cases isn't,the person they see as the better person that they abuse.It's like someone said,these people are cowards and they are going to abuse someone they see as weaker than they are.This guy who is abusing you sees you as weak.You really got to show him you are not weak,you have to call him on this **** that he's spouting and stand-up for yourself.If you don't it will just go on and on.Its got to be done face to face and you can not show fear.If you are afraid have a friend watch your back for you and do it in a pubic place.Remember "God helps those who helps themselves".

Answer 8

You shouldn't ask yourself why is he the way he is. You should be asking yourself why you put up with it. You guys apparently don't see eye to eye on many things Obviously you aren't compatible. I think you should leave the whole situation behind you and try to find somebody who at least believes in God since that is of great importance to you. Best of luck.

Answer 9

I think u really need 2 move on... any guy who calls u out of your name really needs 2 be let go..trust me!!! but he is a coward and personally i think u deserve better!!!

Answer 10

i think he doesnt trust u enough and hes being very overprotective. and also if hes ur ex-bf y do u still care? i mean u guys broke up already. and dont let him bring u down cuz hes just being a jerk. u deserve better