2006-06-20 09:08:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It isn't easy but you have to realize that a life without love is not really much of a life, and the only way to fully love is to commit and open your heart fully. We all get hurt by others by doing this but at the same time at least we are willing to love and be loved fully. Remember, each relationship is unique and you are only giving those past relationships added power by dragging your bad feelings from them into a current relationship.
2006-06-20 09:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its easy for other people to say get over it when they have not been through it. I have been through the same thing but I refuse to put my life on hold because the ***-hole I was in a relationship with didn't know what he had. I don't know your situation but either way no one can tell you what to do about this because everyone has diferent experiences of being hurt. I have been hurt but it may not be the same way you have. I'm not going to send you some long *** email trying to criticize you but I suggest that you follow your heart and pray to God and ask for guidance. Also never go into relationships with baggage from a old one because it will ruin your future chances of happines. Think about this does the person your with now treat you kind and give you respect? Do you feel special with this person when you are together? I think you will have your answer. God Bless You and keeep your head up.
2006-06-20 16:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it that you have been hurt,i know what that feels like,but first off you have to go with blind faith.Just because you met a few bad apples in a bunch,doesn't mean that they are all bad,so therefore you can't judge them from the ones you've had.Every person is their own individual with different thoughts and feelings.Just like any other thing,you fall off a horse,you get right back on,you get hurt learning to ride a bike,but you conquer the fear and get back on,it's no different than a relationship,you've had a bad one,now go for the right one.We learn from our falls and mistakes,so take the chance,what do you have to lose,but being afraid and alone,and i know you don't want that,so start getting back into the dating field,just use precautions,don't just jump on the first hello.Which i know your not,just a figure of speech of saying be selective this time in your choosing.Good Luck to you,hope your wishes come true!
2006-06-20 16:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about the trust that you have in the person that you are with. But when you have been hurt so many times that trust don't seem much to you any more. You think in your mind that everybody is the same. You just got to keep your guard up and try not to trust just anybody, especially, when comes to your heart. It takes time for you to commit again, but try not to rush things. Take it slow and see how the other person is with and with other people around you. You'll see if he is the right one or not.
2006-06-20 16:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by dlbaca7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much times you get over it, you will get in a relationship no matter what. I have been cheated on and lied to and i just said to myself that getting hurt from these guys is making stronger and more mature in and out of a relationship. If you could handle being hurt, then you could handle anything that life throws at you.
2006-06-20 16:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know what??? U really can't just get over it!!!! I have the same problem.... EXTREEMELY BAD!!.. right now im in my first real relationship since i was with my sons father..I think the only reason I am sticking with it is becuase I found the right man........ He knows all of my issues and basically takes care of me in every wich way I need. Its kinda like if U find one that can deal with you 100% keep em because they surlly Love you!
2006-06-20 16:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by yoshi_20_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well getting hurt is what love is all about. many people get hurt from relationships everyday. but thats just the risks we take to fing that special person to spend our lives with. so just live, learn and get a great guy. lol dont be afraid this person could just be the one. good luck
2006-06-20 16:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back on your feet & get into the game. Thats the only way. These new people are not your ex's. Learn from your last relationship and don't make the same mistakes in your future. Tats why its called dating.
2006-06-20 16:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by menice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly. You have to trust someone to open your heart again after you've been hurt and trust takes time. And keep reminding yourself that someone who is worth it will give you the time you need.
2006-06-20 16:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by CF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont.
You do what I do, and you live with the person, without any expectattion of marraige. To many legal obligations.
2006-06-20 16:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋