2006-06-20 09:07:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only way you will get over the fear of commitment is when you meet the right guy - and you will just know that he is right and you will have to marry him. That's what happened to me - I dated all these guys and I wouldn't commit to any of them - no way, no how - and then 3 years ago I met my hubby and the rest is history. I always thought I just wasn't cut out for marriage - that I just preferred to date around - but that's not true and it will be the same for you.
2006-06-21 00:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt so many times... maybe your picking the wrong people to commit to or committing for the wrong reasons. Just dont rush into anything. If the time and the person is right then do it. If it doesnt work out then make sure you learn something from it, use that information and move on. You gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you find the right one, unfortunately!!!
2006-06-20 16:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what you have to do is think about hte times you've been hurt. Then think about the new guy. Are there any comparisons? Why would you think about committing to the new guy if there are any comparisons?
It all comes down to trust. Do you trust this guy? Would you trust him with your life, your kids, or your most sacred possession?
Is this a guy who makes the "right" choices? Who knows the diff between wrong and right? Who not only knows the diff but also acts on that knowledge?
I guess my point is that if you are that concerned about trusting someone, perhaps there is a reason they don't deserve to bet trusted. If not, then they DO deserve your trust. They haven't broken it and until they do, you need to trust in order to bring your relationship to the next level.
The worst thing about trust is that it involves trust. You have to take a leap of faith, regardless of how many times you've been hurt before (and we all have!) because you don't know about THIS guy until you take that leap.
I guess my advice is to take a step back, look at how he has treated you, how he has treated your friends and kids (if you have any) and family, how he approaches life (job, family, friends of his own). Based on that information, you should be able to make a decent decision. If you need more help, email me the details, I'll be happy to tell you if he's a nice guy or a dirtbag!
2006-06-20 16:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been trying to figure out that same thing. I guess u have to take a chance with someone, and hope that u dont get hurt. Better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all. Dont give up no matter how many times u get hurt. U will find someone who will appreciate u, and not just out to hurt and use u. Dont give it up to no body until ur married ( even if ur not a virgin, stop having sex with these losers), and u will see who really wants to be with u and not just out to use u. I have eliminated plenty of bad men by being abstintent. Trust me, it works.
2006-06-20 16:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by judyju2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that doesn't come overnight. everyday you are with the right person it should get a little easier. take things one day at a time and one day when your not even thinking about it you will realize the fear is gone. Let things just happen and it will (if hes truely the one) Best of Luck!
2006-06-20 16:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like me. Its not something that you get over, its just something that you have to let go of and put behind you. My boyfriend really helped me with that (but then he was attracted to me even though my demeanor said back off) and allowed me to see that I could not and had to stop blaming all men for what a few men had done. He did not give up on me until I was able to see that he was different.
I hope that you find somebody like him.
2006-06-21 14:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your soul mate then you have nothing to worry about and your heart will know that....when you are with someone and you dont feel so hurt then that is most likely your sould mate.
2006-06-20 17:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just commit to yourself and the hell with everyone else!
2006-06-27 15:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no instant way to just get over it.
Takes time, hearts have to heal.
Besides anyone should wait if they truly love you.
=)
2006-06-20 16:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Carley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRAY and FAST
2006-06-26 16:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by Devastating 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋