he be having gurls call his phone all the time and they be on the computer chatting. what should i do?
2006-06-20 08:55:44 · 46 answers · asked by pink_panther_maxine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would talk to him about it then if nothing changes you break up with him to show him your not going to put up with it!!
2006-06-20 08:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
Neither of those examples, sounds like cheating.
Before you accuse someone of cheating, you better be sure that you and your boyfriend have the same understanding as to what cheating is.
If you are calling him your boyfriend, I will assume that you have gone out a few times.
Chatting on the computer is what people do with their spare time, and sometimes its a conversation between a man and a woman. With that said, it doesnt mean that they are talking about going out together. They could also be talking about relationship issues just as you are right now.
If your boyfriend has a phone, you must expect him to receive calls from other people. And some of those people may be female. That doesnt mean that he is trying to leave you, or that the woman that is on the phone with him, is trying to steal him away from you. Stop thinking the worst of people, and only thinking about yourself.
Also, have you had the talk with your boyfriend?
If you dont know what this means then you have no business being in a relationship.
Do you know the difference between dating and a relationship is?
And I dont mean sex.
Only after the two of you have dated for a while, and then sat down and discussed being exclusive with each other, will you be able to say you are in a relationship. That doesnt mean that he wont speak to other women since about half the population in this world is women.
If you are in a relationship and he is either dating or having sex with other women, then he is cheating on you.
You need to confront him, find out why, and digure out together where your relationship went wrong. Then make plans to fix it.
If you dont discuss it then it wont get fixed and you wont stay together.
2006-06-20 09:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think more of yourself and stand up for what you believe in and dump this guy.Move on to a guy that will show you nothing but respect and that will be faithful in all aspects you are wanting in a guy.He has hurt you,that's obvious,but if you don't dump him you are going to be the one that is hurting yourself,you are robbing yourself of happiness,this guy doesn't love you,or there would be no talk of him even cheating on you,and once a cheat always a cheat.No One needs or deserves to be treated like they just don't matter!Don't stand for it,love yourself enough to walk away and leave the dust off your prints.He doesn't deserve you.So i hope you find the strength to do the right thing here,cause if you allow yourself to take it,you will keep taken it,which i am sure your closest friends has probably already told you about their feelings towards this whole issue.Listen to them! I wish you the best and Good Luck to you!
2006-06-20 09:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start hanging out with YOUR friends more often and get him off your mind - there's a whole world out there full of fun, don't let this guy bring you down. If he's not cheating, then he will notice your not waiting on him and he'll understand your feelings and stop with the phone and computer stuff.... but say he's cheating, then he won't even notice your gone!
2006-06-20 09:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it first tell him that it bothers you and that it hurts you for him to be calling other woman and for woman to be calling him. I tell you this if you are snooping and found this out he will ask for proof that he is talking and chatting with other woman so have proof. Just talk to him tell him how you feel about it and let him know that you deserve to be in a faithful relationship and if he is thinking about or wants to see other woman to come clean now so you can end it now because let me tell you this is the first sign that maybe he is looking for excitment he isn't getting at home. Plus chatting is ok but meeting and talking to other woman is a whole different ball park just watch out and be careful.
2006-06-20 08:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's bad news he's cheating on you, but there's good news...you don't have to put up with it. It's so simple. Leave him. Don't be afraid to be on your own. You can do it, and you need to do it. Stand up for yourself and leave, don't take him back at all. You'll then be free to find someone who will love you and respect you. There are plenty of decent men out there who won't cheat. Find one of them because this creep doesn't deserve you. Good luck!
2006-06-20 09:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sigh. Dump him. I've been through this. I caught him and he apologized, of course, but I dumped him anyway. However, he showed me he was sorry for seven monthes so I took him back. You sound like you are younger than me, however, I used to say dump his stupid a@@ but now at this point in my life ther are often two sides to every story...see what his is. Although from this it sounds like hes a jerk. I'd get rid of this one.
2006-06-20 08:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see what is up with urself if there is some thing missing in u
may be u 'v to renew the relation
give him a break & be wise
PLS tell me the result ,Regard: Medhat
ATT: may be his ur life love & un gonna lose it for ever
2006-06-20 09:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by ANUBIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chatting online is ok and so is the phone as long as he has his limits but if its hours of conversating or ditching you for them then theres something going on. if my boyfriend was cheating on me ohhhhhhhhhhh he would get it i swear i would grap his balls and make him suffer so much.
2006-06-20 08:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..... if you ask him he will probably deny it. So if you love him tell him you think he's cheating and see what he says. If you don't want to end up hurt then tell him it's over wish I had better to say
2006-06-20 08:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Krazy In Kentucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to be disrespected in what should be a loving relationship.
Cut him off and don't look back. You deserve better!
2006-06-20 08:59:27 · answer #11 · answered by la_la_la 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋