ok well she's 18 and im 16. Me and her do kinda alot of thingys together. and last night we went to go drop off some film @ the store, and she told me she was wearing a thong, and that kind of scared me, because what if she goes around showing it off to guys?! i kno im not her mom or w/e but she's my sister and i care if she gets hurt?! and she's dating a 22 year old guy that drinks! She's very active in the church (we are LDS) and now she's scaring me like she is lowering her standards :( i told her how i felt and she said that she wears the thong for her benifit, not because she wants to show it off.
and her boyfriend, well she says she french kisses him alot, but she doesnt love him. I just dont want my sister to take it too far and end up getting her feelings crushed, and maybe ending up pregnent (even though she said she would never do that until she's married)
I'm scared for her! what should i do!
2006-06-20 08:52:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like she has a pretty good plan in place. The thong is just a way to step out on her own, out of the shadow of the church and parents. It's a relatively minor thing. If she says she doesn't love him, I doubt she would consider sleeping with him being such an active churchmember. Drinking in and of itself doesn't make him a bad person. It's if he takes it too far that you have to worry about. It sounds like you guys have been raised pretty sheltered (not to say that's bad). A few little rebellious things are okay and she's 18. It's time for her to start exploring her life and herself as a person. Just be supportive of her good habits and help her find positive ways to express herself and her new found desires for independence. Let her have a little fun. She sounds very responsible.
2006-06-20 09:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You are her sister, not her mom. She's 18 she can wear whatever kind of underwear she wants. When I was her age (not that long ago - I'm 20) I was pretty wild - did a lot of drugs and partying, but it's probably just a stage she's going through. If my sister had tried to tell me how to live my life, I would have been really angry with her. I knew she was concerned, but she never really did anything about it, which is good, because if she had, I don't think I would still be speaking to her today.
2006-06-20 15:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard for you, but you have let your sister live her own life. You did the right thing by showing concern, but she is legally an adult. She can do pretty much whatever she wants that isn't against the law. If things do go badly in the future, just be there for her. You are her sister, you are the should she can cry on. Don't throw up every mistake she has made or tell her "I told you so" everybody messes up. Just be there if she does.
2006-06-20 16:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by just_a_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me I have 5 sisters! Just keep the line of communication open. As long as she has you to talk to, withour you being judgemental! She may see something in this guy that other's don't, she may even be able to bring him to God. And that's what we are here for. We can't judge people and push them away because they are different, no one besides Jesus is perfect! Give the guy a chance and just make sure your sister stays involved in church and invites him along! Always love her and Always be proud of her, no matter what. I lost one of my sisters when she was 16 and I wish I had been there for her more and told her how proud of her I was. So just be there!
2006-06-20 17:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by mandisue2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister knows what she is doing is wrong, that's why she told you what was on the film. If she was truly feeling ok with what she is doing, your sister would not have mentioned it.
If she said she wears the thong for her benefit, why does she need to photograph it?
Tell her if she gives that picture a way, you will press charges against her for trafficking pornography.
Tell your parents what your sister is up to.
2006-06-20 16:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like your sister knows what she is doing. Its alright to worry about her because you are her sister. Besides she is 18 she should be capable of taking care of herself. And if she said she would never do anything like that till she is married just believe her. Just tell her how you feel if you say you guys are that close she should at least take your feelings into some consideration. Good Luck
2006-06-20 15:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by localgirl420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am LDS also, so I can see why you are so concerned for your sister. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to express your love for her. I think she knows what is right and what she should be doing. You are not her mom, but you can still help her out by giving your advice. You may want to find a talk by Elder Holland entitled, souls, symbols, and sacraments. Anyway, I hope this helps. I will be praying for you.
2006-06-20 15:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ols 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I dont see any benefits of using a thong for yourself. But that is her decision. I understand that you are worried, but she is 18 and can legally date a guy who is 22. She will need to experience things on her own, she knows that you care for her and are worried, this in itself might help keep her from doing something stupid.
2006-06-20 15:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why your over reacting, your LDS. Each you us has their own life to live, we may be worried about our family and people we love but in this case your sister hasnt gone that far. There are girls as young as you that have been doing what your sister has been doing. So i dont think you have to worry now. But just keep talking to her and tell her that this worries you. Hopefully she will take the hint.
2006-06-20 15:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Lar-Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my aunt is 2 yrs older than me so were close like you and your sister. She wears a thong and i worried at first but tell her to be careful and that you only want to make sure shes okay just dont sound like her mom Cause thats not what she needs.
2006-06-20 15:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋