My boyfriend and I have decided to "wait until marrige". Neither of us are virgins, but I want to respect him and his spiritual needs. He has agreed to "everything, but penetration" which confuses me. I am also trying to grow in my Christianity. For a 30-something WOMAN this is really tough! Where can I find in the bible the definition of sexual impurity? Isn't mutual mastubation a sin as well? I'm trying so hard to understand why one is ok and not the other. Just can't quite bring myself to ask him...hmmm?!
2006-06-20 08:48:24 · 18 answers · asked by midori_margarita 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The bible is full of "facts" and "rules" that are really just personal interpretations.
But i think the bible mentions any sort of hanky-panky before marriage is a sin.
But in the end, it's supposed to be about 'loving' the one you love, not 'loving' the one you're married to.
2006-06-20 08:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Waiting until marriage is a stupid idea. Neither of you are virgins so you have already 'sinned.' You can't get back purity or virginity. Your boyfriends everything but penetration concept is also total BS. Everything but penetration is still a sin in the eyes of a true Christian.
Basically you should seriously re-consider your relationship with him. Already he is trying to control things and at the same time he is inventing his own version of religion that gets him everything he wants, despite the reality being he is being a total hypocrite.
What if you get married and he sucks in bed. Do you really want to live the rest of your life with this controlling hypocrite that cannot satisfy you sexually? RUN!
2006-06-20 08:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Bingalee said, in Australia this is able to be noticeable as a sexual offence. Lamentably, the term "sexual assault" is an umbrella time period for a lot of unique types of assault of a sexual nature. Most persons tend to consider of a "sexual assault" as a rape and that just is not the case. I can't say that I've ever heard of a school being so militant about anything like this however with sexual assault taking place extra frequently to more youthful victims i assume the university have got to be visible to be proactive. @Nick: that is absurd to charge 5 12 months olds with a "sexual harassment" offence. It baffles me how the police may also show the intent of the child! Talk about political correctness long past mad.
2016-08-08 22:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Bingalee suggested, in Australia this will be considered as a sexual offence. regrettably, the time period "sexual attack" is an umbrella time period for most differing sorts of attack of a sexual nature. maximum human beings have a tendency to imagine of a "sexual attack" as a rape and that in simple terms isn't the case. i am going to't say that i have ever heard of a college being so militant about some thing like this yet with sexual attack occurring more effective frequently to youthful sufferers i guess the school might want to be considered to be proactive. @Nick: it really is absurd to fee 5 3 hundred and sixty 5 days olds with a "sexual harassment" offence. It baffles me how the police may even prepare the point of the infant! discuss political correctness lengthy gone mad.
2016-11-15 00:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Leviticus Chapter 18, Mathew 5:28
I say that any sexual acts is between husband and wife only, even viewing acts or performing acts by yourself or viewing nudity of anyone but your spouse is a sin.
Although not virgins, a person can become pure again. It is all about repentance. Here's the ABCD's of repenting:
Admit that you have sinned
Be sorry. Ask for forgiveness
Correct the mistake and repair the damage made.
Don't do it again and forsake it
If you do this, God will remember your sins no more.
2006-06-20 08:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by feliscar1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to wait, that means everything, sounds like you are playing games with your decisions.
You are struggling with the same problem of some supposedly celibate priest. Some know it is wrong to have sex, and they assume with a woman-but somehow they can rape a little boy and that is not a sin to them.
What you are doing is the same as the priest.
Sin is sin. that's the end if it.
2006-06-20 08:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the above people have given you very worldly advice.
Since you are a Christian, I would discuss this issue with your Pastor.
If your boyfriend is a Christian, then your Pastor's advice should straighten out his views.
If your boyfriend is not a Christian, you should not be seeing him at all.
If you want to grow in your Christianity....read your Bible. It's has the answers you are looking for.
2006-06-20 09:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Red-dog-luke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,Why can't you use the BRAIN God gave you and and discuss what is acceptable to both of you? I can't believe that you don't know what is right and what is wrong for YOU. Tell me if you and your partner have mutually agreed to masturbation and you are both ok with it....then what the hell is the problem? You are not a child and should know, by now, what is ok and what is not.
2006-06-20 09:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by The Tiki God 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's an idea - stop listening to the law book of a barbarian tribe from 5000 years ago and try living your life in the present. If you want to have sex, have sex. It doesn't make you an evil person.
2006-06-20 08:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you need to wait. It doesn't make sense. Your love is what matters. Sex is one of the most spiritual acts you can share with a person. Why put it off?
2006-06-20 10:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋