I slapped my daughter in the face in public in the middle of a street?

Question

I was pissed off, my 12 year old daughter had been making fun of me all day but then she said the wrong thing at the wrong moment.
I was having an argue with some friends and still my daughter was making fun of me, coping my voice or just being plain disrespectfull, well she drove me to a point i had to give her a good slap in public. There are reasons why a father ends up slaping his daughter i didn't just do it for fun, im not violent but sometimes when my kids pass a certain line i feel that i need to teach them a lesson. Im just a father asking, parents out there what do you think of this? Marco Nocca

Answer 1

If she is disrespectfull is because you haven't earn her respect

Answer 2

I have only slapped once and it was out of a reaction, my daughter bit me, she was two and it wasn't that hard, but she hasn't bit anyone since. I still feel extremely bad about it. I think that you do too and that is why you have tried to justify it. I would like to ask you this, If your daughter was older and a "boyfriend" was to do this to her, even if she was "making fun" of him, how would you feel? I think that it would be best to try to go about it in a different manner next time she starts being disrespectful, you could sure shake her up, first warn her, then by stripping down her room take the TV out, the phone, computer, everything (I-pods, stereo, etc) leave her bed and clothes. When she is home from school, have chores for her, until they are done no free time, she needs to earn things and later on when she learns this lesson she will thank you and it will work far much better than slapping her. Also try not to have disagreements with your friends or any other adults in front of your daughter. Best of luck to the both of you.

Answer 3

Like a few of the others mentioned, I grew up in the 50's and 60's and it was common to receive a smack on the rear in public. Today however even though I see nothing wrong with a slap on the face or rear, there are those who will preach abuse allowing the kids to run rampant. One of my neices mouthed off to her mother. When she was threatened with a spanking, she told her mother she would report her to the police for abuse. State law allows this. Anyway, the mother did nothing until dad came home. My brother-in-law stands about 6'4" and weighed about 200 at the time. He looked at his daughter who mouthed off and said: "If you want to call the cops on me for abuse, then I will (Blank) make it worth going to jail. My neice went to her mom, hugged her and apoligized and has caused VERY LITTLE trouble since.
Don't know if she would have called, but I know he would have spanked the day lights out of her.

Just be careful how hard you slap, but try and take a deep breath and then decide if you still want to slap her. I did with my son and it helped a few times.

Good Luck to you and all parents who are going through this.

It isn't easy

Answer 4

At 12 years old, the problem is probably uncorrectable at this point. She's spoiled goods. And you yourself, while I do agree she needed the whack, have opened yourself up to a visit from DYFUS. In public??? Kids today PRAY for a reason to call the government in and humiliate their parents. Just be ready for the visit, cause I'm sure she knows the number. Proper discipline needs to start from the word go. And if she has no compunctions about making fun of you in public, in front of your friends, it's already far too late to fix this problem. My best recommendation would be to send her away to military school, til she is old enough to be on her own. They could perhaps fix the problem. But that's about it.

Answer 5

Look sometimes you've got to do what you've got to do. Sometimes kids drive you to that point. I don't think that it was intentional that you slapped her but you must be mind full of all the (wonderful) laws they have in place to protect our sometimes bratty disrespectful kids. There have been plenty of times when I have and wanted to knock the hell out of my kids when we were out and they were acting like they were raised in the wild. I just take them in the bathroom and that gets them straight. I believe that as parents were all guilty of that. So just try to keep your cool. Hopefully you daughter has learned her lesson if not remind her who's the boss.

Answer 6

I think people these days are soft and thats why kids act up so much. And kids these days know about social services and throw it in parents faces. When I was a kid my mother didn't have a problem throwing me into walls and ripping my hair out. I turned out just fine. Go on and train your little girl daddy. At least you'll know that she'll know her daddy will kick her @ss if she ends up on a stripper pole-am I right??

Answer 7

If you were her mom, you probably could have gotten away with it ... but as a male in today's hyper-sensitive society, you crossed the line.
You didn't exercise the proper restraint as an adult.
I, too, am a father, and I believe a well-timed spanking on the butt (in the privacy of the home) is an effective tool ... but there are so many busybodies out there now, that you can't be too careful.
Next time, weigh your options, and mete out punishment when you get home.

Answer 8

I can totally sympathize. I think most parents have been where you are more than they would care to admit. I as brought up in a time when physical discipline was the norm, and I for one think it did help me to understand what was appropriate and what wasn't. Today, kids have way too much freedom, and they tend to push way past the boundaries. This is not good, and hopefully they will come to realize this. I just hope it won't be too late for them.

Answer 9

I simply disagree with your reaction. It is never a good thing to use violence towards your kid. This could possibly lead to a possible bad relationship with your daughter.

But her attitude is not a good one either. I would suggest you start teaching her to be more respectful to you by not giving her what she wants if she doesnt listen. ex. No homework, no hang out with friends....or bad grade = lower allowance etc. This will lead to a more constructive way of giving her a lesson.

Answer 10

When I was little, I used to get hit by my parents too, sometimes it would hurt, but in the end, I knew I deserved it...I think it's your fault, however (or your wife's) that you had to hit her for something like that...Why didn't you teach her respect? Just raise them properly and you won't have to go to this stupid website and ask random people for forgiveness...

Answer 11

it's abusive
there is no reason whats so ever to ever slap your child in the face or anywhere else for that matter
you are the adult and should be able to control yourself no matter what your child is doing
you need some therapy