So here it is.. You get married, have kids, and they just grow up and leave your life. They have their own kids, and you're left alone. I am very emotionally attatched to my mom and dad and I can't stand the thought of me just moving on. Does anybody else feel like there is no point?
2006-06-20 08:33:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You don't have to "just move on". Though growing up and leaving your parents' home is an important part of life, you don't have to leave them behind- you could always live close to them and visit often.
2006-06-20 08:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand where you're coming from. I'm really close to my mom also. I've been away at college (only like an hour though) for 5 years and now I'm engaged to be married in September. Even though I'm so excited about moving on I'm sad and nervous about it too. I've talked about this with my fiance and he has agreed that it is ok if we buy a house closer to my parents in about a year (so we will be close when we start having kids). I think this is going to be the best of both worlds. Even though we are an independent couple I will be able to maintain a close relationship with my family. It really helps that my fiance knows how I feel about the situation and that he is so willing to support me. So, don't worry too much, it will all work out! There is a point to moving on and building a family of your own, it gives room for your current relationships to grow deeper and stronger. good luck!
2006-06-21 00:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by weberqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i feel like the point is the love that you give and recieve along they way and then the joy and happiness you would give your parents when they become granny and grampie! I did feel that way for a while and then i saw how happy my niece and nephew made my parents. Then how unhappy my other sister is because her daughter doesn't want children and she will never be a grandmother. Now i have my own and i am so happy he is here. I have never loved anything so much, or been more happy with my husband. No one knows the purpose of life, but the one thing that is certian is the survival and reproduction of a species. Every species on this earth does it. Humans are faced with the problem of why we do it, therefore we have make up our own reasons for our natural behavior. My reason is love!
2006-06-20 08:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow! There's no rule that says you have to abandon your parents when you have your own kids. We see my husband's family frequently because they live nearby, and I'm still very close to my family even though we're scattered all over Texas. Part of being a parent is watching your kids become adults and parents and (hopefully) grandparents. You don't move on, your family just gets a lot bigger!
2006-06-20 09:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can kind of see where you are coming from, but you make it sound like you have to just disappear from their life. I remained very close with my parents, even after I moved 650 miles away, got married and had kids. Your relationship is what you make of it. To be honest, it sounds like you are not quite mature enough to move on to your next phase of life, but sooner or later, we all have to grow up.
2006-06-20 08:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by gwencristel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on doesn't have to mean leaving them behind. People do move out of the house and yet remain close enough to visit any time they choose. It just depends on how you want to live.
2006-06-20 08:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by ebk1974 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
paige - the last thing mom and dad want is for you to be hanging around when you are in your thirties, forties or more.
they want to see you go on with your life, and raise a family of your own.
2006-06-20 08:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by cvy2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did and i moved on and happy now with my man
2006-06-20 08:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋